Anyone else never hear back from someone they dated or went pn a date with?

[red324]

Say for example you went on a date, then maybe changed their mind 6 months or a year later and decided to contact you again? Like maybe they dated someone else then realized they should have tried harder with you? Etc opinions? I think maybe only twice this happened to me which is surprising considering how many dates I've been on. I wish a few of them would call me one of these days honestly. It would be nice

[Anonymous]

Currently happening to me.

After our first date he had a trip, so he didn't really contact me. And he opened a message without replying to it.
And after that there has been minimal contact.

[red324]

I don't I'm always skeptical about things like that. I once had a girl say don't call her for a week because she wanted to spend time with her mom since she was off work for the week. Looking back I think she was staying with another guy. Had another girl say she wasn't allowed to have a phone due to her work, so I wasn't going to hear from her for about 5 days after our date. I didn't know either one of these girls well at all, so I gave them the benefit of the doubt, but I just think it throws a red flag. It's not like I expect to hear from a girl everyday. In fact, I don't even want to hear from a girl everyday. 2 to 3 times a week is fine by me

[Opinion Owner]

Well, should always give them the benefit of doubt.

At least they warned you about the no-contact.

I got nothing, we were on a first date, then we chatted the day after in the evening and the next day I didn't hear a thing. Also knew that was the day he traveled so I tried to chill. And then I saw he posted a snap story. A day after I tried to text him, asking if he had a good trip basically, and he opened it without answering. And so, bit more than a week went by without me hearing from him.

[red324]

Probably isn't interested then. Happens to me all the time.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I'm assuming so much.
He did say he would let me know if he wasn't... but his actions say otherwise

[red324]

They never tell you to their face they aren't interested unfortunately. I was patient with one girl for like 6 months because she was "busy with work" she was just leading me on.

[Opinion Owner]

So it's naive to believe he would tell me, even though he said he would let me know if that was the case?

[red324]

I'd say so. I've rarely had anyone tell me. They just quit responding. Just move onto another guy, maybe he'll come around, Mayne he won't

[Opinion Owner]

So I shouldn't expect that much from a 35 year old dude... gotcha

[red324]

I'm just telling you how women treat me from my side of the fence. It seems these days male or female, no body values anyone's time anymore. I work for myself and I'll show up to a jobsite and find they hired someone else and never even received a phone call letting me know. It's not just dating it's everything today. Now I'm not saying that means you should follow that trend. I'll let a girl know I'm not interested because I don't like being led on myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe I should just end it myself.
Put an end to this horrible suffering. I've always said if you're in doubt of whether they're into you or not... you're not really in doubt

[red324]

No, I think you're just burning a bridge doing that. I did that a lot in the past years and probably why I never do hear back from any of them because I pretty much always got mad that they were wasting my time. Just don't bother textng him anymore and go find you a guy who values your time.

[Opinion Owner]

Burning a bridge? Why would I want to keep the bridge if he's someone who's not planning on keeping contact

[red324]

I don't know. You're a girl, you have more options than guys do. Even a decent looking guy isn't going to get approached very much.

[Opinion Owner]

I have been single in 3+ years, and it's not like I have gotten approached in this time.
And guys, don't go up to me when I'm out either.

I really think so many have a twisted view of these things and think all women get approached daily.

[red324]

Ever girl I approach always has a boyfriend already. Or at least that's what they say. I'll go to Walmart and approach them. I used to go to the mall and chat the girls up that worked in the department stores. I never even got a number

[Opinion Owner]

People usually don't want to give out numbers or personal details to a stranger

[red324]

Everyone is a stranger in the beginning. You complain that a guy doesn't approach you then basically say you wouldn't give out your number anyways because you don't know him 🙄

[red324]

Guess I'll just be single forever since I don't have any friends that can give out a referral

[Nikki1989]

Of course but I am not so petty to care about it.

[exitseven]

Yes, more often than not