Why do most men on dating apps get sexual within a conversation in no time?

[Anonymous]

Like I find it weird, I start a conversation with a guy which starts off talking about life in general and hobbies

Then in no time they start talking sexual like like they what turns you on etc

Like I find it weird, don’t they realise when u say something sexual without even meeting us, it will make us avoid u even more? It’s like they already know that u would never date them so why not just start talking sexually?
lol

Updates

2 mo

Yeah but if you say something sexual to a woman that’s only gonna make us avoid u more unless she’s on it

But it’s a put off being desperate like that

[ManOnFire]

So @bobby_bush_eater made a point that I was going to touch on but I'll elaborate a little bit. Most guys know there's always a woman out there who is down to fuck, even if it's only one or two on a dating site. Most women pretend to be about high standards on there when they too are looking for sex but try to see if they can set up a meet up on their terms, under the pretense of looking for a "serious relationship."

Women are usually fine with talking about sex, but again they want that to happen in a way where they have control of the situation and can present it when or how they want so that it doesn't make them look desperate. They don't want a guy to bring it up, they want themselves to be the ones to present it.

[aceleon]

my example will be not tasteful but the best i can came up with is this.

you are like prey to guys, how much do you think a starving predator can resist pouncing on a prey they finally close enough to pounce? most guys are exactly that, living in the borders of starvation if it wasn't for masturbation, do you think rape ratio is high? look at it if we were not able to masturbate, i guarantee you that it would become 8 if it is 2 or 3 now. when you talk them it is basically them getting in the range of crawling.

[DreamCrescent]

what dating app are you using? because some are notorious for hookups


i’ve been on Coffee Meets Bagel and men on there are looking for serious relationships. They tend to talk about interests and careers and 5-year plans

[zagor]

How is that? I've given up on dating apps but I was thinking of taking one more shot.

[DreamCrescent]

i liked it. but it’s expensive and i don’t know how useful the free version is. i used the fully paid subscription

profiles are authentic. and there are features like it forces you to make a conversion with a match or the chat closes

only downside for me is privacy features, I’m not sure if it lets you block someone

i’d recommend, honestly. i researched all of them before i chose CMB. many of the people i associate with use Bumble and from what i’ve heard, i wouldn’t try that one

why’d you give up?

[zagor]

I averaged about one date every 80 messages I sent (this was on Match. com) and the ones I did meet in person (about a dozen over a couple years) didn't pan out. Though in a couple cases it was my fault. And it just seemed to be getting worse; on Match a lot of the profiles are set up by free users who never bother to join and thus can't respond even if they wanted to. I think they (Match) do this to make it look like there are a lot of people out there.

[ArrowheadSW]

@DreamCrescent I'd never heard of Coffee Meets Bagel, but it sounds like one that I would consider using. And I have not used a dating app in years! I like the idea of meeting based on interests.

[DreamCrescent]

at least from what i’ve seen on the app so far, there aren’t catfish and no one on there is scamming. there’s your run of the mill people who don’t respond but that’s fine by me.

i see very few that haven’t filled out their profiles whereas on other apps people get away with just putting their name and pic and nothing about them.
and you’re suggested people based on your own filters not just swiping through everyone out there in the whole world. give it a shot. let me know how it compares

[Pinay_ako]

These guys are there to find sexual partners. That’s it.

[SelfCleaner]

Could be your pictures. Try not to be naked on your pictures or have no pictures at all. If you're fat just post this as your photo

PAWG / BBW

If you're anywhere from 6-10/10, use this profile picture

Normal chick

These pictures are unlikely to get our towers throbbing too hard to allow us to think straight, yet, if you're honest with your pic choice, we'll decide whether we're gonna puke seeing you, or if you're a suitable life partner.

[bobby_bush_eater]

They don't want to waste time and they're not there for anyone serious. They just want sex immediately and if something else develops after so be it.

It's also so easy to say something like that through a screen. You don't know the person and if they say no or don't respond you'll probably never meet them. It's a degenerate way of going about courtship but it's the time we live in.

For every 25 girls like you who are turned off by that there's 1 girl that says yes. They only need the one girl to say yes to keep the confidence of the cycle. Especially around college aged people

[normalice]

Most men are only interested in women who want an immediate hookup and they imagine such women are receptive to talking about sex right away. If that scares off the women who are not interested in an immediate hookup then that just saves everyone involved some time.

[Purpleronnie]

It’s plain and simply the nature of the internet and hiding behind anonymity. I truly beleive the supposed men majority on there are just not interested in relationships at all. Their porn saturated minds are let loose and drop down to the lowest basic instinct. Open your eyes , apps are for hookups and meaningless physical contact , a meat market for the miscreants and un-evolved. The real men the man you actually need , you have to look harder to find them.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Because they know that women play games. They SAY they're not into hookups and want a serious relationship, but that all changes really quickly depending on how the guy looks or what he says, so guys nowadays don't shoot for relationships because women have changed the game, playing the "I'm a nice girl" card all the while being a total slut who hooks up and does friends with benefits "situationships". There aren't many relationship quality women under 30 left.

[Vegasrunner]

Sounds like your belief is flawed. Like most woman you're making the mistake of believing that because you don't like something all woman won't like it. Obviously women don't avoid men more when they say something sexual if they did men would just adapt.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Men can’t tell the difference between physical and sexual intimacy, and they’re so touch-starved and lonely that they make desperate attempts like what you describe

[PeachyPie93]

Dating apps were made to be hookup apps. Really no point to try to find someone from one of those.

[DizzyDesii]

Its annoying but it shows their intentions and makes it easier to filter them out of your dating options

[daemonBot]

I think it's a small number of guys who are simply super prolific jerks. It only takes a handful, and I'll bet most of them have multiple accounts.

[Lynx122]

Most women don't even answer your messages on dating apps so they're escalating things while you're still responding.

[DarkWinterNights]

Because most people use dating sites as hookup sites. The casual conversation at the beginning is just a formality so they aren’t dismissed out the gate.

[Joshydavid25]

Depends on which dating apps.. But I mean a lot of guys are just horny, and start the conversation and then try to test the waters..

[SolitarySolace]

Men don’t date women these days because they want to get married. Men date women these days for sex. Men know marriage only benefits women so why would majority of men date seeking marriage?

[IslaTheWitch]

because they don't respect women they contact

[genericname85]

tell me: what is easier to find out in a person you never met before. if you like them in bed? or if you like their character?

[superchan2011]

it's because that's all their there for. To fond someone to have sex with. Those type of guys aren't looking for a serious relationship.

[zagor]

So, wanna do it?

Actually the reason those guys are on those apps is likely because they are clueless about how to approach women in RL, and just continue their unsuccessful ways online.

[worldscolide]

Because MOST dating apps are intended for hookups. Its why i never got on those. I, before i got married, met women the old fashioned way.

[JayBones]

Because that's what we are looking for. Of you aren't down to fuck then I have nothing to talk to you about