Which gender gets hurt by female hypergamy?

[marish01]

I think women.

Imagine how painful it is to never meet the man you desire or not being able to make him commit.

Women

Men

[D_Bone_Steak]

Every gender gets hurt by it. Do you know how my females I've talked to just today about dealing with their Mom's being jealous of their boyfriend's? ... you don't want to know.

Not one dude on here though talking about how their Dad tried to steal their girlfriend, or sabotage their relationship with their girlfriend, and all that jealousy stuff over it.

Hop over to the manosphere if you want to hear about how it hurts men. I wanna talk about how it's hurting women. I'm avoiding how women hurt themselves with it... find that over on some red pill content... all the points are already there. I want to point out how they hurt each other. I mean for fucks sake... men sometimes benefit from all the whamen's in-fighting.

[Gospeedracer]

Why would you Commit if your a guy? Your Expected to be the bread winner but also do half the housework while spending the rest of your life doing only what she wants you to do which is rarely enough to make her happy anyway. Work your fingers to the bone to make a life for you both and then she leaves you for another guy and takes the house with her and then your left not being able to put a roof over your head and food on the table because your locked into paying child support and Alimony for the next couple of decades. Why even take the risk?

[Anonymous]

men get hurt in the short run but women get hurt in the long run

and because women are being hurt in the long run is why they try to reinforce feminism to ruin the next generation of young women

[marish01]

They can't stand younger women being happy

[CalmUntilAbused]

Both. However, in terms of quantity, more men will be rejected by women than women will be rejected by men.

Oh, and trust me, as a man I don't have to imagine how painful what You mentioned is, as I will likely never find a woman who desires me that I will desire as well (and the women I might desire will be utterly impossible for me to make them commit to me).

[KlinkyCoder]

Men, can't really say much about women because I can only speak from the male POV.

Statistically, there have been surveys and studies done on the difference between genders preferences on dating sites and the number of sexless men and the numbers on there disproportionately negatively affect men more.

[genericname85]

women. men get to fuck the girl and move on so it's a win for them. the woman will find herself in a situation where attractive men don't want her anymore because she used to be hypergam.

[genericname85]

like if you're planning on a life of infinite sexual hedonism, this may acutally work even for women. but if you're planning to have a family one day, that's not a good idea.

[Lionman95]

I would say guys are hurt, too since it gives a guy the message that he´s not seen worth enough to stay loyal to. Hypergamy might be evolutionary but it´s devastating to the other partner.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The man does because he's literally getting dump for some other dude that has more money than he does.

Those kind of women aren't looking for love anyways nor care for it.

Just want money and lifestyle.

[jshm2]

Both as it's bullshit.

So called "hypergamy" is just a nicer way of saying "gold digger"

[DextroShade]

Men mostly, but women will also suffer in the long run when they die alone because they "knew their worth" and refused to "settle" for men on their level.

[Grond21]

It's not mutually exclusive. Nor is all hypergamy bad. But when it is bad both get hurt in different ways. Do you not see that?

[marish01]

How does each gender get hurt?

[Grond21]

Because good men get overlooked. They haven't yet achieved success or status and so they are invisible to women who are using this kind of metric. Plus, as social media connects communities the hypergamous effects on both sexes becomes hyper exaggerated

[marish01]

How does it hurt women then?

[Grond21]

Because it makes them miss out on good men. Because it makes it harder to find a man. Because you have to compete with other women for a smaller amount of men. Because it takes longer to find a good man it makes your fertile window effectively smaller

[marish01]

And then they will end uo with men they feel no desire and have to live with them without loving them sexually

[Grond21]

Some of them will. And the men they end up with will have to live with knowing a woman settled for them and didn't choose them because they loved them

[Unit1]

both

"Women" selling their love

"Men" risking being with and investing in someone, that doesn't love him

[Dongie]

Well if it's a social disease then it's men. They suffer the condition but that's one less per for a lonely guy. I really don't know what it means. Maybe I'll look up the definition.

[Guanfei]

Men.

Women's hypergamy eventually ends up by them finding someone. While men get nothing.

[marish01]

Someone they have no desire for

[CalmUntilAbused]

@marish01 Still better than being alone for life.

[RingOfFire]

I don't follow the question.

What does not meeting the man you desire or lack of commitment have to do with hypergamy?

[Kingofkings1992]

Men 100 percent, because they’re being valued for their money and not who they are as a person. In what way does a woman get hurt in that circumstance? She’s got the good life.

[Anonymous]

C - both. Female hypergamy harms both sexes in different ways.

[loveslongnails]

I'm confused as to how your description fits the definition of hypergamy?

[IceCreamSandwich]

What is female hypergamy?

[Kelly6]

@marish01 I think woman

[Friendlybro79]

Things are so complicated nowadays. Lol.

[BeeNee]

Anytime anyone younger than me starts talking about the modern dating world and gender issues and on and on, I'm like remember when a boy liked a girl and a girl liked a boy and they just decided they liked each other and went on a date. Now there are timelines that you have to follow, and code words for everything you do, and the internet that seems to ruin everyone and everything...I'm too old for this shhhh.

[Friendlybro79]

@BeeNee well I think it was a little more complicated than that for some people always but now I read articles that are saying if you text a girl after a first date the next day had a good time last night have a good day that there's something wrong with that lol. Younger people (not all) seem to overcomplicate everything with the made up slang, (which I don't care do you but it's complicating things for you based on all the questions here on gag for ex) and unwritten rules of engagement with tech in the dating world. My favorite is people getting the ick. I actually get a kick out of that but nice gestures interrupted as something weird giving people the ick is hilarious to me.

Hence why I think dating today is so complicated. All brought on by themselves. Just go out have a good time stop trying to find something wrong about everything so you can post it for a couple of views lol

Hence

[Friendlybro79]

I don't mean you @BeeNee personally just a general statement. I hate we can't edit lol

[elaphe]

First you'll need to define 'hypergamy.'

[Dongie]

That's what I was wondering. I said men anyway. That's the usual correct answer.

[RingOfFire]

What I assume she is talking about is women who seek relationships with men who are wealthier than they are and or above their social status.

And apparently she is asking which person gets hurt more by that.

The question makes no sense to me because first it assumes that somebody does get hurt and I think that's not an objective premise. When people get together they do it for various reasons and well I assume that anyone is hurt by it? It may be perfectly satisfying for both of them under these conditions.

Secondly I don't know why she assumes that the woman "never meets the man she desires," because if she meets the rich man, that by definition of hypergamy is the man she desires. So I don't follow that.

And lastly she mentions not being able to get the man to commit. But I don't know what that has to do with it. Just because a man is wealthy does not mean that he can't commit to a woman who is less wealthy. I don't follow that point.

So either I am misunderstanding the question or the poster doesn't understand what hypergamy means and is making assumptions that don't relate to the word.

[marish01]

@RingOfFire i also meant looks

[Dongie]

Doesn't most people hook with what they find goodlookin?

[RingOfFire]

Sorry, I'm still not following the question. Presumably if two people voluntarily hook up it means they are getting what they want, at least initially. So why the assumption that they are not getting what they want? I'm just not clear on that.

[Dongie]

The woman is a gold digger but she'd so smokin hot she can get a good-looking rich dude. You know, LOVE.

[RingOfFire]

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