Would you continue dating someone who you later found out to be trans?

[Anonymous]

they look perfectly biological male or biological female

you never asked them and they never told you about this that they had transitioned in the past

would you continue dating them or consider being in a LTR with them? why or why not?

Yes I would

No I wouldn't

[Lliam]

No! I would be totally furious that they had deceived me and that I had dated them even once.
If we had kissed, I would be tempted to punch them in the face but I wouldn't. But I might spit on them or toss a beverage on them.
I would certainly shout and cuss them out, frighten them, and tell them to never come near me again.
If we were someplace, I would make a scene, storm out of the restaurant and leave them to pay the bill, or kick them out of my car and leave them to find their own way home.

I despise these female impersonators who are crazy enough to think they are real women.

Keep them out of women's sports and beauty pageants. And they should be required by law to disclose to potential dates that they are men or face criminal and civil prosecution.

[Peridot25]

I wish there were cops on this app. Because you just admitted you would harm someone.

[sirderpsalot123]

@Peridot25 would you be ok with a woman slapping/punching/kicking a guy in the nuts for slapping her ass without her permission? I wouldn't.

This is the same thing. It's rape/sexual assault by deception.

[sirderpsalot123]

*I would

[Peridot25]

@sirderpsalot123 Well, you consented to it so it’s not considered rape/sexual assault 🤷‍♀️

[sirderpsalot123]

@Peridot25 how can I consent to messing around with a girl if he "she" didn't tell me "she" was a man?

[sirderpsalot123]

@Peridot25 you can't consent to the act of kissing/having sex with a man if you didn't know they were a man.

[sirderpsalot123]

What you're doing here is no different than telling female victims that they were asking for it because of the clothes she was wearing.

[Peridot25]

Well, now you know how it feels 🤷‍♀️

[Peridot25]

And as you can read other comments, no one else mentioned about being violent.

[sirderpsalot123]

@Peridot25 You want to punish all men because SOME men (and women) are shitty and say women deserve it because of her clothes? Or are you just completely talking out of your ass now because you're realizing you were wrong?

[Peridot25]

@sirderpsalot123 I’m just saying no one else in the comments chose violence.

[sirderpsalot123]

@Peridot25 I wouldn't care even if they did mention violence. If you care so about trans people, tell them to stop raping/assaulting people and they would probably be assaulted/murdered less.

Let me find the article about it later. There was a guy who killed a trans person when he found out he was trans. He didn't get in any legal trouble because it was considered self defense because its literally fucking rape.

[sirderpsalot123]

@worldscolide I think you sent me the article about that a long time ago

[Miah04]

@Peridot25 you realize even if there was a cop here he committed no crime. He threatened no one. He made a general statement that threatened an hypothetical person.
What would the cop be arresting him for, threatening your imaginary friend?

[Lliam]

@Peridot25. I said that I would be tempted but that I wouldn't. The most I said I "might" do in that situation was spit or toss a drink at them if I found out that I had been deceived into kissing a dude.

I can't think of anything more abhorrent that a man tricking another man like that. There should be a law against such a thing because it IS akin to sexual violence.

Would a woman be out of line if she slapped a guy or threw a drink in his face for being a cad?

"Trans"women are NOT women. They need to face reality and realize that they are NOT, and stop predating on heterosexual men.

[Miah04]

Even if you take out the trans convo. If a person lied to someone to have sex with them.
This convo would be about how much of a scumbag they are.
But because they are trans they are supposed to get a pass.
That's the big problem with the whole convo.

[CrabCakes11]

Jesus Christ, you are so sensitive and volatile.

[RebelinSteel]

No, as a critical part of dating is trust, not even just if a person is transgender, but also things like they are not married, not already dating etc, are not an illegal, have a major std.
When you date stuff that can impact the relationship needs to be covered, it’s pointless moving from dating to a relationship if there is some very basic thing that would cause it to end abruptly.

in fact the end due to the disclosure in some cases could be violent and life threatening.

