How to cope with boyfriend being grounded or possibly convince his parents to unground him?

[Anonymous]

Okay my boyfriend got grounded for cussing at his mom even though she completely deserved it. I can’t see him for a week and it’s the summer. I can’t go a week without him, especially knowing I can do things to see him. He has cameras and shares a room. I literally have no friends, he is the only person in my life. My parents are crappy and will just make me cook if I say I feel lonely cuz he isn’t here. I’m also lying to them and my therapist saying that he is just busy. He has his phone I think but literally only messages me when I say like I love you or smth. I am close with his family and he said I might make it worse by trying to come by everyday but maybe if they see it effects me and hurts me they’ll unground him. Maybe his dad will unground him since it’s his mom that did. I just need to see him within 3 days or else I will go insane. Like seriously insane. Again this is only because I have no one else in my life but him and he’s the only positive thing I can look forward to but now he isn’t here and it makes it to where I can’t even sleep or get up and I just cry because I’m like why couldn’t I have just been there to stop it? I also have no social media or anything like that so I don’t have much to do. I know I probably sound obsessive and codependent but I just have no one else but him so what do people expect?

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Update - His mom apologized and ungrounded him but he still isn’t seeing me for 3 days because he said there’s a new variant of covid and his mom wants him to be careful and stay inside. At least he kinda talks to me now..

[Anonymous]

you know what... just let your boyfriend reap the consequences of cussing out his own mother. there is nothing you can do. you can see him later. this is truly not the end of the world, tho i'm sure it feels like it to you. things could be worse. you CAN go a week without seeing him. fuck, i've gone longer not seeing my partner. get a hobby...

also another word of advice, never make someone your whole world. because then you feel like this. he is the only person you know? seriously no friends? that can easily turn toxic.

another problem you have here, he has his phone and can text, but only texts you when you say you love him? yeah... this dude isn't make you his whole world like you are making him your whole world.

there are other things in this life that are worth doing instead of crying over your boyfriend for a week. please don't cry over this for too long, it'll only make you more miserable. seriously tho, i mean this in the nicest way, find a hobby. learn something new.

[Asker]

Thank you

[slatyb]

I'm sorry your home situation is difficult, but you can survive a week. He's grounded, does that mean no contact at all?

Why are you lying to your therapist? Do you not trust them to keep your sessions confidential? Professionally they are not allowed to repeat anything you tell them to anyone including your parents. Do you not trust this therapist in particular? Do you think you could be more open with someone else? Not all therapists are a good fit for all clients.

[Asker]

I kinda just am aware I’m gonna be told to socialize but I don’t have anyone to socialize with. That’s why I lied and said I was having a good day and such. I don’t exactly get messaged by anyone and whenever I message others it’s typically as if I’m a bother. I just know I get told the same thing and I just wanna pretend I’m happy so that way no one tells me that I need to do anything because 9 times out of 10 it’s something not helpful.

[Guy13]

I doubt a teen girlfriend is going to be able to negotiate a better deal for her imprisoned boyfriend with both the Parent and key holding Warden. Go get your analytical math and physic books and prepare to enjoy your weekend to its full potential...

[Asker]

That’s the problem. It’s that it’s summer so I don’t have school or any studies. Im in no extracurricular activities. Have no social circle. Anything like that. He said he was going to discuss getting a shorter grounding and that it was working but he hasn’t updated me and ignored my question. I say ignored because he answered to everything else I said. For some reason he’s grounded and has his phone but won’t really talk to me a lot. He just says I love you too and then leave until i message him again saying I love you or I miss you.

[Guy13]

Yeah, that's a pretty chilled warden (Parent) who allows anyone to keep their phone or computer equipment. Maybe he will get a shorter sentence...

[Iron_Man]

Don’t take on any boyfriends under the age of 18

[Asker]

I’m literally in high school and so is he. We are the same age. We’ve been together for 5 months now.

[boobliker]

mum is always RIGHT even when she is not as a boy it's her way of spanking

[Avicenna]

It won’t last forever