I want to date seriously leading to wedding. Is it good to mention about my education, finances and achievements on dating apps?

[Anonymous]

[Effably]

The simple rule is to not go into detail about that stuff. You can mention what you do. That you are financially stable, comfortable or something, sure. Its a one or two word comment. It does no harm. Do not make it your identity.

E. g "Lawyer from Harvard, now that I am financially comfortable I am hoping to catch up on dating and lookint for something serious. I am into/like/joke/personality/something.". That is probably the most you can lay it on but again: Its minimal focus. Ideally you make it a joke or something so that it is spent sharing who you are rather than bragging. Nerdy jokes, something to do with what you do, so on. All game.

At the end of the day people will go with a nobody who intrigues and makes them happy over someone succesful. Aim to be intriguing. Accolades are decoration, not a focus.

[Nikki1989]

If you are on a dating app, you are already failing. What are you hiding that you can't deal with the real world?

[HappyWoman34]

Unnecessary to talk about wealth. People will think you’re trying to prove something.

[Asker]

If I don't tell about my wealth. Then I am getting rejected.

[HappyWoman34]

Why is that?

[Asker]

You know girls are over smart. They want a guy who has good salary, owns house, car and has a good bank balance. They don't want to date a broke guy. But if tell them, all gold diggers are ready to date. If want to date a real gem girl without telling about my wealth. Is it possible to find a gem or I have to marry a gold digger?

[HappyWoman34]

Possible to find a gem.

[Asker]

I have not found that gem yet.

[HappyWoman34]

Oh. Well, it isn’t easy, meeting the right people. For all of us.

[Asker]

It's not easy for some of us. But some do find love easily. I am growing older, I can't wait anymore. Do you want me to make babies after 70 ? Why women don't understand it? I am not asking for perfect woman, I want a good woman, wifey material.

[HappyWoman34]

That’s what I meant. Well, I’m facing a similar issue.

[Asker]

Oh! I am sorry. I thought you are married.

[HappyWoman34]

Nope 😊

[Asker]

Cool!

[HappyWoman34]

Yeah, I guess I’m walking the walk and talking the talk.

[Asker]

Nice! I wish you good luck in your partner search.

[HappyWoman34]

Thanks, I wish you the same xo

[Asker]

My pleasure! XO

[Askingforafriend3]

I think if you get picked out of a dating app it shouldn't be because of your finances and achievements. You can post your education if you would like. However, make sure you post your hobbies, likes/dislikes, interests etc. You should be looking for a woman that shares the same interests not one just after your "job stability" or money. Achievements can be a topic of conversation once you start getting to know someone. Make sure it's not in a cocky way (confident but not cocky). You can discuss your job if it comes up in conversation. To be honest, finances shouldn't be discussed at least not after a few weeks/months of dating. Maybe more in the topic of plans you might have in life.

Match with people who like you for who you are. Jobs and money come and go. If you let yourself get married to someone who only likes you for that you will end up in divorce and it would be a waste of your time. Find someone kind, caring and loving who will always be there for you. Where you can enjoy your interest and hobbies and spend time and happy life with. Someone that can be your wife and mother of your children (if you choose).

Gold diggers will always be digging for more and look elsewhere if they want to. They will work you tirelessly to get what they want or leave.

Get a woman that actually respects what you do and is proud of your accomplishments. But at the end of the day wants you to come home and share a nice meal and movie with you.

[Asker]

Awesome 👍! I will keep that in mind. That's what I am looking for. Job, money and stability are the first priorities for all girls these days. It's hard to find that gem 💎 girl.

[Askingforafriend3]

Maybe shift your focus on finding girls at the same place as some of your interests. For example, a library, church, sports center etc. Instead of finding them online through apps. That way you can get to know them better. Look to get to know people not just to find a wife. You should know the woman BEFORE she becomes your wife. Don't worry about your age. When you are in your late 20s and early 30s is when you finally settle as to the person you have become. So finding women at this point of life is better because they are more settled. I am not today who I was when I was 20. So looking now in your 30s is a good thing in my opinion. I have people in my life in their early 20s taking about marriage because they think they found the "one" and wanting a wedding ring really bad. I try to tell them to keep dating that person until they both "grow" into the person they will become before settling down to make sure they are still right for each other.

[Askingforafriend3]

In regards to having children... Men are not affected as much as women by age. You should be find conceiving later on. However, once you do meet that someone depending on their age that might be a topic of conversation to have of the timeline you both can agree on bringing children into the relationship. Make sure you are not pushy about it, just put it out there that you do want a family but let her come into the same mindset. If she doesn't then she is not the one for you.

[Asker]

I completely agree with you. I think only mature people can understand each other pretty well and can create stable relationships. Younger people are usually confused about what they want in this life. Tbh, I am looking for a church girl, someone who is family oriented, wifey material, who dreams of husband, creating a family and having kids.

In regards to kids, I don't agree with you. Some men are affected too. I am a different person now. I used to hate love, dating and wedding few years back. I can't explain how desperate I am now, for a girlfriend, wedding and kids. I am afraid that I can't have babies at a later age. You know what I mean, I am talking about? Infertility. I already lost my interest in sex. Most of my friends are married and have kids. I am ashamed of myself, I feel like I am a big fool. I am a late bloomer. I want wife and kids ASAP, I am not pushy though. I think we should have kids only when we both are ready.

[Anonymous]

No. It’s not a cv. She needs to know how you are as a person and get to know YOU. Usually on dating sites you can fill out a form stating your job/education and other details so you don’t need to talk about it much in your presentation.

[Asker]

At first, I made a basic and simple profile. I got lots of rejections. Later, I mentioned little about my finances. I got some good responses. Most of them were fake profiles, they were asking money and iPhones.
I am still confused, shall I mention more about myself to impress quality girls or not? I am desperate to start a family. You know what I mean?