Just because you are a couple doesn't mean you automatically love everything your partner loves. Knowing this, would you rather "drag them along" to activities, parties, events, trips, you KNOW they hate and will probably complain during for the quality time even if it will possibly ruin the experience, or would you rather accept they hate xyz, and either go it alone, or find a friend/family member to hang out with and do the activities?
Dragging someone along means they really don't want to be there.
How about finding an activity that offers interest for both of you, but allows you to have separate time. Isn't there a ski resort that allows you to ski while your partner can cozy up to the fireplace and read a book, or there's group nature walks for them while you plow the hills?
Find all-inclusive resorts that have multiple activities. I like to dive. I don't know many people who do this. But I know I could find a resort that has activities for my partner to engage in while I go diving.
However, you might take a dive boat trip with couples where both people don't dive and SOs snorkel, or simply chill on the boat and enjoy the beautiful weather and the quiet.
Compromise is the soul of good relationships. Don't ever drag anyone anywhere. It only leads to resentment and discord. Do you drag a friend along? No, you'd never do that. But you expect MORE from a SO. However, your SO is a good friend who you've chosen to live with, maybe have kids with etc... You should NOT expect more.
In fact, you should be far more FORGIVING for a SO, than for a mere friend.
He knows I hate shopping. He used to ask him to go with him a lot. But I’d be in the background slacking and mopping and not really doing anything. Now he’d rather just do it on his own. Similarly I love cleaning and I just ask him to sit in his office when I do cause he pretty much just stands there like a pitch fork.
We do believe in “drag them along” if he doesn’t wanna go, I don’t force him and he doesn’t force me. The only time we ever have to is for family functions that require both of us to be here (weddings, birthdays, funerals)
I think you should both OCCASIONALLY do something together even if it's not your thing, but I definitely don't think you must always do everything together. Maybe you each have 2 events a year where you agree to do something with your partner that you don't love, and you use them carefully for special occasions.
Generally, I don't want my girl to be unhappy or uncomfortable or bored, so I would rather do some things without her if she doesn't want to come, and vice versa. Nothing wrong with that.
Just like @Dinklex3, we compromise. I wouldn't expect her to go Ice Skating or Skiing though, because the ice/ mountains terrify her.
Spending time together, even with compromise is better than spending time apart doing everything I want to do!
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I’m dragging them along, lol.
I do things I don’t really like or care about for him, but I do it anyways and enjoy spending time together. He can do the same for me. He wouldn’t complain though, we compromise on how long we’ll stay and what exactly we’ll do.
There’s not too many places I like that he hates though.
Depends. If they’ve never tried it before I will most likely drag them along just so they can at least try it once. Who knows they might actually enjoy it. But if they’ve had a bad experience with it then I’d rather ask someone else to go with me.
It's like this just. The few activities that I like and enjoy are snowboarding and skydiving. My wife doesn't like to do anything that involves snow. However she likes skydiving. She also hates golf but love to play tennis which I hate. So do together what you both enjoy and do separately what the other one don't. I guess...
Depends I do some activities that I find fun but wouldn't let my partner partake in. Some I prefer to do alone and others I prefer to do with my partner.
My wife cuts in 8 minutes and loves sex. I take at least 45 minutes... I refuse to fuck her unless she participates in one of my hobbies. She has no hobbies, no goals, no nothing. She's literally a sex doll that sux at her job
I prefer to do things with my Husband but if he absolutely hates it I'm not going to force him.
I already do the things I enjoy doing by myself. I don’t need someone else to do those things with me. Especially a woman.
If they’re happier staying home I’d rather them do that.
Either way
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