Something I noticed others posting here have missed - In giving advice to InCels, I find that all too often they suffer from the mental or psychological illness that has been called "One-itis".
https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/one-itis
That is, they are obsessed with meeting "the one", the perfect girl who is or will be their soulmate, their be-all and end-all. And the One-itis makes them come across as creepy. Even worse, they sadly fail to notice dating opportunities that are much more likely for them, even in some cases readily available to them, because they are so focused upon their One-itis ideal.
For example, I tell young InCels that if they are desperately seeking ladies for a sexual experience, then they should start with older "Cougar" divorcees, who want to "get their groove back". Such women might just be the ones to break them in. The InCel's initial lack of what they call “game” in such a situation will be non-threatening, and therefore downright appealing, to an older divorcee. And by interactions of this nature, the InCel will get "game". No, the relationship probably will not last, but it will be mutually beneficial at first. And then I suggest dating sites of that nature.
And the InCel responses, all too often? She can't be the future mother of their children, she is "over the hill", etc.I keep trying to tell them that my suggestion is *just a starting point* and that the idea is to get them out dating different women, not only to learn more about various women, but to learn more about *themselves*.
https://www.youtube.com/embed/IkEisdaFRzU
Anyway, I have sympathy for InCels because back in the 1980s and early 1990s I was one of them, before such a term existed. "I was InCel, when InCel wasn't cool", apologies to Barbara Mandrell. (Well, InCels never will be cool, but you get the idea).
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They are hypocrites, incels only hate women because women don't want them, if they put all that effort in working on themselves they can get what they despise but they choose to remain the same and hate on women, it's only deeper self sabotage if you ask me.
This, exactly. And they love to say “well the women are undesirable to have these standards” yet, think a woman who is actually desirable aren’t going to also have the standards of the “undesirable” woman, if not more. And it’s a hatred towards all women, whether she’s a 6 or 10. Obviously deep rooted in a sense of inadequacy of not being chosen by the women they desire. I mean, why else would they do it?
Thankfully, incel culture is an internet craze. You don’t see much of that influence in real life. A shorter guy has so much power to speak negatively on women on the internet and how they shouldn’t have a height requirement, but is completely invisible within society, of course, whenever he decides to leave the house.
I don't know exactly why, but it probably stems from some sort of misguided belief that they grew up with. I think society teaches men that women don't care about looks, and a woman's primary worth is in her beauty, while men need to be rich.
So following that, men think that they can date "up", looks wise. They think a really hot woman will look past their looks.
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Women do lower their standards, regardless of whether incels hope for it or not. Women pick and choose what men they are going to have high standards for. If they're looking for money they will pick men who have a lot of it whether he's ugly or not. Women will date men who are downright pathetic and not good for them just because she's sexually attracted to him or some idea that how he is is more masculine.
I personally think incels and women who declare having standards are perfect for each other.
Incels won't fly to Thailand to get laid but stay here and bitch and moan about it. Cracks me up.
Thats kind of what defines an incel. So the question is backwards. It's "why do people with uncompromising standards who, themselves, aren't hitting any watermarks end up being incels?"
And the question kind of answers itself..
Red pill ideology is why. Red pill ideology stemmed from the absurdity that is whatever current phase on feminism we're on. It's essentially the male equivalent to modern feminism.
While feminism says a women don't need no man, can have all the sex she wants, dress however, your man has to be tall, rich, handsome, you're the price he ain't shit etc.
The red pill ideology these incels and frustrated young men subscribe to in media tells them all women are whores so you can't trust them. It says Western women are entitled and they're not functional to be a wife so just have as much sex as possible. It's irrelevant what you do because the girl will still whore, the new example is look at Tom Brady even he gets cheated on.
Both ideologies are shit though. The reality is traditional values, acceptance, and kindness is what works best.
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Thats all u find online people crying about wanting things they can't get and expecting the world to change around them both men and women are guilty of this stupid thoughts too man where told they are the main character and get upset when they don't have that plot armour
The term “incel” is so profoundly stupid and immature , and anyone who uses it is cringe worthy. It’s never even attributed to someone for merely being unable to get laid. It’s used as an insult towards someone’s personality/ set of beliefs. Incel gets thrown around way too loosely in our culture, it’s almost meaningless at this point. A person has no way of legitimately knowing whether or not someone is an “incel” unless they voluntarily identify as one. So, if you want to make a critical remark about someone’s personality, please do yourself a favor and do better than simply saying the word “incel.”
the only hope for incels is for them to date individuals with special needs, they're never get the hotties, incels need to accept that, unless they make a massive three 60 turn aways from their horrible beliefs, they will never get what they want, and they're not owed compensation or anything, you get what you give in this world, and if you give hate, then hate is what you'll get back
Parts of society tells men that all they have to acquire is financial wealth. They don’t have to be good looking, or physically fit, or be a good person, or be loyal, or support a woman emotionally. It’s all about whatever it takes to smash dumb little girls and they believe money is it. But the lazy men who don’t want to work hard or build skills can’t even hack a decent income, and they’re pissed off because they can’t get laid.
In principle to argue that they would have a reason to change or it would make it easier for them to change if they had a realistic chance of getting into a relationship.
Guys are purpose oriented from my experience so they do only what comes with a purpose. An incel that doesn't see a realistic chance of getting in a relationship won't try to change.Well for starters there's not a non-insignificant number of them so you will hear all sorts of commentary from them.
Secondly they mostly already have pretty low standards.
Thirdly some women have pretty high standards.
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They just need to look at girls outside the United States, and they'll get a sexy, sweet girlfriend easily.
Israel or Ukraine are my biggest recommendations for where to go. The girls there are gorgeous and they'll literally swarm around any good looking American man who shows up. Ask me how I know😊Women date up not, down. Incels can't even get women on their level because women on their level are chasing after the small percentage of high value men out there. a lot of incels dont even have these ridiculous high standards. They just can't compete in the dating market. And Its not just incels who are struggling to meet a woman. Plenty of average men are struggling too
I have no intention of trying to have sex with any woman, much less a beautiful goddess like the ones you're referring to, because I know I'm not worthy even to kiss their feet, or yours, for that matter;)
why does it matter lol
like anyone who is on the internet too much you just can't take seriously bc no one in real life is like thatThe immense majority of incels from what I have seen are delusional and stupid, so don't expect them to have reasoning.
I look average, I have never wanted a beautiful woman, but an average girl, yet they demand the super handsome man.
Incels and pretentious women are hateful for this very reason.
Most guys aren't demanding supermodels we just don't want our women to be fat, be a hoe, or be a bitch.
Women on the other hand have ridiculous requirements with even obese baby mommas demanding six figure earners.
"incel" is not a thing. nobody is involuntarily celibate. unless for some reason they physically can not have sex but still wish to.
Female standards are just reasons to reject distasteful men. The hotter you are the more boundaries/standards you can encroach on without the woman being offended or losing her attraction to him
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