YOU ask a girl on a date. Do you pick up the check or split the bill?

[Anonymous]

This guy asked me on a date to a nice restaurant. He says he has no job during the date, so honestly I was not sure why he asked me out in the first place. When the waitress asked for the bill, he told her to split it. Usually when a man asks me to go on a date, he pays. If I ask a man out somewhere, I don't expect him to pay since I was the asker.

[Anonymous]

In this case he should have paid considering he took you to a nice place. Especially if it was expensive. I think 50/50 is fine if she knows that’s what she’s going into. I’m older, I still fit the bill w my girl of 15 years. But she’s more traditional. Now w a lot of girls these days not wanting to be traditional, wanting equality, to get the same benefits as men, I think footing the bill as well on her part counts as equality. You can’t have it one way but not expect to adhere to certain traditions. But that needs to be established in the beginning stages of dating. It cost a lot of money to go out on dates, which certainly adds up. There are women out there who just go on dates for free meals. I personally don’t think women spend much in the way of dates. Many of them say they will pay if they ask the man, but really how many women actually ask men out? A handful maybe.

[HawkPerception]

If she isn't interested in me after I ask her out, she doesn't have to go on the date. If she's interested, it means she wants to be there too. Men and women are paid the same nowadays. Why should I have to ask her out and pay for her too? Is her time more valuable than mine where I have to pay for her to be there? I'll pay for myself and she can pay for herself. If she wants a sugar daddy, I ain't that guy.

[DishLady]

The guy asks and the girl accepts. If it’s established as a date then usually the guy DOES pick up the tab BUT it’s polite for the woman to AT LEAST OFFER, esp if it’s a first date and the girl chose something pricey on the menu or insisted on splurging by ordering multiple tapas “to share”… Tbh, I’ve only paid for some meals with even just guy friends bc they just insist on paying… I’ll get the coffee or ice cream or whatever smaller thing as a treat for the guy later as a thank you, which is also a nice touch for the girl to show reciprocity.

[osmanthus]

I can only answer from my own approach, here. Regardless of who asked who, I first gauge the price range of the restaurant and depending on that how much would I be willing to split. There's no problem going Dutch at a restaurant but the half payment plus tips has to be agreeable to both parties before sitting down and ordering anything.

[osmanthus]

We are assuming that this bill is split in half and not paying each his/her own way as separate bills, of course, which in some restaurants works out nicely and not others.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Who's asking who to go is who's paying. I guess I date, but I don't ask chicks out... they beg me to go out with them. So I expect them to pay for everything. I think we agree on that being acceptable. I didn't teach myself to be like that at Thundercock School, the women themselves taught me to be that way.

That dude though...

That dude did a real dick move. Did you piss him off or something?

Although, I will add something to this. The girls I dated in Japan, at least the ones a lot closer to my own age, would refuse to allow me to pay for hers... it's sort of just understood the bill shalt be split. So with that, is there a chance there was a cultural thing there? Like, is he from somewhere else? I mean, letting me pay with certain people basically means I own you in some cultures... basically I'm paying for some bedroom fun or expect sex. The idea being we are choosing/agreeing to just go to the same place... just like platonic friends might do, that culture also doesn't have the tipping culture... they will chase you down the street and give a tip back to you.

[TopShelfMan]

If the man always pays, the woman gets no opinions/decisions in the relationship.

It can't be one sided where the woman gets equal benefits, but the man gets all or most responsibilities.

I know many women will disagree because the MAJORITY of women are unfair and hypocritical in relationships. That is part of the reason why so many people now can't have happy long term relationships. SO MUCH unfairness.

[SugarSugarplum]

For me, the default is "split" unless the words, my treat, or I got this are spoken. The exception is if you have a long term relationship, where either he always wants to pay, or we alternate.

[Anonymous]

That equality you women fought so hard for kinda sucks sometimes, doesn't it.

It has nothing to do who who asks whom on the date. If you agree to go on a date, you agree to pay your share. If you don't like that, perhaps you should reconsider your stance as a woman on traditional gender roles.

[Asker]

Lol I didn't fight

[Apple1996]

The man should always pay. The 50/50 thing is just nuts especially if the man is the one asking

[Anonymous]

My hubby asked me out to a romantic dinner, then forgot his wallet and I ended up paying the bill. Not the same? 😋

When I did date, I offered to split mostly. Some would say ok. Sometimes the guy would DEMAND to pay, in which I had no argument.

[Billlewis]

I of course pay the bill in its entirety, and before we say good night, I'll ask her if she has any other dates upcoming with other guys, and if so, I politely inquire as to the possibility of paying for those dates, as well.

[patois]

What are you a prostitute or something? If you can't afford to dine at nice restaurants, why would you go to one? Be an adult and take responsibility for your own burden.

[NamerOfStars]

The general understanding is that if you ask, you pay; if for some reason you can't, you clear that up BEFORE the date. It's just common courtesy.

[curiousmandy]

I think the bill should be split unless he insists on paying. I never expect someone to pay for me on a date, especially a first date

[TommyMountainFigure]

No. I wouldn't do that in a million years!

So when you seeing him again? I'm just kidding!

[bobby_bush_eater]

I pay. Yo pago, eu pago, je paye.

I'm old school though and I want a girl who will eventually be a stay at home mom. Me paying is the most basic first step to showing them I can/will provide

[Bricealan]

He should not have asked you out if he did not have a job or money to pay the check.

Cut him adrift!

[Nikki1989]

If the man asks, he should pay. If you don't like it, just don't date.

[CrabCakes11]

Does it really matter? As long as he didn’t ask me to pay for all of it I would not care

[handsomelad70]

Pick up the cheque. You're asking her out, she's a girl, you're a boy.

[MysticDevice]

If I asked her I'm paying.

If she asks she's paying.

Then after a while we take turns or split.

[ICanSmellTheCosmos]

Split the bill. I don't know her, and she isn't a prostitute, so I'm not going to pay for her company. I will treat people I'm close to, but I'm not going to make a blind investment.

[Unit1]

I split the bill. Foodie calls and Gold diggers can go find someone else.

[exitseven]

The one that extends the invitation does the paying.

[KrakenAttackin]

If a guy wants to split the bill it's because he has no interest in seeing you a second time.

[DreamLife7]

He doesn't like u 🤣 used u for a free meal and out of boredom 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[In_Trance]

Why would you go on a date with a guy without a job?

[JesseP1nk]

🤣🤣 Next he is gonna ask you to date but ask you to wash his clothes first.

[LiamJHayden]

If I ask, I pay.

[sirderpsalot123]

I'll pay for the date

[RedInnocent69]

If I invite her, I absolutely pick up the check.

[shortster]

I invited her, so I pay for it.

[MatureMan40]

I pay the bill...

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

I'll pay for it.

[Dongie]

You're not wrong.

[Iron_Man]

I pay