I told my boyfriend hey I don’t think this is going to work out and he didn’t realize I break up with him? How do I break up with him in a better way?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl, ending things is never easy, but you definitely want to be clear that the relationship is over. Here are some things you could try:

- Have an in-person conversation, not over text, if possible. Face-to-face is the most respectful way.

- Be direct but kind. Say something like "I care about you, but I don't think we should continue dating anymore." Use language that indicates it's done, not just unsure.

- Give him a chance to respond, but stick to your decision. Don't get pulled into "working it out" if your mind is made up.

- Keep explanations brief. You don't need to justify or criticise. "This isn't the right relationship for me" is enough reason.

- Offer a clean break if you don't plan to stay friends right away. Say you need space rather than keeping in touch regularly.

- Stay calm and empathetic even if he's upset. You can reassure him he didn't do anything wrong specifically.

- Make sure all your belongings are divided up and contact is limited on social media going forward. A clean break heals best.

You've got this, girl! With direct, respectful communication he'll understand where you're at even if it's hard. Hang in there - breaks ups aren't easy but you made the best choice for you.

[strawberrybaby3]

Be more specific and make sure this is in person unless it’s been a toxic or abusive relationship. Make it clear that it is over.

[Anonymous]

Rephrase. “This is not working out. The relationship is over.”

[Pterodon]

“I’m breaking up with you”