My boyfriend is gonna be a supportworker in a place for problematic teenagers, how can I stop that to bother me?

[Anonymous]

I feel bad for feeling this way but some facts really makes me feel bothered. My boyfriend and I together for 4 years LDR. We're gonna Marry this year and end the distance. But because of of the marriage costs, he got to work a lot. This place needs workers and his agency put him there. It's very cozy home place that those problematic teenagers stay. Im 23 and My boyfriend is gonna be 30 this year but he does not look aged at all, he looks so young. he is very handsome and fit. Those teenagers are most likely females and ages are 14, 15. I feel that they wouldn't see him as an adult. And he will be working 12 hours everyday 4 days at least. He has no choice but to work, I understand but My anxiety took over me and can't stop keep thinking about this. Because what if they get angry when they dont get attention they want and start rumors and get him to trouble as well. How can I calm myself about my paranoid thoughts...

[MsProsperity]

Obviously they’re going to make moves on him but it’s up to him to entertain them or be loyal to, there’s nothing you can do. Stop worrying and take it as a test to know the kinda man you’ll be marrying. Don’t tell him to avoid them, let him decide. If he really loves you, he’ll avoid them without hesitating. And you need to trust him if you don’t, don’t marry him.

[MsProsperity]

Be loyal to you*

[Asker]

Thank you so much for your understanding answer. I'm trying to calm myself. He said so many times that he ll be professional as much as possible to not create any scenario. We had a speech about the risk of the job. But human nature I can stop being like this...

[Asker]

Even if he's not avoiding them and play along, how will i ever know...

[MsProsperity]

You’ll notice a few changes in him. Hiding of phones, lack of sex, talks about the females a lot or he’ll stop talking about his day at work etc

[MsProsperity]

Support him and trust him, if you do this I swear he’ll never play along. Trust me

[Asker]

We're in long distande relationship unfortunately it makes even harder... but thank you so much😊🙏🏻

[Asker]

I will try my best to support him and trust him. He has to do it cuz its so hard to be employed...

[MsProsperity]

I understand girl but most men leave women they love because of overthinking and lack of trust. Men need someone who trust them and who have confidence in herself. He’s your man, he’s even marrying you. Worry about the wedding plan not some teenage girls

[MsProsperity]

Yes and he’s doing to in order to give you the weeding you want. That’s pure love

[Asker]

Wow you are so right! Because he can live good even with the half of work he does now. So he really is struggling for me for our future... i will do my best to support him and your answers made me understand even better... thank you for your wise advices. I wish you a very happy life and blessings💖thank you so much😊🙏🏻

[MsProsperity]

It’s my pleasure. Thank you❤️☺️☺️
I wish you the best with your marriage and life, you deserve every good thing that is coming your way. Stop worrying instead appreciate him because he loves you and he’s working hard to make you happy

[Asker]

You are absolutely right🙏🏻😊♥️ i will focus on all the things you say, thank you so much♥️♥️ take care😊♥️

[Anonymous]

So you’re feeling threatened by underaged girls? Please don’t do that. Your man is grown and unless you’ve turned a blind eye, isn’t interested in teenage children. This is not an intimidating job for him to be doing and honestly it’s a little sick for you to worry about these girls in that way. So what if any of them get a crush, he’s not acting on it.

[Asker]

You're right. It's not their age or whatever. I'm an ultra jealous person in general. So any female bothers me

[Opinion Owner]

How have you been able to do an LDR all these years with so much jealousy and anxiety? Your mental health is doing ok?

[Asker]

I am managing it as much as I can cuz we had plan all the way so I calmed myself. But no it's very challenging.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow, I know for myself with my anxiety I couldn’t do more than a year of that so it’s good you can! Anyway, try not to overthink that job when it comes to the girls bc like I said, they’re kids. If any of them got a crush and tried acting on it, he’s the adult in the situation and would be judged as such. I mean this man would risk hard time, not to mention prison justice from inmates, messing with an underaged girl. I doubt you’d marry a man with such interests either lol. You’re in the home stretch, did good all this time controlling how you feel, so hang in there.

[Asker]

Your reply made me feel really understood.. thank you so much. I put my life on hold for my relationship and all i want is finish this mess phase... ill really try my best.🙏🏻😊

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know if your life is still on hold, but if it is then please please pick it back up! You don’t live for this guy and your life doesn’t revolve around him. What you don’t want is to completely lose your sense of self when he gets here. Just a little advice lol and no worries! Congratulations on your future marriage, it’s been a long time coming💛

[Asker]

You're absolutely right on your thoughts and I know too. But I'm submissive kind of person naturally. I see a beautiful family life with him that i never had in my life. Maybe it's my lack that i always dreamed of a normal old style family life. I wanted to be looked after always. He didn't azk me to put my life hold on but i just wanted to make him trust me limitlessly. I wanted to focus on our relationship and be there for him that's why we have a solid relationship now. I could have too busy to listen him if i didn't put my life hold on. I choose love cuz i never loved anyone in my life before, till i met him,. He's my first ever, in everything as you can understand. I'm happy I did those sacrifises hopefully we will finish the distance as soon as possible. Thank you for understanding me without judging🙏🏻😊 i will try to focus on our relationship and make him relaxed as much as possible instead of thinkimg about these bad things. Thank you so much for your kind answers they helped me a lot🙏🏻😊 i also wish you a beautiful life with full of happiness🥰💖