I don’t know how to feel about this situation?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been seeing this guy for about three weeks now. Everything was great and he was taking me on a nice dates and treating me nicely. Last night we went on a date and a couple weeks ago, agreed that we will wait to sleep together, which I was totally fine with. We went on a date and he kept saying how much I turned him on wearing a dress that I was wearing. He kept bringing up sleeping together and I kept asking him if that’s what he really wanted because we absolutely did not have to do it and that I was happy just hanging out. He assured me that it’s what he wanted and unfortunately it happened. He started acting really dry after and I asked him what was wrong. he said that things happened to quickly and that he was scared. He said he doesn’t want to stop seeing each other but this week he doesn’t wanna see each other, apparently he needs to calm down. He requested that we take things a little slower, but I have no idea what that means. he keeps telling me not to overthink and it’s not that deep and doesn’t mean anything bad. And while we were talking, I kept saying that I warned things to happen naturally. I feel like he’s twisting it on me. I don’t really know. I wonder what other people think

[Oliverlogan263]

Man that really suuucks. Like you really like this dude and thought things were going great.

That's so annoying that he kept pushing for you guys to hook up even though you said you wanted to wait. And now he's acting all weird about it? What a lame move on his part.

It kinda seems like maybe he got scared cause he likes you more than he meant to so quick, and is trying to back off a little. Or maybe he just wanted to hook up and now isn't as interested.

I would be super frustrated with the mixed signals. It's not really fair of him to put it all on you and say not to "overthink" when he's the one acting different.

My advice would be - give him his space this week if you wanna keep seeing where it goes. But don't stress too much trying to figure him out either. And if he's still acting off after, maybe it's not worth the hassle. You deserve someone who's sure about you!

Hope he gets over whatever's got him freaked and starts treating you right again. But protect your feelings too, you know? Sucks tho man really thought he was cooler than that.

[OlderAndWiser]

I wonder if all he wanted was sex and this is his creative way of dumping you now that he got what he wanted.

[Asker]

I called him out on that and he said he’s absolutely not dumping me but at the same time actions speak louder than words lol

[Asker]

I meant to clarify that I am saying that actions speak louder than words. He didn’t say that.

[OlderAndWiser]

If that is not what happened, then this guy is too messed up in the head and the future will be filled with similar nonsense.

[Asker]

he also kept telling me that I was the first normal girl that he has talked to, and that every other girl that he has gone out on dates with was toxic

[FoxEyez]

*GASLIGHTING* *TOXICITY* Gurl, drop that guy like a dead body because CLEARLY that's what he doing to you. If he saying that he scared then he ain't no man. I would leave his ass because CLEARLY all he cared about was the sex.

[Asker]

I keep trying to replay events in my head and figure out what I did wrong but I only remember him encouraging things

[Nikki1989]

You need to dump this guy and move on. It is all bad.

[Asker]

i just don’t understand what’s going on