Girlfriend drinks with other guys?

[Ldm2015]

Hi. I'm 17 and my girlfriend is 15 we have been together for the past 7 months. the relationship didn't start of well because on the fifth day we had a drunken get together at her house and she got off with an other guy in front of my face, but I was too drunk to get off the floor lol, well the next day I didn't go mad at her because she didn't remember because she was way too drunk aswell her best friend had to tell her ab out it well I let that slide I blamed it on the guy as he was supposed to be a mate but kept making us drink and he was sober..

well a month later on a sunday while I was working she and her sisters and a few of my m8s went out to get wrecked at a river and she kept trying to get off with a 30 year old guy, but she didn't becoz he wudnt and my m8s stopped, since then she has became a better drunk lol.

but every time she goes out drinking without me, she goes out with a bunch of guys from 14 to 19 roughly and 1 girl and every time at least 4 different guys try to get with her, but she assures me she hasn't done anything since that first time,

our relationship is going well, but is her going out with these guys a major problem, I have tried to stop her many times but her excuse has always been I didn't know we were gonna be drinking,

what should I do?

advice from girls or guys plz

[rockmonkey953]

Wow just because she is drunk doesn't mean she can go out and hook up with a bunch of random guys. You should in a way, let her go out and have fun with her friends but having fun doesn't mean getting wasted. If she says she hasn't done anything than you should trust her. You might be thinking about breaking up with her but don't do it unless you don't care about her all that much. After all you have been together for 7 months so don't throw that away.

I drink, well at least I used to. My boyfriend found out and he flipped out. He got mad because well...he didn't want me getting drunk and kissing random guys. Right off the bat during our first month together he told me he didn't want me drinking and that if I continued to drink, he'd brake up with me even though he really didn't want to. He has broken up with a girl because she drank and he didn't give her a second chance so I knew he wasn't joking around and would brake up with me. I stopped drinking because I didn't want to lose him. I did get mad and frustrated because he was telling me not to do something but I understand where he's coming from. Maybe you should tell her you don't want her drinking anymore and if she continues your gonna end it even though you really like her and don't want to? If she doesn't agree than she's not worth it.

[seradane]

Oh dear, she seems like trouble. The last thing you want to be is controlling and stopping her from going out with her friends, but the fact that she's hooked up with other guys while you have been together does not bode well. How often does she go out alone with those guys? I assume it's only because you're busy - if she's doing it even when you're free, then that should be a major red flag.

I think the first step would be to talk to her and explain why you feel uneasy about this - that she's done it before, and that if she's been drinking things can happen that she doesn't intend. Ask her if she can make a few concessions, like maybe not drinking when she's out alone, or even not go out at all and spend time with you instead. I'm not sure either of those will go over particularly well (they're a bit extreme perhaps but I can't think of anything else right now), but do ask her (although be sure to be cool and comfortable asking those things - don't get controlling or it will drive her away for sure) to consider your feelings in this. If she is willing to put in the effort to avoid those situations, then great! If not, then she's probably not worth keeping because she obviously doesn't have a lot of commitment to you.