I

[1073sucks]

This should be stated since day 1.
you can’t naturally have sex with that person and conceive a biological child with that person naturally. And to be realistic, making a family is what the majority of people want when getting into relationships. They need to be honest when getting into a relationship. That’s more shitty and wrong than them being offended for not being referred to as the “pronouns” they have chosen for themselves. We see a lot of their crying videos about how someone called him a him and he wants to be a her. So ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

No. That’s a really important info that shouldn’t even have been kept a secret… if they’re lying about that then I don't know what else they could be lying about. Also, I would like to have biological children with the man I love in the future so him being born a biological female just ain’t it.

[MrOracle]

First of all, the chances of me not being able to see a trans person from across the room is very, very low. Second, I make EXTREMELY CLEAR that I am only interested in biological females when I date. So, for this to be true, this person would have to be very intentionally lying to me (in several different ways), and this is such a fundamental thing to lie about that it would instantly and permanently end any association we had.

Having said that, for someone to do this - to conceal their true identity like this - and make NO MISTAKE, this is a MASSIVE DECEPTION - they are, with many people, risking violence and even potentially their lives. People do NOT like to be deceived in such a major way, and many people lack the impulse control in such circumstances and are going to be beyond furious.

There are both men and women who are totally open to having relationships to trans people, and they're usually very open and vocal about that. But MOST people are NOT open to having relationships with trans people, and that needs to be respected by trans people. And, again, by NOT respecting that, and by intentionally trying to trick people, they are choosing to put themselves in situations where they could be publicly humiliated, beaten up, or even killed if they do this to the wrong person. That's unbelievably foolish and selfish on their part, as well as dangerous.

Again, there are people who are fully accepting of having a trans partner, and that's who trans people should be looking for - NOT trying to trick people who they have no reason to believe are accepting of that idea. Nor does a trans person have any right to try to force someone else to accept them as a partner, anymore than I have a right to force a woman to accept me as a partner.

[Rei13]

No I wouldn’t. I’m unlikely to date someone that is and it’d be lying by omission. That is a conversation you’d have prior to dating just like how you both feel about kids, goals, etc to make sure you’re both on the same page. Omitting that would be unfair to both parties

[HawkPerception]

What? Fuck no. I really hope I never make that mistake. I'm confident in my ability to tell a biological male from face and body, but technology's getting wild out there. But let's just say if it ever happened to me, the guy might get beaten like the male he is

[Peridot25]

Why?

[meepmeeperton]

No, mainly because they would be infertile and I want kids of my own. Also they would have deceived me about it for so long so I wouldn’t trust them anymore. And I wouldn’t like to think of a woman living any part of her life as a man with a penis… even if she cut it off and inverted it.

[ZackBan]

So you're asking if we would continue dating the man who raped us huh.

No wonder most guys are stating the obvious response: violence.

And it's not even about some overarching ideal or social politics. It's about a very simple and personal violation of consent

Fortunately as of now there are often signs. Even the most successful of transitions leaves a few red flags behind.
And most trans folks are upfront about it.

[Luopio27]

I would leave her and be traumatized. I do not have anything against their existance or rights. I just can't sexually get with a thought of them being trans. All I am saying is I do not get atracted to any males ir former males, no matter what.


If you are trans, be honist from the beginning so you will find the person who accepts you as a partner exactly as you are, and won't freak out.

[MacDaddyRico]

Honesty is paramount in a relationship, and if they never told me that they were trans (if it wasn't already obvious to me) and I found out later, I'd be PISSED.

Not disclosing their true nature and trying to fool people is how they get their asses beat.

[JacobJordan]

Fuck no. I am not gay and them failing to disclose it would make things way worse. So glad I married before the freaks crawled out of their holes

[Berethor]

No, he was hidding important information, transwoman are men, it can never changed.

[CrabCakes11]

I know for a fact my boyfriend is cis, but if he wanted to transition into being a woman, I’d still stay with him/her. I love the person, not the gender

[genericname85]

no. becaue i am not attracted to biological men and i'm also not attractive to liars and betrayers.

[bobby_bush_eater]

I'd figure it out earlier because they'd clearly be mentally ill and probably look like a man.

Trans is a mental disability not a real biological category

[patois]

Their body would be devolving in a barrel somewhere.

[Anonymous]

No, because I'm not gay.. No matter how many surgeries they have, no matter how many drugs and hormones they take, no man can ever be a woman. End of story, end of discussion.

[Gospeedracer]

No and if I ever made with that man I would be very grossed out and punch them.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/gH7dr8OPqME

[Peridot25]

Wow! So many people are literally choosing violence. I hope you all know that cops are watching on this app.

