According to you who are merits and demerits of dating older vs younger girls?

[Anonymous]

older (after 35), young lower than 35

What are the advantages or disadvantages that you faced while dating either?

How did your dating change as you aged?

Whom is better as per you?

Girls can answer their opinions on how they think they bring into relationships with age. If you feel that their perceptions change with age.

[ManOnFire]

Younger women can be sweet at times and very energetic with a love for life and they do like to do things, which is nice and can make things colorful, but ultimately it's not a go for me and I don't think I will ever date another younger woman again.

They also can be problematic with the way they overthink things, misread/misinterpret you and your intentions, have selective listening issues, and can get too emotional about really small stuff. All this can create a lot of friction and tension that a man like me at my age has no time or patience for. They also more often become hotly infatuated with you which eventually burns out quick and they've lost all interest, because they don't really understand what real love and affection is. They also tend to believe themselves to be more mature than they actually are, but you can see otherwise.

Older women are where it's at for me. They make you feel way more comfortable because they themselves are more relaxed, less judgmental, and don't care about a lot of the stuff the younger chicks care about. And they are more straight-forward and keep things real with you. And the ability to have discussions with them and hear their seasoned perspectives is highly valuable to me.

And the Sex is absolutely awesome. They have a lot more passion and are serious about the sexual experience on a deeper level more than just a hormonal one like it is with younger women.

Older women. Hands down.

[RavVid]

That is a good breakdown.

[ManOnFire]

@RavVid Appreciate it. I love younger females as sister types and friends, but they're not good candidates for a relationship for me.

[DishLady]

Younger girls have more… enthusiasm… and less experience. They don’t know what dbags so many guys can be and they will probably just learn whatever their guy teaches them in bed. (Duh.) The downside is a dizzying level of insecurity, the current obsession with their phones and a bunch of irritants that tend to drive guys up the wall… (Oh well, you get what you get.) in my opinion, younger girls and younger guys should experience the learning curve together and learn from each other, it teaches them to become balanced partners and shows them very gradually what they like or don’t like so they pick up their preferences along the way.


Older girls are more comfortable with men, we are familiar enough with certain patterns that we’re reasonably able to either electively accept or ignore the guy’s attention, behavior, etc. An older woman will be more open and honest about things because she already knows what she likes and doesn’t like. Younger guys tend to find this really appealing, however being someone’s crash test dummy isn’t a particular dream of an older woman. One nice thing about folks in the 45+ range who date others their age is that they have similar frames of reference, there’s a comfort level you don’t find with the younger crowd and you’re not glued to the apps all day thinking it’s the equivalent to real life experience. (Also… duh.) The downside to dating an older woman is that she might see your pattern coming before you do… mention it… and of course it’s not what you want to hear. (SIIIGH! If it’s a good woman you’re with, get over it and move on.)


We haven’t talked about the physical differences in too much detail… we can say very briefly that while younger women seem like they’ll be more energetic, older women have the combination of experience plus a second wind that’s f-ing incredible. 😉

[ManOnFire]

This is a good answer. The only thing I can't say I agree with is the idea that younger men go after older women simply for sexual experience with the idea that she can teach him things or be a virginity killer for him. I've heard this idea so many times and I've known other young guys who also love older women and none of them - myself included - have ever talked about wanting them just as a sexual teacher or to use for gaining experience.

Some of the guys I've known slept with multiple older women, and ones that were significantly older than them too. I think if it was just about trying to use them for experience they would just fuck one and be done.

[DishLady]

You’re right — and too old leads to other problems in terms of the dynamics. There are also creepy “mommy issue” type stories I’ve heard that have turned me off from ever wanting to really try anything with a much younger guy…. But I’ve heard enough positives about the experience from my younger guy friends, so that’s the basis of my opinion.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't care what you view as my lack of desirability or even richness of desirability unless it is a guy I'm involved with and planning or considering marriage with. Telling people who don't like you that you don't like them is a waste of time.

[Asker]

I haven't put any judgment on my post. You are free to take whatever side in a discussion, just like others are doing. However, making a statement like yours is actually a waste of time. This website is designed for conversations. If you are interested in only a guy outside of this domain then you are wasting time for both you and others.

[Anonymous]

When it comes to women around my age I have an easier time being straight up with them about what I want vs don’t because I expect them to have the maturity and experience to communicate. But I’ve sadly encountered some extremely immature grown ass women in my life. A few years ago I had a woman a year older then men completely blow this out of the water.

Younger women are more fun but far more unreliable. They also hold me to a much higher standard being older. To a certain extent they should but I’m not Superman either. I still make mistakes.

[Avicenna]

I prefer women in their 30s, but, honestly, you date a person, not an age. A single mom in her 30s is not preferable to a woman in her 50s who is childless.

[LiamJHayden]

The following is in general from my own experiences.

Merits of dating older than 30: they tend to know what they want and are more realistic and accepting of imperfections in others.

Demerits of dating older: Societal stigma. Potentially serious disparities in life experience. Also at a certain point, having children if that is what you want becomes difficult and then impossible.

Merits of dating younger: ?

Demerits of dating younger: unrealistic expectations, flightiness

[Nikki1989]

Only creeps, pedos and control freaks want to date a very young woman, much like the brainwashed and very immature Andrew Tate fanboys out there.

[DextroShade]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/Cisj3kYdE1k

I am with Top G on this one. Older women have more trauma, baggage, bad habits, and dicks and less innocence, beauty, and fertility.

[ManOnFire]

Why in the world would a 30 year-old guy want to date a 19 year-old girl? There is little compatibility.

Older women have less innocence? Dude, the younger chicks are the ones who are running around like imps - because they KNOW they can get away with it. These girls are wicked and unclean with the things they do and how they behave towards others, knowing that the world glorifies them for being young, and they know they are sexualized for it. They know people are going to go lightly on them, especially MEN, which is why they keep creating trouble and being slimy.

Are older women perfect? Of course not, and I don't even like EVERYthing about them, but it's the young females who are devils - and they're proud of it.

[Likes2drive]

Never had a problem dating younger, just looks odd to some people when out in public, dating older they don’t stay out as long and and like to do their own thing not be bothered

[Anonymous]

Can't think of any advantages to dating a woman over 35 over one under 35.

[Anonymous]

35 year olds have white hair now?

[DextroShade]

Considering how badly Gen Z girls are aging I would not be surprised if that was the case in a decade.

[Asker]

It's just a random picture for representation. Well by 35 , you will have at least some strands of white hair.