Do guys like successful girls and girls that have a lot going on?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I have to agree w noemiii. A majority of men don’t care much about that. But there’s a reason. Women don’t provide or take care of men really whether it’s financial or physically. So we don’t look at those things. A lot of times her money doesn’t benefit us. Women usually don’t share their resources w men the way men do w women. A lot of women still want to be equal to men, make the same money but refuse to pay for dates or things like that. A lot of women still want a man that makes as much as her or more, they usually never go down on the financial ladder. A lot of them won’t take on the bread winner part of the relationship even if she’s making way more than him. On the other hand men will. We’ll date a girl working at McDonald’s. So long as she descent looking at the least, all the way up to gorgeous. She’s not a pain in the ass. She doesn’t start arguing just for the hell of it. She wants a family, takes care of the house. She brings peace to his life. A lot of men don’t want women w all these piercings, colored hair, bullnose rings, excessive tattoos, because things like that send up red flags. Sure there are some exceptions, some men like that but not a lot. As men the first thing we notice is looks. That’s what catches his attention to even want to pursue you. If you don’t have those looks he’s not even going to look your way. So even if you’re a doctor, he’s not going to be impressed to the point that he wants to meet you if you don’t have the looks also. Women tend to look at that. I think that’s sort of nature. She wants to know can he support a family. There other women who are just gold diggers who look at what kind of job he has.

ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

I do, generally; I find them more interesting as people, but everything is a question of degree.

It really depends on how much effort she puts into the relationship and whether she's secure in herself, or if her achievement creates a feeling of competition in the relationship.

I am an extremely high achieving man. I've found that many high achieving women feel the need to push themselves in order to feel like an equal in their relationships. It's like the achievement comes from feeling like they weren't good enough earlier in life (I know that a similar kind of feeling pushed me to do the things I have). I don't know if there's something that I'm still doing that cultivates that energy, but I don't like being around it.

I want my relationship to be a source of peace and support. I don't want the woman I'm dating to feel like she's in competition with me. I wouldn't want that in general, but I especially don't want it because someone comparing themselves to my level of achievement is a ridiculously high metric for a lot of people.

If my girlfriend isn't naturally the kind of the person who does the things I do; her pushing herself to be that person isn't going to result in a peaceful relationship.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If a guy doesn't like a successful girl, you shouldn't be with him. It's like killing your vibe so you can't be great. Who is he to kill your vibe which can create wonders? There's a guy who didn't wanted to see me successful hence, he started playing with my emotions, my life to make me provoked. I blocked him out of my life and he never gets another chance to be with me. I don't wanna stay with an unsupportive guy who kills my vibe. I will stay with a great guy who wants to be great and wants to see me great too. No ego should be there for him on me and definitely no bad temper to make me down

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I think of a relationship the same way I think of a grocery budget.

If you spend all your money on cheese, you won't have too much for lettuce left over. If you spend too much on lettuce, you won't have too much for cheese.

No girl will have everything you want, and you don't have everything a girl wants. So you have to choose what you will budget your time, energy and values into.

V_Injector · Answer

Why in the ever living fuck or how did you women get it in your heads that men are going to give a shit about your financial-making ability when we know you won't gibs any of it... none of it...

It seems to me that feminism has taught you girls that men want what women want and you're all taking a big "L" by taking that feminist advice.

I think an extremely gay male or a trans female is in charge of the feminist movement in the last 10 years. They're leading women to be doing what men do to get women in a very gay and extravagant way.

Basically, they're democrats. A bunch of fags.

ManOnFire · Answer

In general most men don't really look at women like that. What you're asking is more of a female perspective that women have about men, and you're wondering if men think the same way. Not really.

Men care more about the woman as a person, how she makes him feel, if she's going to be good for his life or not. Men do care if she's smart and can do things, but not with the same superficial expectations that women have concerning men. Men care if a woman can drive, if she works and is smart with her job, has life skills, if she has a few talents and even something new she can show him, etc. Most men aren't looking for a woman with six figures, master's degree, is busy doing a whole bunch of things, or drives a Bugotti. Those aren't requirements for a man to like a woman, that's more of a female perspective in a woman liking a man.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Successful as opposed to what? Non-academic? Low achievers? . Now sure what would be commonly regarded as successful , is it just monetary? Financially? Or does being a good human count? . couldn’t success also be about opportunities?

I’ve never really considered that I measured how successful a woman was before deciding to date her or stay in a relationship with her.

I do and would always favor a woman that has made her own life , who is more independent that not , who is self motivated and passionate about being a good person but who is also humble and grounded.
Should these qualities also make them successful then it’s well deserved and I would be additionally proud of them , but I don’t see it as a pre-requisite or necessary. I am not really a material person

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Most guys don't care about how successful women are or if they have anything going on. They don't like you for what you have, they like you for who you are and yes even your looks, they mater for both. There is no purpouse for the success of a woman in a mans life as most of them know they will always be the one to be the financial main partner.

