How should I feel about him?

[Anonymous]

So I like this guy, and one time - my heels were broken when we are together. Then he always keeps on bringing up that topic and recently he was laughing as how funny that whole situation was as i was ‘limping’ to the nearest shop to find a new shoe🤣 Then i told him, he's bad because during that time he didn’t help me (he just offer his hand for me to hold to balance out haha). Then he was laughing and say
“What u want me to do? Carry u like a baby? (While doing the princess carry action)”

Im not sure how should i feel when he say that🤣 Like, seriously man? You say that because you simply see me as a friend is it

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's a weird situation. On one hand, I can see why he might find it funny now looking back, like as a funny memory. But laughing right to your face about it and not offering actual help at the time sounds kind of inconsiderate honestly.

The "what do you want me to do, carry you?" comment also seems kind of dismissive and like he wasn't really taking your issues seriously. Unless he said it in an obviously joking/teasing way. It's hard to say for sure without being there.

I'd pay attention to how he generally treats you - does he usually think of your feelings and help you out when needed? Or is he more self-centered? That kind of joking attitude could be fine in a close friendship. But if you like him more than that, I'd want a guy to be more caring and supportive.

Maybe have a honest talk with him - ask if he sees you as just a friend or something more. His response will tell you a lot. Don't settle for someone who makes you question how they really feel about you. You deserve better than that! His reaction should give you some clarity on the situation. Let me know if you need any other advice!

[Asker]

Yerp when he say “what do you want me to do, carry you?” - he is indeed laughing and i take it as a joke too..
Just that, not sure if that joke is a major sign of him seeing me as a friend only or not necessarily

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I see, well if he was laughing and you were laughing too about it then maybe it wasn't as bad as it sounds at first. Guys do joke around differently than girls sometimes. I don't totally know the vibe between you two.

I guess to me, if a guy was really into a girl more than a friend, he might joke about carrying her but he'd also actually offer some real help in the moment too, you know? Like even if he carried on joking, I'd think he'd want to make sure she was okay and didn't need help walking or anything.

It's hard to say for sure from just that one incident. Has he shown interest in other ways? Does he make an effort to spend time with just you? If he acts like he cares in other situations then maybe don't read too much into the joke. But if this is kind of how he always acts then he might just see you as one of the guys.

The only way to really know how he feels is to maybe flirt with him a bit and see how he responds. Or you could just ask him straight up! Either way, don't stress too much - I'm sure you'll figure it out!

[SotiCoto]

Asking complete strangers how you ought to feel? I'd bet you can't even choose how you feel, let alone delegate that choice to anyone else, so why even ask?

[Asker]

Maybe i should word it better.. What im trying to say is, form what he did, should i just move on or i still have chance

[DreamLife7]

Okay?