She keeps giving me the runaround when I ask her out but when she runs into me randomly she doesn’t let go, why?

[Bosky4543]

[laly520]

she might be unsure about her feelings or the direction of the relationship, leading her to hesitate when it comes to making plans or maybe might have fears or reservations about committing to regular dates or a more serious relationship

[Bosky4543]

She has ADHD so there’s a lot of behaviours she displays related to the disorder. I do think your opinion is the most valid so far. I think she’s pulling away so she can get her thoughts in order. I’ll just let her be till she reaches out to me.

[Bosky4543]

P. s. (we are both 20, don’t tell anyone)

[laly520]

give it some time then

[Anonymous]

You are being treated as back-up. Some woman are like this. Find someone healthier.

[Bosky4543]

It’s not like I’m always in the background asking her out. when she tells me she’s busy, I tell her to reach out when she’s more available. She gets back to me 4 or 5 days later with a selfie and when I ask for her availability, she pulls off the same thing again.

[Opinion Owner]

You replied to another answer "She has ADHD" which explains everything.

[RSav4013]

She's probably not sure what she wants. Tell her that you want to take her out but if she isn't interested that's fine but you need to know that you can move on and talk to other people.

[Bosky4543]

I don’t need closure to move on and I don’t really want to rush her. If she isn’t sure, then I think she needs space and time. We are not exclusive or anything so I’m still talking to other people.

[OtterMan68]

because she can, and you keep chasing

[Bosky4543]

I’ve only asked her out twice and got the runaround, it’s not like I just ask her out of the blue either. She reaches out to me with a selfie and I converse back and forth about 3 times and ask her out. She says she’s busy so I tell her to get back to me when she’s free. She sends me a snap 5 days later and I do the same thing but get the busy text again. I decided to stop asking even when she reaches out.

[OtterMan68]

next time tell her to pick the date, time, and place. Leave it up to her, and if she flakes out again then asks to get together again say "why, so you can flake out and cancel again?"

[In_Trance]

Waste of time

[Bosky4543]

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