A man only cares about mostly one thing, and thats the ability of her having children, it doesn't mater if she has 6 Harvard degrees or is the owner of a multi trillion dollar company. He still has to make more, for her to find him as a suitable partner.

In short its not that they don't like you if you are successful or have something going on, men don't care.

MisterWack · Answer

Successful girls, yes. “Have a lot going on”, that is difficult.

Most people want a partner who is around so, they can grow a tighter bond / feel sense of closeness / know that their partner will love them & never leave… Having a lot going on can ruin intimacy and closeness / sometimes feel like an inconvenience even though the partner is happy for their success. I know a male who was busy in a relationship and the female didn’t like that so, they compromised to a solution that benefitted the family dynamic so, I see this the same way. It doesn’t matter gender, this is a universal feeling.

HawkPerception · Answer

There are certain jobs that are more attractive than others to me when it comes to women. There are more feminine jobs than others.

I also prefer that she's not so busy where she has very little time to spend in the relationship. My main love language is quality time, so the more time a girl can give me, the happier I am.

So I'll be honest and say I'm not as attracted to "boss girls" or girls that focus more on work rather than family and relationships. It's great to have passions, but not great to neglect loved ones.

noemiii · Answer

From my experience, they could care less. As long as you’re attractive they wouldn’t care if you worked at Burger King and lived with your parents.

HighValue · Answer

For me, she needs to be attractive, have good morals, no kids from her past, no contact with any ex, have time for me, have compatible long term life goals, initiate affection (I am totally fine with physically clingy girls too), and it would be great if she was into gaming too.

I don't care about her job as long as it isn't something I disagree with on moral grounds and it doesn't require her to travel and spend days away from home. In my opinion, a woman that has the qualities I listed and only works part time minimum wage is much more appealing than one making $100k per year that is lacking some of those qualities.

Anonymous · Answer

Well there is many ways to be successful. I think the most important thing of either a man or woman is where their hearts are. If someone is a bad person. They’re a bad person period. All the bad people get very triggered with me that’s for sure and project who they are.

Absolutely being successful is a good thing. So long as it’s accomplished morally, legally, and ethically. Is being a amazing mother and wife a accomplishment? Absolutely. But unfortunately a percentage of ‘traditional’ women aren’t traditional they’re looking for a free ride in life.

But yes…

provokeesmokee · Answer

From my experience? Yes.

The key as the woman is not to suffer losers who want a free ride.

Did that once and happy I dumped him back in his home country of America.

Truly awesome people appreciate when a woman is driven and interested, and self-posessed.

Weak men rely on their idea that a woman is "lesser than" to feel big. They're not worth entertaining.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

What is "successful" here? Her job? I don't care about her job. I've dated clerks and heiresses. I have my own money I don't need hers, and money won't buy class or my tolerance for not having any. If she's a keeper she's a keeper. As long as she spends less than she makes that's all I care about her job.

"A lot going on" could be interpreted a number of different ways, so I'm afraid I can't answer that part.

DishLady · Answer

It depends on the guy. Not all guys have the bandwidth for smart women. Some are intimidated by them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Having said this, some guys are actually confident enough in themselves and the world around them to take their woman’s success in stride … and to genuinely be proud of her in addition to striving for success in his own professional path.

kwsmith2 · Answer

Socially successful, definitely. Men who pretend otherwise are coping. Queen Beeing is dead sexy.

Intellectually or artistically successful, is almost always a plus but how much will depend on how into those things the guy is.

Financial success will help with a certain kind of guy who is often insecure about being used, but it will have little visceral value for most men.

McLlovin · Answer

Successful women are awesome, its the arrogant ones that hold it against the man that are garbage. The “ i am better then you, because i have a phd and make more money then you” type women. If you’re a successful woman then that’s awesome. However don’t make it a selling point to get a date, its not a bad thing, its just that we dont care.. ok you make 6 figures and you got a phd but can be a wife? Can you humble yourself to let your man pay? Can you play number 2 and not be the leader?

DextroShade · Answer

No, we generally don't care about that. How many dudes are lining up to date Oprah? Women who are successful in their careers tend to masculine because success requires masculine traits like being competitive, aggressive, and taking risks. Men who are masculine don't want masculine women; the only guys who want that are the beta male soyboys who women don't want.

The-Stud · Answer

Stop acting like men even care and get intimidated to feed your feminine ego of trying to be better than a man @dishlady LOL , you are probably washing dishes all day like your username else why would anyone successful in their life be on this site?

MacDaddyRico · Answer

What is success?

Only if they stay grounded.

I've seen women with more money than sense and I wouldn't go near them. Snobby, selfish, demanding. Drama queens.

