Is dating hard nowadays because this modern generation's standards are too high?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[DishLady]

Not high enough... For one thing, there are too many "side options" in place of relationships in which two (or more) people seem to play at being a couple (or thruple, or cheaters and liars, or swingers, or cuckolding morons, or whatever tf else folks call all this nonsense bc it's frankly beyond me to cram it all into one post) rather than ACTUALLY committing to the establishment and maintenance of a loving, lasting relationship. (Whatever tf is wrong with dating and romance today is no little thing.)

Social media and the modern generation's obsession with it promotes catfishing, identity theft and a million other things along with general paranoia about what each f-ing punctuation mark or scroll or "like" means... lending importance to utter nonsense while ignoring the things that are important to cultivating the skills and principles needed to foster a happy, healthy, lasting relationship.

There are no shortcuts to the process of finding and keeping ACTUAL love, guys and gals... don't settle for the bs being propagated today.

[lilyofthevalley97]

I been aware of this since 2017 when I found out about the apps and my cousin telling me of fetish sex and golden showers when she barely turned legal. It's sickening. It's also very easy to get hurt and lose hope if you are being genuine and intentional about it.

[DishLady]

@lilyofthevalley97 They're exposed to WAY WAY too much WAY WAY too soon and then think they know everything. I see it all the time.

[DizzyDesii]

Todays standards are physically too high (in terms of appearance and career) and morally too low.

[HawkPerception]

With that I agree with 100%. Most accurate answer so far in my opinion

[DizzyDesii]

Its rare that I come across guys with morals who aren't so “traditional” that they think i belong home cooking and cleaning. And the most girls with a set of morals that guys will prob come across are the super churchy ones who want to wait til marriage

[OfMiceandMen]

I think they are too high, considering you don't even have to face the real world anymore and just swipe right or left (whatever) from your arm chair. People can be as choosey as they want to. Unfortunately, they're aiming for the sky when they should be looking about 20 ft off the ground in most cases.

[HawkPerception]

This is exactly my opinion. I would have given you MHO if you made your opinion a bit earlier 😅

[Avicenna]

Well, it's hard if you want a relationship, not if you want friends with benefits or hookups.

[HighValue]

It is mostly because so many women are very low quality when it comes to morals, and too many men are short and weak. (The short and weak part is actually the fault of the tall strong men because they tend to mate with short and weak women because they are often cuter, which ends up creating more short and weak men when genes mix.)

[WhitneySnow]

No. It’s hard because guys are players (most of them) while girls (most of them) really just want a relationship even if they say they just want sex.

[HawkPerception]

From my experience, it's been the opposite 😂 Also, fun fact... women statistically are the ones that end relationships more. Approximately 70% of divorces are also initiated by females.

[HighValue]

It is completely the opposite of what you said and it has been for a couple generations now. Many more women have casual sex and use men for resources, plus far more women initiate divorce. Even if you look at lesbian vs gay couples, there is significantly higher divorce in lesbian couples where no man is involved, plus there is much higher domestic violence in lesbian couples where no man is involved. Statistics show that women are by FAR worse partners than men.

[lilyofthevalley97]

@HighValue perhaps WhitneySnow is one of those who did go with good intentions into the dating scene and saw the same happen for other women. I have not hooked up with any guy and haven't looked for rich guys when trying to date... and the casual guys who try to have sex are majority of men I see around me. Some of them lie in the beginning, they think if they play the gentleman they are going to charm and get laid. I once went on a date and had to stay overnight cause my train got cancelled. This guy was living with his male friends and they had a big board in the halls with a hanging preservative, sex jokes and shit. He told me he would be a great father cause he grew up with siblings. Later on he told me he 'is not ready' for a relationship. I am avoiding dating altogether now thanks to having only poor experiences of guys lying, being dirty, manipulative or just not ready...

[lilyofthevalley97]

And I know cause I been around men for months, they would come up with weird strategy such as clairvoyance, saying 'not wanting sex' and then getting ahead of themselves and asking me rudely after months of silence to fix their morning wood when I have not slept with any guy but in their head if they saw me walk on the street next to some dude they automatically labelled me a whore to be used and dumped.

[lilyofthevalley97]

You know I think the issue is that I am NOT looking harder for good value people. I just tried with people that seemed... normal, in beginning at least. I think women should look for guys who are ready and stability is a factor. As long as both are working and being fair, why should that not be a priority? I been in employment as I could for example and invested time in my skills and I am planning to continue and do more. It's only fair I reject people who prefer to go to parties and abuse alcohol while bragging about their fictional qualities

[HawkPerception]

@lilyofthevalley97 The majority of girls are also the same. I have never been a hookup guy. When I was in relationships, I was always fully committed and never the one to break up. I never had a "backup" girl and definitely never cheated. I think.

While I have never met my goal of finding a partner for life, I never assume that all girls are bad. And I can certainly say that I've never been cheated on either. Because I filter well.

Girls seem to be attracted mostly to the guys that break their hearts, then complain every guy is a player. Maybe learn to change your filter for guys.

[HighValue]

@lilyofthevalley97 You're not even from the USA, so you have no idea how terrible and immoral women from here. The MAJORITY of them are disgusting, immoral, evil people. And I have known far more women than most people due to my line of work (working in schools and knowing many parents, co-workers, etc.) and the MAJORITY are bad people that support casual sex, support infidelity as long as it is the woman doing it, support using men for money and stealing from them, support cheating while their husband is at home with the kids, frequently post provocative/revealing pictures online and flirt with others, and many of them drink alcohol regularly, and some still do drugs too. Yes, that means that many women teachers here in the USA that are teaching values to kids are actually some of the most immoral people around. This society is disgusting.

[lilyofthevalley97]

@HighValue I lived 8 years in England and what you listed doesn't seem too far off from what is there, and some of that is also in Romania. Hook up culture alcohol abuse, women wanting to become sex cam models as soon as they turn legal and creepy people on apps. Found all this out thanks to my younger cousin who has a personality disorder and did drugs when she was underage. Yeah it is a disgusting world when evil prevails.

[Alli112]

Is dating hard? Yes. But because of overly high standards? No.

[LazerBean]

Nah, they're way too low.

[Dongie]

No. Probably way to low.