Girlfriend is having a party at her apartment complex with friends and this includes guys?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend is having a party at her apartment complex not her actually apartment but it’s basically the little hangout room which is right outside her door. I am not invited to this which I really wouldn’t care about if their wasn’t guys showing up to this party and yes there is girls to. I let her hangout with her friend and have her time to herself and yes there sometimes is a guy with her and her friends which really doesn’t bother me because I trust her, but I’m just not comfortable with them coming to her apartment complex without me there. Should I tell her I’m not comfortable with this?

[D_Bone_Steak]

Bruah, just mentally step back and look at the entire situation. You're being removed from the situation, guys get included, and this friend of her's seems to have a hand in making this happen... and from what you've said, this has been going on in other situations... just not this man party that you happen to not be cool enough for.

Your girl is most likely going to get ran through and I don't think you should trust someone that probably knows more about this than you, and she's going along with it.

See, I think you know already and you just don't have hard concrete proof. You're not putting your foot down because you know what will happen... your girl will use it as an excuse to just do it anyways. I'm guessing you've heard "You're just being jealous" or You're just being possessive" before... don't get gaslighted like that.

Again... you sense what the situation is. But I'll be blunt... you're dedicated to a girl that isn't dedicated to you. It's just a matter of time and you'll finally receive proof of some cheating somewhere else, and then find out about a bunch of other cheating.

Don't bother arguing with me, because I've heard "my girl isn't like that" and "I know her and she wouldn't do that to me" type of shit too many times to even give a shit really what you think. I'm just telling you straight up your girl is going to get ran through. You might throw a hissy fit and stop it this time, but it's going to happen. The displayed behavior coupled with your "trust" and the freedom that provides has already predicted what she wants to do.

Remember cheaters are going to cheat... you can't stop it forever and in every situation. Also, remember no girl is ever really yours, it was just your turn. I can tell you don't want to hear that, but this chick isn't going to settle for you because she simply isn't settling down is she? still gotta go to a party with dudes, which excludes your ass because I guess you're just not cool enough.

If you got some money to blow, give her all the trust in the world and then plant a listening device on something that will be near her when her clothes come off... like her phone. Then listen to how right I am as she moans for Chad Thundercock or Tyrone Section8incheshousing (its a German name).

You'd get hurt by what you find out, but at least you'd know you're living a lie with her... or...

Think about this... or, you would prove me wrong and justify however more years she doesn't get caught.

[PavlovsCogk]

[D_Bone_Steak]

@PavlovsCogk Another superb opinion.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I see a lot of people picking up on the fact you were 'not invited,' and it being a 'red flag' BUT, not too many on what you said afterwards.

You LET her hang out with her friend? It's not up to you to choose who she can or cannot be friends with, she has to make her own choice. Then based on her choices you decide whether or not you wish her to still be your g/f.

The fact you worded it like that suggests to me there is a somewhat controlling aspect to your relationship, which in turn might be why she didn't invite you.

I really would like to hear her side to this before giving any advice.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I see the point you're trying to make, but come on dude. If we were "one of the girls" we'd already know the name of the guy she's been hanging out with and getting really close to... and we both know that guy is invited to the party. I know and I think we probably both know, asker has already heard the line, "He's just a friend," or "He's just a really nice guy."

I'm not going to tell a bro to not trust his gut and white knight for her. Are you?

[Marred0710]

Yes absolutely it ur uncomfortable with something I need to talk to her n tell her how u feel if she really cares for u she'll listen n take ur feelings into consideration. But y wldnt u be invited to ur GFS party that does sound kind of sketchy unless she's embarrassed or ashamed of u

[sheikalana]

Who are these guys? Do they also live in the same compound or they were just invited to the party? If they're outsiders I don't see why you can't join them. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you should absolutely tell her.

[MrOracle]

Why would you not be invited? That's a huge red flag in my opinion. It's one thing if it was all girls, but something completely different when there will be other guys there.

That would never fly with me, and I can't even imagine any girl I've dated ever even trying such a thing.

[Finchie40]

Why weren’t you invited? If you weren’t invited or told you weren’t allowed to come? That’s your answer to kick that bitch to the curb where she belongs, Never fall for shit like this from a girl period , if you are not her top priority? Kich her ass out

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you two have a agreement to date exclusively? If so, what reason does she have to not invite you?

[exitseven]

The party itself is not a big deal Of course there will be people of both genders there. It would be weird to have a girls only party. The thing you should ask yourself is why you were not invited. Maybe she is ashamed of you? Or maybe she is inviting a guy she really likes and she does not want you around.

[Truthatanycost]

You don't trust her and you not being invited is a redflag. Most problems come from men treating promiscuous women as if they are girlfriend material. You cannot force square pegs into round holes. Either stop pretending and break up, or waste your time until you see she is not girlfriend material and then break up. Those are your choices.

[ceren27]

Why would you not be invited? That's a huge red flag in my opinion. It's one thing if it was all girls, but something completely different when there will be other guys there.


That would never fly with me, and I can't even imagine any girl I've dated ever even trying such a thing.

[HaleyWalker]

So I actually read the whole thing and this is why I'm a horrible person is cuz I say do it right back to her lol you will see the double standards and then learn to run away

[alfamale123]

You definitely should be invited to this. You never worry about her talking to other guys because remember one thing if she wants she will find a way to cheat sooner or later on this party or not. Girls are still different than we guys. If they deeply love someone there is way less chance they will even see other guys attractive or sexually interesting.

Only rad flag here is like I said that you are not invited. Even if she knows you do not want to go she should invite still.

[electromagnetic]

You probably should communicate that with her instead of allowing yourself to overthink the worse.

[HighValue]

She seems like a bad girlfriend. I wouldn't tolerate that kind of behavior in a relationship. It is unacceptable.

[rosemilk]

why aren't you invited? your girlfriend is very shady.

[Staximus]

You shouldn't care if there's guys at a party she is attending at her complex. Of course there's going to be guys there, genius. What you should be worried about is why you weren't invited.

[DrPepper12]

What's the occiabdvwhy are you persona non grata? She can and should have make friends. Big 🚩🚩🚩 when you say "I le her" hangout.

[JacobJordan]

Only reason for you to not be invited is if she intends to be a whore for the night

[LiamJHayden]

Is it a complex only party, no exceptions? If not and you are not invited she isn't really your girlfriend.

[handsomelad70]

Apart from the horrible grammar, I don't think you should be jealous unless your broad has given you reason to think her untrustworthy.

[KrakenAttackin]

😂😂😂😂. Some guy is going to be balls deep in her.

[Anonymous]

OK, go out with your friends somewhere if you weren't invited.

[Kulotz]

why you are not invited? that's weird

[ApplePie409]

You don't reply back.

[sheenagwapa]

shit now i'm craving ice cream 😂

[Fuentes]

Wow ru a cuck?