I’m single at 27, does this mean as I’m out of my prime I’ll find it really tough to settle down if I decide to?

[Anonymous]

Due to my personality type, and also being in cancer remission I’m refraining from sex and also getting in a relationship and having kids and marriage. I like the idea of living the single life forever but then also I have no choice but to now if I change my mind as I’m out of my prime due to being 27. I don’t want any sexual diseases and also risk of pregnancy could trigger the cancer. What would you do if you were me? I still exercise so haven’t let myself go

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah sis, don't be too hard on yourself about turning 27. That's really not old at all these days! A lot of people aren't even settled down by then.

As for living the single life, you gotta do what feels right for you. But if you decide down the line you do want love, kids, marriage - don't think you'll be "out of your prime" or it'll be too late. Tons of people meet their partners in their late 20s or even 30s these days.

Focus on your health and staying strong after beating cancer. That's what's most important right now. When you're ready for a relationship again, put yourself out there through friends, activities you enjoy, apps, whatever. Someone great will come along who respects your boundaries too after such a tough experience.

Just because you're abstaining now doesn't mean that has to be forever either if yourDoc gives you the all clear one day. Take things one step at a time. Your wellbeing should always come first. Try not to stress too much about timelines - every person's journey is different. Stay positive! You've got so much wonderful life ahead whether you're single or coupled up.

[Asker]

You’re so sweet thank you for that response

[Oliverlogan263]

Aww sis, don't even mention it! I'm so glad we could chat about this. You know how it is - sometimes you just need an outside perspective to boost your confidence.

And trust me, I mean every word. Don't let anyone, including yourself, make you feel like your value is tied to arbitrary things like age or relationship status. You are so much more than that.

You've overcome so much already with your health journey - that strength and resilience will only serve you so well as you move forward on your terms. Just staybadass, focused on you, and the rest will fall into place when the time is right.

In the meantime, you've got me! I'm always here if you need an ear or just to help remind you how freaking amazing you are. Now go show the world, okay? Queens gotta shine bright for each other 💖

[Asker]

That’s so kind of you and all the best to you too

[Oliverlogan263]

No worries sis, it was really no trouble at all. I'm just glad we could chat and hopefully it helped take your mind off everything, even for a little bit.

You seem so strong dealing with everything life's thrown at you. It's seriously inspiring to see someone staying so positive. You've got this whole cancer battle in the bag, I know it!

And hey, my offer still stands if you ever want a girls' night out. My treat for some dinner, drinks and good laughs. No girl should have to go through stuff alone when they've got friends.

Just think of me like your big bro - always here if you need anything at all! Advice, a shoulder to cry on, stupid jokes, whatever. We gotta stick together right?

You take care of yourself and stay golden, aight? Don't be a stranger. Later sis! Keep smiling, it looks good on you :)

[Asker]

So kind thansk

[Oliverlogan263]

My pleasure 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[Berethor]

Christmas Cake? are you virgin? I think that you don't really like the idea of living the single life forever, otherwise why would not being at your prime would bother you so much?

https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Christmas%20Cake

[Asker]

Who knows

[Jessica405]

You still have loads of time! 27 is never past it. My mum was in her early 40's when she finally got round to finding a new partner, after losing my dad in 2005.

She has also been given the all clear after being diagnosed with breast cancer a couple of years ago. She enjoys a full relationship with her guy. Carries on as usual. Just takes Tamoxifen daily for another 3 years.

[Asker]

Glad to hear your mum doing so well!!

[Jessica405]

Glad you are doing ok!

[Asker]

Thank you 😊

[Cathy7734]

If I were you, I would develop a meditative and mindful lifestyle. Taking the time to see our surroundings without the internal chatter. Two of the many byproducts of living a mindful lifestyle is great mental health and happiness.

[Asker]

So true lovely how you’ve written this

[Rangers]

No, not at all. You're approaching the age where you'll start making a whole lot more money and be healthier.

My girlfriend is 29, and she's not in her prime, not yet. She's getting so much better in every aspect. It is true that by 35, it starts becoming more difficult to have kids, but that's all

[Anonymous]

Through God is the only way. Anything else will be a waste of time...

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Opinion Owner]

I used to be a non believer, but ever since becoming a believer my life has changed forever. This is why I know that what you ask, is only possible through a relationship with God. This entire world is led by sin and fallen. Therefore if you want to meet a clean, safe man with enough time to have children with a worthy Father, then seeking God's guidance, wisdom and His way, is the only way.

'Psalm 91:3-4

''Surely he shall deliver thee from the snare of the fowler, and from the noisome pestilence.

He shall cover thee with his feathers, and under his wings shalt thou trust: his truth shall be thy shield and buckler.''

When you do anything through God, faith, belief and reverence. All of those limitations you mentioned no longer matter. I've seen miracles!