Do you need a good looking body 💪🏿 to have a girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

No but it helps attract more females’ to you, if they find you attractive , You don’t need a ripped cut body but you shouldn’t allow yourself to get completely out of shape , Most girls’ don’t look at guys’ like guys’ look at girls’ most girls’ are drawn to a guys’ personality and heart over anything else for the most part , he has to have some attractive qualities about him for her to be interested , I am not the most in shape guy, I always have been broad and big boned with some muscle and padding on my body , I use to be my own worst enemy thinking girls’ wouldn’t like me because I felt big and fat , but surprisingly I really didn’t have much trouble attracting girls’ , I use to question myself as to what she likes about me , to figure out it was more my personality and the fact she felt protected by me , Most girls’ love having a guy she feels safe and protected by that has a good heart and personality for the most part , I don’t land every girl but I am not shy to try lol

[Crimsyjo]

Exactly! I want that "feels safe and protected" feeling! You sound like type of guy physically I would want a relationship with 😊

[Finchie40]

Thanks for the compliment 😋

[y7e9lkc]

great response; you have a lot of insight into how women view men!

[Finchie40]

Honestly , I have been trying to figure out you females’ for a long time , only because I would love to find a female that stands by my side for the long haul instead of the short haul 😋

[Summeroflove]

Well almost anyone can have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. But is it the kind of person you want? Being in good shape is something anyone can do unless you have a medical condition that says otherwise. People can get mad when someone judges them over stuff they can’t control, but being in good physical shape is a choice.

Though I think what’s on the inside matters more then what’s on the outside.

[SallyTho87]

You need to be confident with your own self first. You cannot be happy with a girlfriend, or anyone else, if you're not happy with who you are right now.

People don't need to be insanely fit to date. I like a man who treats me properly, shares the same values, is respectful, funny, understanding and actually enjoys spending time with me. nothing i mentioned above has anything to do with his fitness level or physical appearance. That is just icing on the cake.

So long as he is healthy, takes care of his body, eats properly and lives a healthy-ish lifestyle im down to date no matter what his fitness level is. Men don't need to be these sculpted, massive muscley gods. They need to be themselves, comfy in their own skin, confident and happy in life to share it with someone new. Don't put so much pressure on yourself! 😊

[jennifer_bloom]

Replace the word good looking with confident and normal. Any normal looking guy with a good heart and a job is able to attract a good woman if his visual standards are low enough. If he wants a girl that looks like Candace Swanepoel, he might have to wait a long time.

[Abhishek4444]

I am handsome but girls reject me because I am skinny and hairy

[Fatema_235]

@Abhishek4444
They are not the right people for you.

[Abhishek4444]

@Fatema_235 thank you for your answer

[kmg9150]

@Abhishek4444 did they tell you that specifically or you assuming? The reality is that your low in confidence because of those things about your body so it projects. Women are less attracted to the appearance than men, its a proven psych fact. Do some research on how the female brain operates that is the best advice I can give you. Focus on how you make them feel, not how they think you look. Have clean nails, shower, smell good, brush your teeth, and be confident.

[OlderAndWiser]

Usually, whatever attribute the asker is lacking is the one that the asker assumes girl’s are “really” looking for. The truth is that what most girls are looking for is a guy is assertive and confident without being arrogant or cocky.

[wiltingrosepetal]

Wow, you really earned your username

[Avicenna]

LOL, not necessarily. I see plenty of overweight people with partners.

[AviatorTom]

No, but it helps. Helps even better if she has a good looking body.

[Bricealan]

Not from what I see in public these days, with the guy with the huge pot belly walking with the equally fat girlfriend, but I just shake my head in disbelief. I, for one, work my ass off to stay slim and toned and it is no easy job, at my age, and it takes hard work.

That said, I have men in my Yoga Class, that Supposedly' are working hard, but are still over weight with a huge spare tire waist-line.

Not sure if my weight and routine will develop a girlfriend for me, as I just recently dumped a long term girlfriend who was 'bone thin"

[MrExperienced]

Absolutely not, you need confidence, charisma, and the ability to not only listen but to make them talk about themselves and you gotta be able to make her laugh! Last year I decided to have an experiment in the poly world after a very nasty divorce. I lost enough weight to have some confidence and I asked two young ladies who were already super close to be my girlfriends and to try a throuple relationship and to my surprise they said yes and thought it was a great idea. It didn’t last very long, maybe 3 weeks but here I went from feeling like the biggest reject in the world after my ex walked out on her family to going to bed with two super hot chics who were both 12 years younger than me! You gotta believe in yourself and that’s were you must start.

[CourtneyJane2]

Put it simply: If you're obsese and resemble Sloth from The Goonies, you have no business pursuing a girl who looks as if she should be on a runway somewhere. Stay in your lane.

If you want the hot girl lose the gut, get your teeth fixed, workout to get fit, work on your social skills, move out of your mom's, get your money straightened out and get a career (not a job) that gets you at least a decent wage and allows a social life.

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

No! Clearly you’ve never step foot in a Walmart! There are some wildly obese men (and women) scooting around on their mobility scooters, b/c they’re too fat to walk, but they still have a significant other. That’s why I always say, I don’t care what you think, there is literally always someone out there for you!

