Ladies, does a potential male SO get "points" for skills like mechanic, electrician, plumber, masonry, etc even though they don't do that as a career?

[DrPepper12]

Men, what skills would you like a potential SO to bring to the relationship that are not apart of her personality or career?

Yes! A man with thise skills is a more likely SO

No! It's the person not their skill set that makes them a better SO

No difference. Nice but not deal breaking.

It depends on where you're at in life. I'll elaborate below.

A total of 35 votes were cast: 23 girls and 12 guys. See detailed results

[DishLady]

“Points?” Like in an athletics competition? I’m
Not sure things work precisely that way.


Of course if you have a kind heart and a good head on your shoulders a lady will know to trust and rely on you. If you’re skatty and wishy-washy with your priorities and other things then that’s unappealing.


Also, it’s important to wait to be invited to do things for a lady, especially in today’s society where women want to do some things alongside their man.


Lastly, don’t just show up. Some women find that creepy and too intense.

[Flatmanlewis]

My wife has informed me that she finds comfort and satisfaction in the fact there are many skills I can perform that she cannot. This can be simple household repairs & maintenance to my ability to navigate and plan trips which is something she simply cannot manage. The fact that I can offer a sense of security for her and our children based on a lifetime of skills & training to protect us and/or respond to emergencies is something she appreciates.


As a woman, I expect you to be able to be a good parent to our children. Keep them clean, fed, and happy. You should dress well and have the art of femininity mastered.


House chores, laundry, finances, and all the rest are mutually shared responsibilities and so I have no expectations there. I’m the chef in the family so most cooking is mine by default anyhow.

[Confucious900]

Are skills really that important? I get how it can improve a relationship and make things interesting depending on the skill they bring to the table, but is there really such a need for importance on it? How they make you feel, and what they do to support you, and how they learn to understand your language I feel has much more importance over what skill they bring into the relationship. But if you wanna talk skill Id just say it would be nice if she can make food? What man doesn't appreciate a woman that knows how to make delicious food?

[CriticalCatDad123]

Most women in my generation don't cook for their men. Apparently a woman's place is no longer in the kitchen 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Confucious900]

@CriticalCatDad123 They dont have to cook for their man, the man can cook too, but I get what you are saying. Times are changing so rapidly bro. We were told never to get in strangers cars, and never to talk to strangers online. Today you order a uber online to get into a strangers car. Its the influence of society standards and if you go against it you are a rebel or worse. Nothing wrong with times changing and life improving but the mindset and the way people think and perceive things have changed so much over time compared to how it was 40 years ago. And younger generations being born in the times where things changed know nothing else but the way they grew up in. Today hardly anyone will drink directly from a garden hose or tap. Bottled water is the way to go. As a kid I ran around outside and got thirsty and drank water straight from the hose. Mention that to kids today they look at you as if you are insane

[CriticalCatDad123]

"They don't have to cook for their man, the man can cook too,"

True but in my case I don't cook. I microwave most of my meals I get from the store and I used to not even use the stove top. I use the microwave far more often than the stove though and I don't use the oven at all.

Everything else you said I agree with. It's sad.

[Confucious900]

@CriticalCatDad123 Yes but what I was pointing to was that the man can make/prepare food too. Doesn't matter how its done, its not only a woman's job. Im from SA and we dont really have microwave foods besides 2 min noodles, so microwave foods here isn't really a thing.

[CriticalCatDad123]

True but people would argue that that's not a meal and they'd be right. A microwavable Mac and cheese is not a meal. Even I know it's a sad excuse of a meal. I just hate cooking I know it's not my place to do so

[IslaTheWitch]

not really... of course it's more convenient and some skills can be really hot... but it doesn't change anything...

[adam6402]

If a girl isn't good at cooking and housekeeping it's not a deal breaker for me, as long as she tries her best and has no issue with doing it. But a girl who's a really good cook and keeps things around the house organized and clean definitely gets a lot more points from me.

[NathanDavis]

they can definitely appreciate it... but they're not a big deal either

girls were into me, before they knew I could do some of these... so it is more of a bonus really

[Apple1996]

Yes I love it! Especially if he can fix my car cuz I hate having to take it to the mechanic. I think both genders need some basic knowledge and skills of the things you listed

[CriticalCatDad123]

I don't know how to do any of those things 🤷🏻‍♂️ and honestly don't want to learn how.

[DrPepper12]

You should. It will help you save a fortune as a homeowner if you're not one already.

[CriticalCatDad123]

I rent an apartment and honestly if I did any of those things it wouldn’t make a difference financially.

[Nikki1989]

Means nothing to me. I would rather a man with skills and knowledge in music and literature.

[OddBeMe]

I would imagine not being a scallop on the hull of the economy is all you need.

All thar you listed are honorable higher educated trades. So don’t get the issue… doesn’t have to be college. It’s just college is most popular. Maybe that’ll change.

[WhitneySnow]

They’re useful skills to have, but they wouldn’t be a reason to date someone. If I already liked someone and they happened to have those skills, that would be great.

[Dinklex3]

No, I don’t really care about that stuff lol

[Bricealan]

@DrPepper12 I think guys should have some of those skills so as not to be 'helpless' when he needs to do some or at least one of those things in an emergency basis thing.

[JacobJordan]

Only skills I need from a woman is her to know how to be a woman, treat a man, deal with children and cook.

[DarkLegacy]

A women should also have to possess certain skills that women are supposed to have or men should not either

[slatyb]

Make her laugh and she's yours forever

[BIZARRE_TRUTH]

the answer is yes