I desperately need help, is he srsly consider me as a friend or more?

[Anonymous]

- He likes to pat my head, alwayss

- He sometimes would like wrap his arm around my back and jokingly tap2 me while sing lullaby like a mum did to a baby (he is the one who point it out as well)

- He once try to play my chin like we did to a cat (as picture shown)

But all of that, sometimes he would act sweet as well

- Fasten seatbelt for me

- Touch my lap frequently

- Hold / interlocking my hand

He do sometimes hint to me as if I rejected him before, and now he frequently say we are friends bla3.. Like im confusedd

[spartan55]

If you rejected him why does any of this matter?

Pats you on the head? That's really weird, are you his pet dog?

[Asker]

I never reject him. But he misunderstood it..
Actually i want him but now im in dilemma if i shld or not since im confused if he already put me in the friendzone or not..

Well im not, hence im asking, preferably from a guy pov, why some people would do that

[spartan55]

What do you mean he misunderstood it? What exactly happened before?
I have no idea WHY he does it. I can tell you why I would never pat a woman on the head: it's demeaning, patronizing, belittling and condescending. It's a gesture saying 'you are not as smart as me, just sit over there'. I can't understand why anyone would think it was something positive. If someone did that to me I would break their fingers.

[Asker]

Well technically he invited me out for few times, but i had a solid reason as to why i can't at that particular time and i told him the reason. But he didn’t trust and he say my reason is merely to just protect him from being embarrassed getting ‘rejected’.. but there is still a lot of times where i agree to go out with him.
Thats actually true what u said, i didn't really take it as a positive, well once in awhile yes, but frequently, its started to get weird

[spartan55]

Not sure how it could be positive 'once in a while' but whatever.
So, I'm still confused. You said there are still a lot of times you agree to go with him? Do you? Are these dates? Group things?

[Asker]

I would say its a ‘date’.. its always just the 2 of us everywhere. Only starting last few months went things went a bit downhill, we started to go out in a group. (But there is still time just the 2 of us)

[spartan55]

He thinks you aren't into him as more than friends.

[spartan55]

He sounds like a fucking weirdo tbh, is he really the best you can do?

[Asker]

I mean.. sigh.. I don't know man, im too invested in him. Prolly because he already meet my fam, and everyone ‘approve’ him

[spartan55]

Really? Okay. I would definitely put an end to that head patting shit though.

[John_Cobretti]

Does he ever call you "Kitten"?

[Asker]

Noo. But he do give weird nickname smtimes. Like spongebob or cheeseburger