Would you rather make the first move or would you keep waiting for them to do so?

[Anonymous]

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[DishLady]

As a lady it’s nice to let the guy make the first move, or if you do or say something… to wait for his reaction rather than pressing on. It allows the lady to sink back into her feminine self and enjoy the process more. It also helps her know her guy’s preferences (if she doesn’t know them already).


Of course in today’s anxiety-ridden world, what used to be a subtle sign — like wearing his favorite color or bringing something extra to lunch and offering it to him — has to be a little extra because guys aren’t 100% sure whether to approach and initiate something with a woman. Only serious Alpha Male types will stride up and do or say whatever they like very organically, but most guys give way to common sense and try to show the lady a bit of respect (perhaps getting too caught up in their uncertainty and then missing an opportunity.)

[IslaTheWitch]

if I like someone, I don't hide it... if I want to get to know someone better, I share this information... you can call it making the move... I call it open communication :D

[Asker]

Loll

[HighValue]

For the women that give "hints" to encourage guys to make a move, try to realize that other women do the exact same things you do and if a guy makes a move it is considered harassment because for her it wasn't a hint. Hints are unclear actions for people that think others can read their minds. Be direct instead if you want results.

[Wallythewalrus2]

I have always made the first move. There really isn’t anything to be afraid of, most girls are cool with being approached in a friendly way. When I was in school, I was shy but by the time I got to high school, I had a bit of confidence and went for broke with the ladies!

[Asker]

And how many times did you succeed Wally?

[Wallythewalrus2]

In school, not often but I always did tend to get the girl I wanted! Outside of school, 40%-50% of the time. It doesn’t hurt to try! I only ran into 2 really rude girls but I do come across as a little arrogant at times.

[Asker]

Nice.. but I bet the attempt failed with Becky?

[Asker]

But at least she's sweet

[Wallythewalrus2]

She’s way too young! Well, maybe not now but at the time!

[Asker]

Haha just kidding, I know she's like a little sis

[Wallythewalrus2]

😂 😂

[Pinay_ako]

If he’s taking so Damn long, I might just have to make that move!

[coachTanthony]

Life is infinite you have all the time in the world so just wait they will make the move sooner or later

[Somoneelse]

Depends. Lately most people are very unclear with their "hints" or "signs". So what is a hint is very difficult to understand for me. As some people are very subtile with their hints and someone else think just looking at me for a long time is already them giving a hint.

I tried sometimes making the first move, but then I misunderstood their behaviour as "hints" and thinking its was a sign they would like me.

So I rather have someone else make the first move, but rather then just saying it instead of unclear hints.

[CriticalCatDad123]

I'd keep waiting knowing it won't come because women don't do the asking. If one did I don't care if she's hot or ugly she's being rejected. I've already rejected 3 women sense I decided to stop dating and having relationships. 🤷🏻‍♂️ one of those women has a kid now and honestly she was the ugly one.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Well 4 actually. A friend tried to set me up with some girl. Eventually I told her over text that I wasn't interested and didn't want her to get the wrong idea. She figured.

[Yannae]

I don't know. It depends on my mood. My SO is to my standards a 9 at least and that alone was enough for me to get out of my shy comfort zone, break through that barrier and walk up to her, because I would have beaten myself up for weeks if I didn't say Anything to her.

[sage2021]

I would wait for him to make the significant moves. But I can invite him to do that by giving him "The look" - you know, your flirty look and smile. Look away, and do it again so he knows he can make the first move without getting turned away.

[Anonymous]

Keep waiting. I'm in no hurry, and I'm always entertaining other offers. So if she doesn't want to, I'll just pick the other woman that does. Rules change after 40 good single men are the more in demand commodity. Used women over 40 are not. She can wait if she likes but she's just going to get older, more wrinkled, and less in demand.

[Unit1]

Meh.

I love it when women make the first move.

But since they don't (in my experience. Except in Thailand. I heard that from my friend, who just returned from there) it is on me to make things happen.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I have no problems with either. As long as one of us does, that's all that matters!

[Reem12345reem]

my first move is eye contact , so i guess im always doing the ''first move'' in my point of view

[tzdc21]

I would try something more obvious if I were you.

[Reem12345reem]

That's obvious , especially when u look at them while they're doing something and they catch u looking , they definitely know that u like them

[tzdc21]

Uh no, it's not obvious. In fact it's one of the least obvious things. Your icon says you are 16, so I'll give you some advice. I look at people all the time and catch eye contact, doesn't mean I'm making a move on them. Even when I look at somebody while they're doing something and they catch me looking that absolutely does not mean I am flirting with them. If I see a girl doing what you're describing, I wouldn't think anything of it and just pass it off because it's so common. It nowhere near obvious enough to tell me that you're into me. There's more that needs to go into making a move on a man than just eye contact. ESPECIALLY in today's society because too many times guys think they have a signal from a girl that they're into him, only to find out she was just being friendly, or to deem them as creepy. I didn't make up the rules, I'm just reporting them to you. A lot of women fall into the same trap of just giving him a look or making eye contact with him is gonna get him to chase you or convince him that you're making the first move, and they get frustrated or annoyed because it rarely ever works. If you wanna get the message across to a man that you are into him, you're gonna have to do A LOT more than just make eye contact with them.

[Reem12345reem]

It's about the energy of the eye contact (if that's how it's called) u can differentiate between if someone makes eye contact with u out of coincidence or if they like u , u can feel the energy plus your subconscious mind can catch them easily

[Reem12345reem]

The ones u had eye contact with weren't really into u so that's why u don't know , it's really easy to differentiate honestly

[exitseven]

I used to be really shy with girls. Even if I knew they were into me I could not make a move. I would have appreciated a little nudge.

[Pohjolan]

So far I have always been the one to make the first move and likely will be.

I have once seen a gal make the first move and she was drunk and the guy looked like Brad Pitt.

[Matadorius]

In order to not to hesitate to open up to her, I need to make sure that she also has feelings for me, otherwise it is difficult for me to break my shyness.

[The_Sexpert]

If you keep waiting for too long he/she will be gone
So I'd take the risk

[Alex-Snow]

Sometimes I have made the first move while at times the girl has made the first move which is way hot!

[bananathunder]

I usually make the first move but it's hot if she does also, which is not as common in my experience

[DrPepper12]

Needs more context but I would have to feel out where I think it's going

[LiamJHayden]

I am not shy and almost always make the first move.

[Darkest-Knight]

If she doesn't make the first move there won't be one.

[Fireguy17]

just stop with the stupid games.
If you like someone let them know, ask them out, otherwise someone else will and there you are all alone going why me.