My boyfriend is becoming a bad influence on me

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is kind of a huge pot-head, and lately for some reason, I've been getting into that stuff. I'm a really good kid, and I've always had a good head on my shoulders and all of a sudden, now I'm a horrible kid and it's all my boyfriends fault.

He's such a sweet person, and I truly care for him since we have been friends for a while and just recently started dating.

Any ideas on what I should do? Because my parents and friends have all noticed a huge change in me, and not for the better.

[bond00713]

Gotta let this stud go. Smokin the Hippy Lettuce leads to no motivation, leading to no job, leading to no money and this is not the type of guy you want to spend time with. I don't give a damn how sweet he is. I understand how you may see certain qualities in him but often time smokin urb leads to other things like alcohol, X, sid, shrooms and any other drug that may give them a similar or more potent high.

And parents and friends know you best. If they see the change (and its not positive), then of course they're going to relate it to the guy. You even admitted it yourself.

Loose the dude...you'll be better for it. You may not see it now...but you don't wanna waste another year or two coming to this very conclusion.

[And-Once-I-Was-Human]

your boyfriend might be a bad influence, but you can't put all the blame on him...you're choosing to do the things you're doing even if it's because of peer pressure. you're not a bad kid and at least you've recognized you've got a problem..now it's up to you to decide whether or not you can resist the temptations when you're around him and if you can't, you need to space yourself from him

[Enideqa]

I went through the same thing when I first meet my husband, we were 16 and he was a hug pot head, I think like 5 or 6 times a day he would get high. I started to get into that life style with him, and I was always the good girl, never in trouble. When I started to notice that it was going too far, I had to tell him, that I just have to stay myself which didn't mean he had to change, I just wouldn't smoke up with him anymore and stuff like that. He was a little unhappy at first that I wasn't going to do it anymore, but he started dating me because I was me, and not to bring me over to his side, so it worked out in the end.

[Asker]

this is exactly what ended up happening with my boyfriend & I. we are still together to this day.

[Anonymous]

It's all your bf's faut

You can't take any responsibility for your actions. He must have held a gun to your head and made you smoke that pot and become a horrible person.

Maybe you should open your mouth and say NO. Stop doing all these things if it his having a negative impact on your life. Maybe even lose the bf

[Asker]

no one said he held a gun to my head & forced me to do it you, b*tch. I was just saying he is the first person I ever hung out with who does it, & if it weren't for me meeting him I wouldn't have even considered it. I made the decision to start, no one forced me. but I also made the decision to stop. he & I are still together, and I'm the best I've ever been.

[Opinion Owner]

Watch who you call a bitch, you stupid whore, you were blaming everything on your boyfriend instead of taking responsibility for your actions. If he was the first person you met that jumped off bridges would you have done that too? Congrats about your life story, stay on the good track kid

[Anonymous]

I hope you left him.