Are Asian men cold usually by text or even behavior?

[MairimBP]

I've been for not so long with a guy from Singapour, he's the sweetest in person. But I had to go to France for two weeks and he said he would wait for me. The first week was quite ok by message, he was sending videos of him, pics, we were talking. Then, the second week he was almost not replying to me, taking AGES to reply like sometimes even 12h without saying anything.

I overthink a lot so I started thinking maybe there was another girl or that he didn't care. So this Friday I told him that I was a bit frustrated by his behavior etc. He only replied by saying: "you know my routine, what do you mean side chick? I'm not ignoring you." That's all.

He didn't care about my frustration and he disappeared. Literally. For two days. I bought my flight back to Portugal for the 17th (yesterday) and he was not here he was in Madrid doing his passport, and he's only coming tomorrow (i'll see him).

I then texted him on Sunday (after being ignored all Saturday) saying i wanted some of my stuff, that were at his place, back, with no further conversation. And he replied today (Tuesday) saying: Alright, I'll give it to you tomorrow. Because I'm arriving today but its a bit late.

That's all. Tbh I want to break up even tho I'm fully in love with him, we match soooo well in person. But with the distance its going to be hard because he does not communicate and we already talked about it. He didn't change. So.. I'm heartbroken. Tomorrow I'll see him for my stuff and maybe I'll try to talk to him about it but i don't think I should continue with the relationship since I have to return to France at the end of summer and he'll probably do the same with the no communication...

I simply wanted to know if its a common behavior for Asian men or just this guy in particular doesn’t give a crap about me or the long distance thing. As I said, in person he's the best and treats me super well. But rn our relationship is at the lowest because of distance and it was only 2 weeks.

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+1 y

We talked and apparently he usually doesn't text anyone when he's with someone in this case, his cousin (that lives with him) and they do everything together. Also he's never on his phone (thats true I've noticed that). We went on a date after that, and he started showing me his family talking more about himself. Which was great ! We also found a solution for the long distance thing.

[skunk3n]

To specify, as an western Asian, I doubt this has anything about racial Asian, but about culture or how you're raised.

Anyhow, in your situation, it sounds like he either found someone else, or he's doing some guy-games by going slightly slower than you, or something.
Long distant relationship is always tough, in whatever life-stages you are, but especially if you're early 20's and immature (want to explore both world and peoples and having fun), and making you "locked" with a girl who you don't see once in a third month..

To the tip:
Express your feelings for him (best over facetime, to see his facial expression), does he recoup or have mutual feelings, they you're good.
If he sounds distant "Yeah, I miss you tooo.. blah bla" voice-attitude, well, you're either some kinda backburner or something in his way and not his priority he wants to keep in first place.

[BonzoInBitburg]

Cheating is very common in a lot of Asian countries and it can be hard to fully commit to someone with that always in the back of your mind. Many are taught from a young age not to fully commit because it only leads to heartbreak. There's a lot of drama in Asian relationships. Trust me

[woahhh152]

I haven't read the entire thing but Asians aren't cold at all. And if he doesn't reply for like12 hours then it means that he isn't interested. I would suggest you to move on

[MairimBP]

Yeah, I'll still talk to him tomorrow because I want to end things without creating drama and stuff. But I'll end the relationship there. Thanks !

[woahhh152]

No worries. You are probably disappointed. But you deserve better if you are treated like that

[GawkVoidArisen]

I think men in general can be cold in text. Mind if I ask you for some advice? :) hit me up if its okay...

[MairimBP]

You can ask what you want yeah don't worry !

[GawkVoidArisen]

Oh okay sweet thanks!! :) follow me :)

[GawkVoidArisen]

@MairimBP up to you, no pressure :)

[LazerBean]

Nah, he just isn't interested in you

[MairimBP]

Yep, he probably lost interest because of distance :) Thanks !

[mayurr]

First u choose someone like that & then say all men r same🤡

[mayurr]

Which type of relationship is this which can't survive due to some time of loneliness?

[mayurr]

Maybe it's misunderstanding from both sides due to less conversation or maybe u r with a wrong person.

[MairimBP]

1) Did I say it was all men? 2) I asked because it could be a cultural thing, I've learned with him that we have some social differences due to Asian culture and being cold could be one of them since I know most korean guys are quite cold towards their partners.

[MairimBP]

Maybe, as I said. I'll talk to him tomorrow to end things most certainly.

[MairimBP]

And it is not a question of feeling lonely. But communication is important, and a message saying: I won't be able to talk to you for 2 days because I'll be doing this. I can understand but ghosting it's a huge no.