Why do most men on dating apps get sexual within a conversation in no time?

Question

Like I find it weird, I start a conversation with a guy which starts off talking about life in general and hobbies

Then in no time they start talking sexual like like they what turns you on etc

Like I find it weird, don’t they realise when u say something sexual without even meeting us, it will make us avoid u even more? It’s like they already know that u would never date them so why not just start talking sexually?
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Yeah but if you say something sexual to a woman that’s only gonna make us avoid u more unless she’s on it

But it’s a put off being desperate like that

ManOnFire · Accepted Answer

So @bobby_bush_eater made a point that I was going to touch on but I'll elaborate a little bit. Most guys know there's always a woman out there who is down to fuck, even if it's only one or two on a dating site. Most women pretend to be about high standards on there when they too are looking for sex but try to see if they can set up a meet up on their terms, under the pretense of looking for a "serious relationship."

Women are usually fine with talking about sex, but again they want that to happen in a way where they have control of the situation and can present it when or how they want so that it doesn't make them look desperate. They don't want a guy to bring it up, they want themselves to be the ones to present it.

aceleon · Accepted Answer

my example will be not tasteful but the best i can came up with is this.

you are like prey to guys, how much do you think a starving predator can resist pouncing on a prey they finally close enough to pounce? most guys are exactly that, living in the borders of starvation if it wasn't for masturbation, do you think rape ratio is high? look at it if we were not able to masturbate, i guarantee you that it would become 8 if it is 2 or 3 now. when you talk them it is basically them getting in the range of crawling.

DreamCrescent · Accepted Answer

what dating app are you using? because some are notorious for hookups

i’ve been on Coffee Meets Bagel and men on there are looking for serious relationships. They tend to talk about interests and careers and 5-year plans

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

These guys are there to find sexual partners. That’s it.

SelfCleaner · Answer

Could be your pictures. Try not to be naked on your pictures or have no pictures at all. If you're fat just post this as your photo

If you're anywhere from 6-10/10, use this profile picture

These pictures are unlikely to get our towers throbbing too hard to allow us to think straight, yet, if you're honest with your pic choice, we'll decide whether we're gonna puke seeing you, or if you're a suitable life partner.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

They don't want to waste time and they're not there for anyone serious. They just want sex immediately and if something else develops after so be it.

It's also so easy to say something like that through a screen. You don't know the person and if they say no or don't respond you'll probably never meet them. It's a degenerate way of going about courtship but it's the time we live in.

For every 25 girls like you who are turned off by that there's 1 girl that says yes. They only need the one girl to say yes to keep the confidence of the cycle. Especially around college aged people

normalice · Answer

Most men are only interested in women who want an immediate hookup and they imagine such women are receptive to talking about sex right away. If that scares off the women who are not interested in an immediate hookup then that just saves everyone involved some time.

Purpleronnie · Answer

It’s plain and simply the nature of the internet and hiding behind anonymity. I truly beleive the supposed men majority on there are just not interested in relationships at all. Their porn saturated minds are let loose and drop down to the lowest basic instinct. Open your eyes , apps are for hookups and meaningless physical contact , a meat market for the miscreants and un-evolved. The real men the man you actually need , you have to look harder to find them.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

Because they know that women play games. They SAY they're not into hookups and want a serious relationship, but that all changes really quickly depending on how the guy looks or what he says, so guys nowadays don't shoot for relationships because women have changed the game, playing the "I'm a nice girl" card all the while being a total slut who hooks up and does friends with benefits "situationships". There aren't many relationship quality women under 30 left.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Men can’t tell the difference between physical and sexual intimacy, and they’re so touch-starved and lonely that they make desperate attempts like what you describe

Vegasrunner · Answer

Sounds like your belief is flawed. Like most woman you're making the mistake of believing that because you don't like something all woman won't like it. Obviously women don't avoid men more when they say something sexual if they did men would just adapt.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Dating apps were made to be hookup apps. Really no point to try to find someone from one of those.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its annoying but it shows their intentions and makes it easier to filter them out of your dating options

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Depends on which dating apps.. But I mean a lot of guys are just horny, and start the conversation and then try to test the waters..

Lynx122 · Answer

Most women don't even answer your messages on dating apps so they're escalating things while you're still responding.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Because most people use dating sites as hookup sites. The casual conversation at the beginning is just a formality so they aren’t dismissed out the gate.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Men don’t date women these days because they want to get married. Men date women these days for sex. Men know marriage only benefits women so why would majority of men date seeking marriage?

IslaTheWitch · Answer

because they don't respect women they contact

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because all they want is sex and can't think beyond that.

daemonBot · Answer

I think it's a small number of guys who are simply super prolific jerks. It only takes a handful, and I'll bet most of them have multiple accounts.

genericname85 · Answer

tell me: what is easier to find out in a person you never met before. if you like them in bed? or if you like their character?

superchan2011 · Answer

it's because that's all their there for. To fond someone to have sex with. Those type of guys aren't looking for a serious relationship.

zagor · Answer

So, wanna do it? Actually the reason those guys are on those apps is likely because they are clueless about how to approach women in RL, and just continue their unsuccessful ways online.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Because most men are sexual predators. They view these sites as an easy way to get laid. I'm sorry but most of us suck. I would love to talk to a woman about all the stuff you listed.

worldscolide · Answer

Because MOST dating apps are intended for hookups. Its why i never got on those. I, before i got married, met women the old fashioned way.

JayBones · Answer

Because that's what we are looking for. Of you aren't down to fuck then I have nothing to talk to you about

David94358 · Answer

Because they are only wanting sex so they are cutting to the Chase.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

It's a wild west and people know what they are signing up for 📝

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Some people just don't have manners the mannerisms and respect I guess

dolemite58 · Answer

That is strange to talk for a long time on a dating app, I’d think it would just be basic stuff to get to know each other then he’d ask to hang out irl kinda quickly.

Anonymous · Answer

The same reason women are so rude and dismissive on dating apps. Out of sight, out of mind. There is no penalty for incorrect behaviour.

Anonymous · Answer

GAG isn’t immune to this either! Many men here are little horny wolves in sheep’s clothing.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t know, and don’t do it. Friendship first.

red324 · Answer

I never did that. I'm more of a let's go on about 3 dates before we get sexual type guy

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve never been on a dating app but that is weird

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

What are these "dating apps" you type of? Sounds more like hook up sites.

Paul09 · Answer

I dont know, I don't do that.. yet women rather go for those guys.

Anonymous · Answer

What's what majority of them is there for... not that irl it's different... block them and irl never talk to them again

Anonymous · Answer

I've found this to be common with women as well honestly. And it always made me uncomfortable. I stopped using dating apps a while back.

rosemilk · Answer

because they are there for sex, not dating

laly520 · Answer

cuz they r there to waste time

sheikalana · Answer

They're desperate.

jahaims · Answer

They want to have sex duh

Akam93 · Answer

Because they have no respect

JHAYES317 · Answer

Because we don’t wanna get friendzoned…

HouseMoat · Answer

Don't use dating apps They're horrible

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason women do

Kristierose · Answer

Because they are still little boys

Slim57 · Answer

Most men and women are only on there to get sexual

guyinterested · Answer

I don't. I. let the woman lead with that.

handsomelad70 · Answer

We're men.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

I blame crack

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