[Abhishek4444]

I am handsome but girls reject me because I am skinny and hairy

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

Look @Abhishek4444 , I know of lots of women absolutely LOVE skinny men! There are men who like skinny women, there are men who like “thick” women. Surely you understand that. As I wrote above, have yo ever been to a Walmart? There are huge amounts of overweight men and women with romantic partners! Just be patient, and become the best version of the intelligent, caring man you are, and the women who ARE attracted to skinny men will want you, and the women who see what a great man you are, but don’t necessarily find themselves usually attracted to skinny men, will likely overlook the fact that you are skinny, because they just want a sweet, kind man who will treat them well, and not betray them. Trust me, looks are not AS important to most women, certainly not AS important as a great sense of humor, and a kind heart.

Take care.
Sincerely, Laura.

[Abhishek4444]

I am Indian and I live in India that's why it's impossible to find a girlfriend even if I am handsome

[Abhishek4444]

thank you but whenever I see some boy of my age I feel jealous why don't I have a girlfriend as it makes me feel inferior to them

[Abhishek4444]

I see most useless boys who don't even have manners that how to behave which we call chhapri in India have girlfriends

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

@Abhishek4444 I’m sorry you are having such difficulties in finding a girlfriend. That must be terrible. I do see, just in your writing, that say you are jealous, and to me your writing seems to indicate that you don’t feel very good about your body’s appearance. That could indicate a low sense of self esteem. I am really saddened when I read something from a man who seems to have lost all hope. I will say this…. As being a woman, who’s friends are all women, and who belongs to several women’s only organizations, who works with only women, all of whom I consider friends (and in some cases my sisters) that we share a lot when we talk. Every woman has different tastes in men. What one woman may find gorgeous, another may find very unattractive. The one thing I have yet to come across is a woman who likes men with low self esteem. Maybe try working on yourself, loving yourself, and accepting yourself as you are. Not to get over confident, most women don’t like that either. But to be sure of yourself, and that you bring something to the relationship that she both wants and needs. When you improve your self confidence, and you believe in your value as a man, to a woman… maybe then you will begin to see more success with women. Other than that, I don’t see any other way that I could be of additional assistance, except to say this… If you don’t believe in yourself, how do you expect a woman to believe in you? If you don’t believe your body-type is good enough to get a girlfriend, why would, or should any woman believe your body-type is good enough? You should not expect of others (especially women) that which you do not believe yourself. If you do not believe you're being skinny, makes you good enough to have a girlfriend… Why would you expect any woman to believe that you are?

I sincerely wish you nothing but the best of health and happiness for your life.
Sincerely, Laura 🤗 🥰

[Abhishek4444]

Thank you for your appreciation but human psychology says if a human hate himself the world will hate him if a human love himself the world will love him I will love myself from now on as I am white and handsome I just need some patience and to talk with random girls so that I can get a girlfriend of my choice

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

PART 1 of 2
@Abhishek4444 It's is actually NOT part of human psychology to say "if a human hates himself the world will hate him, and if a human loves himself the world will love him”! That might be a religious or sociological philosophy, but it is NOT psychological idiom.! Not sure if you knew, but I’m just a few months away from getting my masters degree in psychology and becoming a professional psychologist. I only have to complete my required hours treating patients in a clinical setting (also called clinical hours), and then submit and defend my masters thesis. I know psychology, and what you wrote isn't a principle of psychology. That saying seems more like a philosophical saying. While it’s generally true that if you have a healthy sense of self esteem, people will be more likely to enjoy spending time with you, talking to you etc…. but there is no guarantee that merely loving yourself will make other’s love YOU. Likewise, people with low self esteem, may have many friends, even a romantic partner. They just have such a low self esteem that they do not believe they deserve that love, or those friends.

Self esteem is "confidence in your own self worth", and is synonymous with self respect. It's a leading indicator of the amount of close friends and romantic relationships you’ll have. However, it’s a very delicate balancing act! Too little self esteem and you begin to come across as needy, or even pathetic. (meaning: that you make other’s feel pity for you). However too MUCH self esteem, and you come across as arrogant, as if you believe that you are better than anyone else!

I will say this; You are absolutely correct when you wrote that you just need patience, and to work on your communication skills. Try to talk to women with NO expectation whatsoever of ever dating her, without the stress of thinking about whether or not you will be in a romantic relationship with her.. That’s a really great idea!
Continued below… 👇 ⬇️

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

PART 2 of 2
Early negative experiences can cause you to have a low self esteem. However, people have widely varying levels of resilience to outside circumstances. You can experience one or more causes of low self-esteem without it actually affecting your personal self-esteem. Which explains why two siblings raised in the same home, who went through the same experiences, could have two very different levels of self esteem.

Potential causes of low self-esteem during childhood and adolescence can include:

1) experiencing ongoing harsh criticism from authority figures, such as parents or teachers.
2) being raised by emotionally distant parents or caregivers, who never taught you self confidence.
3) going through childhood trauma, such as parental divorce or sexual abuse
4) having trouble keeping up at school.
5) having a physical or mental disability.
6) feeling less attractive than the ideal image portrayed in social media.
7) childhood sexual abuse.

