Why can't women be nicer?

Question

I find the ones that are really desirable are generally not very nice people.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It could be a number of reasons. One being that they probably have so many men hit on them they’re tired of it. Especially if it’s only viewing them from a sexual POV. Some women just want to have a “normal” life w out men always trying to approach them. Hell some of them may be like movie stars always getting attention that it can become overwhelming. But at the same time it could be an inflated ego. That because all these men are coming after them they can treat them however they want because to those women like that those men are a dime a dozen. But eventually as time goes on, like a friend of mine, she realizes these men aren’t coming to her door anymore. Now she’s almost 30, no man, wondering why she can’t meet a dude. She told me the other night I guess I figured I had all the time in the world, that all these men who were wanting to take me out, date me, now they’ve moved on. Now I’m left alone.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Because generally speaking, the more attractive anyone is (male or female), the more they experience the halo effect. And when most humans receive such great treatment on a consistent basis, their perception of self increases tenfold. They get high on the power & start to adopt narcissistic &/or antisocial behaviors because they know many will tolerate them still. They know they will still have loyal followers. Ones that don't require anything more of them than vain superficiality.

This is not the only reason for the disparity in behavior for different looks classes. But it is a major one.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

Wow, I can't believe some of the things being said here, guys. A girl can be attractive, kind, nice and have a good personality all at the same time. But whether that's the case or not, I think most women deal with constant attention from men. I don't mind, being approached at all and I will smile and be polite. What I don't like is when I say I'm busy, not interested, not available, or whatever and the guy just won't stop. I usually try to say something nice to him, even if I'm not interested bc he just paid me a compliment by showing his interest. The one exception is if he is just a jerk from the outset. Then, he's gonna get what he gets and it will not be nice at all. So, if you're a nice guy and approach me respectfully, I will treat you with respect, largely bc I want you to feel okay about approaching a woman. And chances are, we're going to part with both us smiling. Have a nice day! :)

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

So change your preference. You'll never change the loud flashy types to being nicer if they don't come that way, they have the most options and or don't care.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Because if you are an even remotely attractive woman you probably get hit on often. At some point you just get tired of men (or women) feeling like their desires must be part of your concern.

If she’s a very attractive woman then the issue is only ten times worse. Every Tom, Dick, and Harry thinks they are entitled to smile at you, flirt with you, chat you up, and try and insert themselves into your life. It’s particularly annoying since not all men have charm and wit so they end up offering unsolicited advice or help. At some point she’s just sick of it and projects a little “bitchiness” to act as a natural deterrent to the never-ending barrage of strangers trying to enter your life.

RingOfFire · Answer

I think a lot of it is because they are being hit on so much.

Men and women see things through different glasses.

Since men are the approachers in relationships women who are often being approached and not interested naturally get annoyed by it. So it's not all that surprising when a "desirable" woman just isn't in the mood to be approached or just wants to be left alone because she has no shortage of approachers.

Ever see a male bird or squirrel or rabbit chasing a female in the spring and the girl running or flying like hell to get away? Think if it was the other way around the male would be running? Hell no.

It's that.

Meropatrick · Answer

Keep in mind many desriable women lead a stressful life. Dealing with jealous backstabbing friends. A male friend who turns out to like her and turn hostile and indifferent when she friendzones him. Its all the time mating game going around her even if she is NOT interested or not in the mood. She is in college to get an education but she meets college mates who wants to date and not focuse on studies. Some spiteful bunch mistreat her only for her looks. So when she meets YOU she is like "here we go again another one trying to hit on me. The 10th man today. I am tired" people dont act nice when its too much.

More is less. Eating is great but when people keep shoving food down your throat all the time even if you are not hungry it can make u crazy

HawkPerception · Answer

The more physically attractive you are as a girl, the more likely you are to have an inflated ego, be used to attention, and having the partners you want in your life. It literally correlates to having a shitty personality.

The girls that have a decent personality, are physically attractive, and are extremely feminine are rare and few in this day and age.

SeriouslyNotSerious · Answer

If we were too nice, there would be stalkers, maniacs, and perverts following us every time. We have learned to be more protective of ourselves growing up.

Whishty · Answer

When you have too much of something it tends to lose its value, and thus stops being appreciated. The person then feels almost "entitled" to it. That's GENERALLY the case with very beautiful women. Having every guy hit on them doesn't faze them anymore. Might even become burdensome. It's nothing special anymore to them

XXblack88 · Answer

By desirable you mean physically people physically pleasing to the eyes knows they can get away with more then the average or below average looking person cause they don't have to use their personality as much to get what they want.

Anonymous · Answer

And many good looking guys are total jerks too but of course, you're just here to blame everything on women as usual. Maybe that's why you're undesirable.

TomBuchanan · Answer

Because they're generally check-chasing dumb cunts who think the world owes them because they have a pussy.

ApplePie409 · Answer

I agree. Women should let men hold the remote control. It's a sign of dominance and power.

DarkLegacy · Answer

It is because they have been brainwashed by feminism and the crap they watch on TV. You should stand up to women like that because they are used to getting away with what they like.

Billlewis · Answer

Because it's not in their best interest to be nice to guys in general.

DextroShade · Answer

If I was constantly given everything and told how awesome I was throughout my whole life I would probably be a piece of shit human being just like these women.

sheenagwapa · Answer

i am a woman and i am not nice if i feel i am being treated horribly

Anonymous · Answer

? really? i see so many men on here acting like straight up douche bags if a woman if over the age of like 27 lol. get outta here.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Well, for starters- blaming other people is very unattractive. So that’s probably a good place to start on why they seem so unkind.

ceren27 · Answer

I find the ones that are really desirable are generally not very nice people.

diversethought · Answer

What a patronizing statement of women to say the least. And I for one like when a woman has a bit of feisty in her attitude.

Friendlybro79 · Answer

Why are not very nice people desirable to you? Work on that. Get some therapy. There are plenty of beautiful women that are nice too.

handsomelad70 · Answer

Perhaps because some babes are really catered to because of their good looks, so they become divas.

Yannae · Answer

I only find the down to earth ones desirable. The ones you speak of are a zero.

SotiCoto · Answer

The "nice" ones tend to be hypocrites. Better if they aren't that way.

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

I’m only nice to people I care about… the rest meh

LiamJHayden · Answer

People are people. There are nice ones and not-so-nice ones. Just avoid the not-so-nice ones.

elaphe · Answer

Lots of women are nice. You need to meet those women,

John_Cobretti · Answer

Trying hard to act offended

77five · Answer

Do you ever ask why men can't be nicer?

nastyb · Answer

women typically are nicer than men.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Then they aren't really desirable :(

Peridot25 · Answer

I look at every human being as an asshole.

Anonymous · Answer

they can be nicer using fake kindness

Twalli · Answer

My type generally are.

grega239 · Answer

Because they dont have to be.

Anonymous · Answer

They need to be big time

provokeesmokee · Answer

Lmao

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