Why does someone you was in a talking stage with follow you on social media years later & should you follow them back?

[Anonymous]

[Fanfare690]

I mean do you have feelings for her?
If you guys didn't fall out I suppose it's not a big deal. Some people grow apart and then magically come together later. But let me stop being romantic. She could be interested in knowing how you are.
To answer your question only follow her back if there's no ill will towards eachother.

[Asker]

I'm unsure if I have feelings for her because although I did like her years back I don't know who she is today. So much can change over years. We did have a falling out which was indeed my fault. I have no ill will towards her. In fact I still think about her.

[Fanfare690]

It seems she followed you first? How about sending her a message... open contact.
Yea I agree with what you said. She could be totally different but I doubt she's changed for the worst.
I think she followed you to be friendly and see what you're up to. It's your choice if you want to follow back. No pressure.

[Asker]

I think I followed her first. I followed her with the intention of reconnecting.

[Fanfare690]

She also might be over the fall out too that you guys went through

[Fanfare690]

Oh I see. And did she follow back?

[Asker]

She did. I was surprised that she did honestly

[Fanfare690]

That's good news

[Asker]

It is but I think she only did that to be polite. I texted her phone and she didn't respond. We exchanged a couple of DMs and although she answered It was a little awkward

[Fanfare690]

Maybe you caught her at a bad time. Or maybe she added you to show no harm done but she doesn't want to be bothered. . It's hard to say without actually knowing her myself

[Asker]

She had a baby and from what I see on social media she broke up with her kid's father. It might not be the best time right now or she just isn't interested which is okay.

[Fanfare690]

It's honestly okay to try again because I think you caught her at the wrong time or yes she isn't interested but how would you know unless you text her and see what's up with her

[Asker]

I personally don't like double texting because it makes me look desperate and that was 1 of the problems we had in the past. I texted her "hey it's been a while, how have you been." Do you think that was a weird text to send?

[Fanfare690]

I'm still here if you want to talk about it

[Fanfare690]

Not at all. I remember you saying you fell out. Maybe she didn't know what to say. I don't think she had your number saved either. But that's gotta be frustrating I'm sorry. What can you do if not double text?

[Asker]

In the text I included my name because I have a different number since we last spoke. It's okay I'm obligated to a response. At this point I don't think there is anything else I could do. If she wants to speak it's on her to reach out because I'm sure she knows my intentions at this point

[Fanfare690]

I see... I agree with you... I'm sorry

[Asker]

It's okay. Ultimately I think it's a step in the right direction that she followed me back. It's clear that she forgives me and I forgive her. Do you think if she didn't want nothing to do with me she wouldn't have followed back?

[Fanfare690]

Yes I do think that...

[Asker]

Right because it doesn't make sense otherwise

[Fanfare690]

Well what if she wants to reconnect but on her own time... it doesn't make sense it's so weird why she followed you back unless she wanted more followers...

[Asker]

That very well could be the case and if she wants to reconnect on her own time the worst thing I could do is rush it. I'm not sure how people operate on social media but is there a difference with who you follow on Instagram vs TikTok? I know she has 1500 followers and only follows 250. She could just be following people she knows but that doesn't make sense.

[Fanfare690]

One app could be more personal rhen the other. Also if she's following you and not others it's cause she knows you I'd think

[Asker]

Exactly so it might mean nothing but it's unhealthy to continue overthinking about it. The best thing I could do is just see what happens. I still think although she already knows me if she didn't want to follow back she wouldn't have

[Fanfare690]

Then why did she ignore your text?

[Asker]

My guess is that she isn't interested. But again why follow back? I know girls are different than guys but I don't just follow anyone back

[Fanfare690]

Sometimes I do. And y'all had a brief conversation but I'm starting to think she doesn't want to go any further

[Asker]

She most likely doesn't and I'm okay with that

[Fanfare690]

That's good yea sorry it didn't work out

[Asker]

It's okay. I gotta deal with the consequences of my actions

[Fanfare690]

I mean you said that like you did something bad

[Asker]

I was referring to the past and sometimes the things I say can rub girls the wrong way even if my intentions are good

[Fanfare690]

Oh I see. I mean I don't know what went down but it's you live and you learn I guess

[Asker]

Absolutely

[Anonymous]

They are wondering how your life turned out.