My bfs parents and I hate eachother?

[Anonymous]

I do not get along with my bfs parents and they do not like me.

so it started with me feeling very uncomfortable around them and my boyfriend telling me all the bs They allowed- bringing girls over, drinking, and doing drugs (all while underage). I understand everyone is different but this is just a lifestyle I don’t agree with. But I was always nice.

mt boyfriend put a lot of stress on me- and his mom called me fat. I let that slide. Then she sat me down and started showing me all my boyfriends and exs and started telling me how wonderful they were. I was very upset and left.

recently me and my boyfriend had a knock down drag out fight about going to his parents house when I’ve made it clear that I’m uncomfortable with them. And I said- look your dad is cheating on your dying mother, and when your mom was young she was a huge whore.

obviously these are things I should not have said. I understand that. But he went home told his parents- and they banned me from the house- which for me is a relief.

me and my boyfriend are thinking about getting married in the near future.

i don’t know how it’s going to work out when me and his parents can’t stand me eachother.

Any advice?

[LazerBean]

If his parents are that garbage, what makes you think he's any better? Especially if he keeps wanting to bring you around then. 99% chance that he's just the same garbage as them.

[DishLady]

Why would you marry a guy who is pressuring you AND whose family doesn’t like you? Cut your losses.

[MasterKS]

You should let them enjoy their life, why you need to correct them, you should take care of yourself rather than nose them. being honest.

[Asker]

I have been nothing but polite to them.

[MasterKS]

@asker but didn't you have too much info about them? why you need too many details about their personal life? anyone gets angry if you tell his father is cheater and mother is whore!

[Asker]

My boyfriend shared all these things with me- and I was like look man that’s gross I don’t want to hear about it. But he kept giving me a lot of details. I had always been polite to his parents despite the fact that I was not a big fan.

[Asker]

My boyfriend has also called my mom a bitch and said he doesn’t understand why my dad has stayed around so long and that he’s a pussy. My parents have their issues and he’s allowed to have an opinion and I didn’t get mad.

[MasterKS]

@asker so why you staying with him in relationship who have such issues?

[Asker]

I do love him. I’m just grossed out by his parents. He is 27 still lives at home and cannot provide for himself. I got him to get a skill and a job and he’s doing better. My main issue is that his parents let him grow up in every way except for being financially stable. They infantilize him and have made him completely dependent and I believe it is a weird control thing

[Asker]

They also do not like that I have him working and basically let him move in with me to get him on the right path- and he’s doing great.

[MasterKS]

@asker they are his parents, they born him, it doesn't matter you like them or not, same applies to your parents. I think you should live them as they want and stay away as much possible if you hate them.

[Anonymous]

A parents instincts about a girl are usually right.

[jahaims]

You are with a man child what do you expect