These are the reasons that I say you should probably seek therapy. It would be terrible if you missed out on one of life’s greatest rewards, true love, just because of something that happened when you were very young, possibly something you don’t even remember! You need to increase your sense of self confidence so that you may live a full, rewarding, and complete life! Whether you actually do or not, is not for me to say. But not getting help for your self esteem issues, will eventually cost you your ability to live up to your potential, leaving you feeling unfulfilled!

I truly wish you the very best.
Most sincerely, Laura 🤗 🥰

[Imsmurter1]

Would you be my girlfriend? Thanks

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

@Imsmurter1 I’m sure yo are a great guy, but I already have one, and I’m not the type of woman who betrays my promise to be faithful. I believe men deserve more respect than to promise to remain faithful to a relationship, then “trade up” when someone else comes along. But it was really sweet of you to ask (even if you were only joking),
Laura 🤗 🥰

[Imsmurter1]

I'm just lonely thanks for response

[Cute_Miss_Laura]

@Imsmurter1 You are very welcome, sweetie.

Laura 🤗 🥰

[Siri137]

No, of course not. If that's the case, then why do I see so many fat couples when I go out? You would only need a "good looking body" to go out with someone else who had a "good looking body", because she's a gym freak, and like attracts like.

[Abhishek4444]

I am handsome but girls reject me because I am skinny and hairy

[Sushi2405]

Honestly, a good sense of humor goes a long way. I swearrr... I have had exceptionally handsome boyfriend before but he had noo sense of humor. Also he was boring. At first or in your teenage time you get attrated to pretty faces but if someone is mature enough, they will look for the personality and character the guy holds. Also attraction cause merely by someone's handsomely face is temporary. But when it's the personality that make you look attractive, it goes a very long way. I hope you got my point sweetie.

[ZackBan]

No but it definitely makes your job a little easier.

I personally was never shredded like that always had some fat on me, but I do go to the gym and try to keep my overall shape more fit than fat.
But even at my worst I could get girls.
Admittedly it's easier the more fit you are

[Bondage_Bruce]

I'm here on Girls as Guys diving into all sorts of kinks, and I think there are far more important attributes than a good body, like mental fortitude, emotional resilience, intellectual curiosity, and above all, willingness to serve and obey My commands without hesitation. If someone can become a human toilet at the snap of my fingers, or take an internal egg probe at the drop of a hat, then they indeed become a valuable asset worthy of My attention.

[serious]

No, not necessarily but yes if the man is muscular, has a great physique that it would definitely be an added advantage.

In my view what matters is how strong the man is mentally, like if he can take tough decisions and has a strong personality or not.

[lilyanony1]

No I don't like high maintenance boyfriends.

I prefer guys that like fitness for health not for getting women.

In my dating life I've dated guys from buff to chubby. And they all had issues with their body from being egotistical to having low confidence.

It's better to find a confident partner, in my opinion. They're far better to look at.

[college-student2021]

No necessary, does it help yeah like being handsome helps but at the end, confident attitude, being clean , dressing good and learning social skills will be the 80% in getting a girlfriend. I seen the ugly guys pick slightly above average to beautiful woman.


But I highly recommend every man to get a good body not for a woman but for himself. It will boost your self esteem and confidence.

[Seinna]

You can have a girlfriend with a bad looking body if you have a bad looking body yourself. It also depends on how good or bad your body is and your other qualities as well as the things you want in your partner. If you just want a partner, any partner then you will find one, but it's always a matter of lowering your expectations and not many people are willing to do that.

[Man-O-Metal]

Well, define "good looking". There's different categories that people go for. Athletic fit, slim, slim thick, thick. Obviously everyone should be trying to live a heathly lifestyle, but no one is telling you that you must be athletic fit. If you want to be that fit, that's up to you. Same for the other categories.

[Yazu-chan]

No. Personally? I’m a face person. I have a pretty face so I look for my partner to have a pretty face as well. Similarly, my body type is about average so I’m fine with someone with an average body or chubbier. If they’re fit, that’s fine too. HOWEVER, if they don’t have a pretty face.. then the body has to compensate for it lol. Generally though, pretty face, good personality, morals, good job, car, and a stable living situation and you’re good to go!

[patrick994]

Yes, you need to, if you want to improve your chances of getting a girlfriend, you have to take care of your appearance to the utmost until you become the best version of yourself, of course it is also important to work on your personality, but aesthetics take the lead.

[mobiusforniner]

No. But women want a man who’s at least aware of his own hygiene and grooming. Like, nobody wants an unkept slob. I know we say outward appearance doesn’t (or shouldn’t) matter, but first impressions are important. If one doesn’t take care of themselves on the outside, what is she to think about how he takes care of anything (or anyone) else?

[FreyaRed]

Yes and no.
Yes, if you're just an narcissist dumbass with intellect of an ameba.
No, if you have an interesting personality, mixed with humor and general knowledge.

[Abhishek4444]

I am handsome but girls reject me because I am skinny and hairy