So I was dating a girl and I’m a criminal justice major hoping to become an investigator. I really enjoy watching true crime documentaries because it helps in studying individuals, why they did what they did, social factors, aftermath and ultimately noticing behavior patterns that could prevent something like this from happening in the future but when I would watch these she would be like oh you must be getting ideas to try something or if we would get into an argument she would go I’m scared to be around you because you have been watching all those shows getting ideas
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Has anyone ever had this happened while pursuing a career?
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I think once you hit your teenage years you begin to evaluate everyone you talk to for dangerous or inconsistent traits and not everybody has a healthy standard for evaluating others. I've had people tell me that guys would question my sanity and mental health because the way I washed dishes was awkward and unusual. I've had people tell me I look mentally ill because I make dynamic expressions with my face when I am in conversation with people. I've also had people assume I'm a psychopath because I process information quickly and speak quickly. So not everybody has a healthy standard for evaluating others but everybody does it cause they want to protect themselves from dangerous people.
Well this girl also had undiagnosed mental illness and would frequently gaslight
There was a case just opposite to this. Case of Brian Cohee.
https://youtu. be/pvrp87VXtD4? si=HVRtoS8DIZeUEzuO
In that his parents were thinking he is interested in crime investigation forensic science etc and willing to make career in that. His parents were supportive and even gifted him book related to his interest but he was more interested in doing crime.
It's funny. But yeh people do get scared. It has two sides also and sometimes it's tough to know which side someone has interest in real.
I was pissed because it’s rooted in making the world a better place using intensive studies to get some of these individuals off the streets
It's understandable. Also it's fine, at least because of this you knew how much she trust you or how mature she is in real. Childish partner is always trouble to handle and if you want to make career in society welfare related jobs you need to have mature partner by your side because this job itself is very tough and stressful and after returning home you may be willing to relax instead of dealing with hers childishness and non understanding nature.
Yeah she had serious maturity issues she was constantly glued to her phone, communication was very challenging she had to constantly post everything on social media
People let their imaginations run wild, but that kind of thing definitely does happen.
I wouldn't read too much into it, but I would also be careful about how much you share about your work life. For me, the separation of work and personal is essential for my mental hygiene.
Well the issue with her too is she was trying to dominate within the relationship what I mean is there was no individuality you had to be constantly watching shows with her and I had no interest in her shows which were dating shows, reality shows, game shows like basically nothing where you had to use your brain
Ah, she's one of those. I've dated women like that; where the idea of boundaries between the partners isn't very strong. For what it's worth, it sounds like you just weren't a very good match in terms of relationship approach.