How should I feel about this?

[Anonymous]

I have mild Asperger’s Syndrome and I just heard from my close friend *Tina* that the guys in our community have been discussing how far they haven’t gone with me, including *Ian* telling everyone that I’d asked him to be my boyfriend and asked him to kiss and sleep with me, several years ago, to which he declined. Word has spread to my whole community. To the point where everyone knows all my private business. Should I be appalled, embarrassed, or just forget about it?

[HollyK21]

I would’ve called Ian out on that, it’s just super disrespectful. In general though I just wouldn’t care. Could be something that came with age but I feel like anyone who’s a friend of mine or cares about me would come and ask, assuming they even care. I don’t care about someone’s opinion if they can’t even bother to fact check something they’re gonna judge me off of.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh that's super messed up. I can't believe Ian would spread stuff about you like that, especially personal private stuff that happened years ago. Asperger's or not, no one deserves to have their private life blabbed about without permission. I'd be really mad and embarrassed too. You told Ian that stuff in confidence and he betrayed your trust by telling everyone. That's not cool at all. If it were me, I'd probably feel appalled that he spread private things without my ok, and embarrassed that the whole community now knows personal stuff. I'd also wanna forget it ever happened, but it'd be hard with everyone knowing. Maybe talk to Ian and tell him how not cool it was to spread your private business without asking. And don't feel bad about what you said to him back then - you didn't do anything wrong by expressing how you felt. Ian's the one who messed up by blabbing after the fact. I'd be pissed! But try not to let it get you down too much - sounds like Ian's the jerk here, not you.

[ThrillSeeker01]

I'm sorry. That sucks. It would be hard to ignore that, but the best thing is to try to forget about it.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Sasha0426]

You have every right to feel appalled. This Ian guy apparently didn’t grow up. I assume all of you are the same age as each other considering your age. If I’m wrong, please correct me. Either way, adults don’t do that. Only children spread something like that about someone.

[Sasha0426]

Also, if you live in a small town, that’s typical behavior. I would know because I live in a small town where everyone knows everyone.

[Anonymous]

Call them out and tell them stop being children who gossip and bully and to grow the f up