Is it a deal breaker if the guy doesn't pay for the first date?

[Anonymous]

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2 mo

This isn't a bait question. You can answer honestly, there are no wrong answers.

[jennifer_bloom]

It depends on his situation and on whose idea it was to eat there. If it was my idea, then me paying for it would be perfectly normal. If it was his idea, and he doesn't pay, I might feel like he does not respect me cause if he respected me, he should have chosen a Burger King or Dominoes Pizza restaurant that he could afford to buy me lunch or dinner at. And if he does not want to pay, he should not meet in person, he should talk on Facebook or through text.

[Asker]

That's fair

[Simslover92]

Not at all. My boyfriend didn't pay for the first date which was fine because I knew he didn't have it because it wasn't his pay week.

[Simslover92]

He paid for the next date though.

[Asker]

What about a guy you don't know well?

[Simslover92]

It's fine if I don't know him well. It's the 21st century after all and girls should be paying for dates sometimes in my opinion anyways.

[Asker]

I always hear women say they expect the man to pay cause it's a test to see if they are gonna provide. I'm just curious how many women share that mindset.

[Simslover92]

I don't share that mindset. I think if you want to be equal then you should start doing things equally including paying for the date sometimes.

[Abbycado]

Nope. First boyfriend I had, we split things when we first started dating. Pretty normal these days and okay with me.

[Asker]

I've always paid cause I just assume I won't hear from her again if I don't

[Abbycado]

It isn't real typical anymore. That is from my experience and that of some friends. Usually split first date.

[mandyfire98]

I prefer to always split

[7Phoenix7]

Absolutely not. He doesn't have to pay.