My boyfriend is really careless and irresponsible regarding his own future and life and it turns me off a bit. What do I do?

[Bloopbloopbloop]

He's been having his exams and I feel like I'm the only one stressing about it and forcing him to study. I even completed some of the topics to help him complete his syllabus instead of studying on my own. He wasted his time doing nothing and I felt that i couldn't study in his presence and wasted my time as well. I didn't wanna leave him alone cuz he was stressed about his exams but I think I could've completed my goals instead. He's careless about a lot of other things and I am slowly becoming his mom and he has become my annoying child. If I say these things to him, he'll probably hide his problems or anxiety from me, which I don't want. I am worried about my future too and hanging out with him takes up a lot of my time. I haven't acted on these thoughts because I really love him and he really takes care of me whenever I'm stressed or overwhelmed. I wish he'd just become more responsible but that kind of change doesn't appear overnight in a person 😔

[BoopBoopBeep]

Does he need to study? I can probably count the times I studied for something in college, ended up with a 3.88 GPA and a 6-figure job. He may be stressed because he simply dislikes tests.

Or none of that could apply and he actually IS irresponsible. In my experience, people like that rarely change until some catastrophic event forces them to finally be responsible. Doesn't sound like he found his yet.

[provokeesmokee]

Welcome to most men our age.

The best thing you can do is leave him and let him fail. Some people really need to fail and hit rock bottom before they learn.

You don't deserve a manchild baby to take care of. You deserve a man who matches your responsibility level.

Ditch this loser so he can learn on his own and go date someone new.

Both my ex bfs were like this and now both are either underemployed or unemployed and living with his mother.

[Anonymous]

Now do you want to hear all the problems he finds with you?

No you're not his mom, stop trying to be. You can encourage him, but at the end of the day it's HIS life to live. To do good, to do bad, to do right or wrong. You need to make you peace with that ACCEPT IT, or move on.

[exitseven]

There may come a time in this relationship when you have to realize that he will never change. Or maybe he de ides to grow up and be more responsible

[msc545]

People mature at different rates and handle stress differently at different times and circumstances. There is not a lot you can do to make it better.

[jeffend888]

You’re still in your mid 20s. You have time to move on and find someone who aligns with you to create a nuclear family with.

[Staximus]

Tell him you want a man, not a child you have to mother and motivate.

[KingOfMe1]

@Staximus How do you tell him that in a less hostile way?

[Alex8736]

Ignorance is bliss

[Huntingnfishin]

Dump his ass