Then I've seen women with little to nothing but are living comfortably, and they have hearts of gold.

Anonymous · Answer

Guys generally like all kinds of girls, your success however adds almost nothing to your value. It just takes away from your time and commitment to relationship and family. A fact that makes you a poor choose to marry thou a good choice to pump & dump.

Staximus · Answer

People who have "a lot going on" all the time or people who can't chill out are trying to compensate for something. It's almost like a drug addict's mental escape. Like do they really need to be doing all that silly shit? What's the point? They are trying to distract themselves from themselves.

Dongie · Answer

I know I do. Smarts and always running, is my friend. She denys it but she's pulling in at least 18k a month. Entrepreneur type stuff. She cares for her parents, their home two girls one unruly at 25 the other an angel 19 or already hit 20. And babysits a granddaughter and a grandson from her two boys. Plus she is almost able to help a friend out 90% of the time between noon and 10pm as long as it doesn't take over half, three quarters of an hour. I think she's an angel.

Serkee · Answer

We don't dislike them, but career success and wealth isn't something most guys look for in girls either. It's not really much of a factor for us, one way or the other.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends. Is she the "i dont need no man" type? If so, then hell no. If not, than sure. Men want to be wanted, and want to be needed. Women that dont need us are unattractive in the extreme, and are most of the time insufferable bitches.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would yes but only if the guy is on an equal level. Guys that have less going than her probably see her as a rival and combat not as a partner for a relationship.

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BonzoInBitburg · Answer

I couldn't care less. I'd rather she not work so we can be more flexible to take vacations whenever we want. I don't want someone who is tied down to her job

BetaBucks · Answer

Doesn't really matter either way. I'm not really into money and consumerism, so I don't care if she's making a bunch of money or not.

Unit1 · Answer

To me they are Definitely better than helpless and lazy damsels, that leave everything to the universe and chance to happen and have things fall on their lap instead of working on making things happen themselves.

Radiate143 · Answer

In my experience, no. They want to use you then, they usually will ditch you for some basic chick that makes them feel superior. Then come on here complain that women are sluts.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Mature men that have something to offer themselves like it. It is the immature ones that find a problem with it.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, up to a point. If somebody was a rral workaholic and totally lived for a job it would bet old pretty fast.

DreamLife7 · Answer

Men are drawn to looks first then personality. You can have a lot going on but if you're not attractive you're shit out of luck. Then to not have a personality/social skills omg you're finished 🤣

JonCobretti · Answer

Most don't care  The fact is guys rarely care about a girl's confidence or career

GeminiDiamond · Answer

If guys have a problem with how I lived my life before you, or if you have a problem with a change that occurred after, total personal problem.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

I legitimately don't care about a girls success but would rather an unsuccessful girl. Idc about your money or the job you probably don't like, those things aren't important to me at all

Anonymous · Answer

No. Most of them get intimidated because you're not a helpless little fawn for them to rescue.

Juxtapose · Answer

I don't like people focused on materialism because they neglect their inner self.

genericname85 · Answer

well let's say there's gonna be space in her schedule for me. if no, i'm not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

If those "things going on" are similar to his. Life and partnerships are about shared experiences. If she's just very busy I fail to see how that's a turn on.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, but generally we don't particularly care about a woman's "success" the same way that women care about the success of the men they may date.

smd_5545 · Answer

That depends on guy's mindsets which we don't know.  Personally I won't see a girl's financial status unless she should be good at her work. That's all

handsomelad70 · Answer

I would. Nothing like a chick with as much in her head as on it and in her bra.

Sasquach · Answer

It's not something I'm actively looking for or would discrimate against

Anonymous · Answer

Lol yeah. Be careful: males are much more gold digging In nature

nawtee_me · Answer

How do you know if a girl has a lot going on by looking at her?

OddBeMe · Answer

No we like them boring with nothing to talk about.

ButtNakedMan · Answer

I don't mind it all. It means she'll be successful with me in many areas as well and isn't needy.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Poor guys do. Rich guys only care about looks

ggrurrllz · Answer

Some do, some don't. but then it seems they're successful to gloat and not because they're proud of their achievements.

Anonymous · Answer

no we don’t because successful girls don’t need us do they?

Anonymous · Answer

Generally not, they tend to not have the time for a relationship.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

It’s just about the only kind I care for

Makeushiver · Answer

How would I know. I've never dated one.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Now... WHAT! is a ''successful'' girl?

In_Trance · Answer

Guys really don't care about this

Danny_dan92 · Answer

If they’re humble and modest? Yeah

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

Define successful

SoJust · Answer

So we can't say that to all of these men.

jahaims · Answer

Most guys don't care as long as you aren't a bum

Jason2469 · Answer

Lol no. Too busy for fun.

foxsquirrell · Answer

Guys like physically attractive girls.

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