[MrOracle]

The person doing the deception is the one who initiated the violence. It's no secret how straight men feel about this kind of thing.

If someone kidnapped you at gunpoint, should the cops just let him take you away, so they don't have to "choose violence"? Or if he's about to rape you at gunpoint, should the cops "choose violence" to save you?

Here's a hint: there's no such thing as a trans person who doesn't know that most people don't want to be in a relationship with a trans person, and that men in particular tend to have violent reactions to the idea. To a lot of men, it's as close to being raped without actually getting raped as something comes. And if they continue to deceive someone, knowing that, then I have a hard time feeling sorry for them for what results. It's the trans person who is obligated to disclose their situation up-front, just as it is always the person who is outside societal norms to disclose whatever situation affects their relationship with anyone or any organization. If they don't make that disclosure, it is THEY who are making the choice, not the person reacting to them.

[nawtee_me]

If they weren’t honest up front and I found out later on I would be pissed and not responsible for my actions. Hopefully it is in a state without the death penalty

[Anonymous]

No, i would not for only one reason and that would be not having been told, that whoever i am seeing is transgender. I don't tolerate being deceived like that.

[Anonymous]

My man having a penis is pretty much a requirement

[JHAYES317]

No I would not. That’s a major breach of trust, I’d wonder what else they didn’t disclose…

[gorydetails]

lol, how do you get to the point of "dating" without knowing.

[OddBeMe]

Sure but usually that would mean they go for opposite of me right?

[RedInnocent69]

If I already was, I’d hav3 to be introspective about what really changed in our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Not only would I no longer date him, I would kick his ass for being deceptive.

[Peridot25]

Why is everyone going for assault? Like…I don’t understand 😅

[sirderpsalot123]

@Peridot25 assualt is a normal response to being sexually assaulted. You're basically being a rape apologist.

[Peridot25]

@sirderpsalot123 Well, now you know how it feels 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

No and I would beat the absolute fuck out of him

[Peridot25]

Just so you know, I took a screenshot of this and showed it to a cop. They’re tracking your phone right now. They should be able to find out who you are and come arrest you.

[Opinion Owner]

@Peridot25 how dare I not be be ok with being raped, lol.

[Peridot25]

You consented so 🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

@Peridot25 lying about who he is makes it impossible to consent.

[Peridot25]

Out of curiosity, how come no one else in the comments mentioned about violence? Or considered it as rape?

[Opinion Owner]

@Peridot25 how do you expect me to answer for other people? It doesn't matter anyway. It's rape. By law, it is rape. Transgender people do not get a free pass to be rapist just cause they are trans.

[Peridot25]

Literally no one else here mentioned it was rape.

[Opinion Owner]

And the most common way for this to happen is by the trans person getting them drunk so it's more difficult for them to be able to tell. That's makes it even more rapey. They are manipulating men into having gay sex.

[Opinion Owner]

@Peridot25 it doesn't matter that other people didn't say it was rape. It IS rape. I'm done talking with you. Just typing to someone like you feels disgusting.

[Peridot25]

Are you generalizing? 😂 Maybe some do but ALL of them? Bro, come on. I knew you were trolling.

[Peridot25]

I can’t take someone with no profile or no profile pic seriously 😂

[Opinion Owner]

@Peridot25 generalizing who? Rapist? The fuck are you talking lol

[Opinion Owner]

@Peridot25 getting then drunk is how it usually happens. Even when it doesn't happen like that, that doesn't make it ok. I'm not trolling, you just aren't very smart. .

[Opinion Owner]

"I can't take you seriously with no profile pic" I can't take people who blame victims and sympathize with rapist seriously.

[Gospeedracer]

@Peridot25 It would be rape, Just like a minor can't consent or a intoxicated person can't give consent, Concealing ones real genda denies the other participant the ability to make an informed decision. This was clearly understood buy almost everyone not to long ago. I would be surprised if I had to explain this concept to the Alphabet task force or rainbow police.

[SugarSugarplum]

A trans man can't give me children.

[Anonymous]

No way I’m straight

[Anonymous]

Hell No.. Disgusting

[DreamLife7]

🤣🤣😭 fuck no