What do I say about this?

[Anonymous]

So my girlfriend and I haven’t met in person yet, and we’re long distance. It’s been almost a year since we met because she wants me to visit her in March (because she’s getting surgery, and she has time off from work at that time). I want to visit her sooner, but she’s wants to be 100 percent prepared before she does. Anyways, her best friend’s mom, doesn’t believe I’m real. And it hurts me because I think she’s sad about this. Because she knows I am (and I know she is too). But she was being told that I probably have kids and a wife from that mom. It hurts my feelings, but I told her, she can call me anytime. And that I would visit her sooner if she’d let me.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude that really sucks, I can understand why it would hurt your feelings and make your girl feel bad too. Long distance is tough enough as it is without other people doubting you guys. A few things I would say:

- Don't take what her friend's mom says too personally, some older people can be skeptical of online relationships. She doesn't really know you.

- Reassure your girl that you know the truth about each other and that's all that matters. Tell her to ignore the negativity.

- Is there a way you can video chat with her friend's mom to prove you're for real? Might help change her mind seeing you face to face.

- Keep making plans to visit asap so the doubts will fade. Could you work something out for even a weekend trip sooner?

- In the meantime, send surprise gifts/notes to your girl to let her know you're thinking of her. Small gestures help show you're committed.

- Most of all have patience. Prove the haters wrong by staying strong together. Don't let outside opinions mess with your connection.

Hope this helps man, long distance is tough but you guys got this!

[Anonymous]

For real man? It hurts your feelings? Grow a pair. What does it matter what her best friend’s mom thinks? She going to be living w the two of you or something? This shouldn’t even be an issue. You’re letting something this minuscule get to you. How are you going to handle things when shit really it’s the fan?