My boyfriend shaved his head and I dont like it. should I just lie to not hurt his feelings?

[Anonymous]

He asked me if he should do it and i said im sure itll look good. He just sent me a photo and i dont know how i feel about it. Its weird I've never had a bald boyfriend before. He said a “buzz cut” which honestly I don't know what that is but i didn't think it meant bald. I haven't seen it in person and since im first seeing it on my phone, he didn't see my unfortunate reaction. I love him im just (very) surprised. He’s waiting for me to text back right now i haven't said anything since he sent the photo. Should i just lie and say that i like it? What good does saying the truth have in this situation?

Just lie its not a big deal

Tell him that u dont like it

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11 mo

Thanks for all the advice. I listened and let him know i prefer him with hair. It wasn't bad and nothing too serious, we laughed it off like some of you have said. Im not “controlling” him, he can do whatever he wants, but he still asks me what i think, thats all. Not that i needed to explain, but there it is. Anyway, for the nice opinions I appreciate it you guys helped me tons (not just on this matter, but for future reference).

[Effably]

Let him know your actual opinion. Assuming this wasn't him balding or something in whicj case I suppose its much more sensitive a topic.

Otherwise, tell him you're looking forward to rubbing his head but that you think in the future you prefer being able to grab onto his hair instead.

Playful, accepting and straight-forward.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Unless he has cancer, you can tell him his bald head looks stupid

[OlderAndWiser]

Anyone who suggests that it is okay to lie to your boyfriend is an idiot. I divide the universe of women into two groups:
1. Those who have ever lied to me at least once; and
2. everyone else, which is the group that I would trust.

[Summeroflove]

If he asks you. Tell him the truth. Obviously you’re with him so you probably like him more then his hair.



If someone asks me a question. They better want the answer…. Either I tell the truth or say nothing.

[coachTanthony]

Give it a minute. If after a while it doesn't grow on you then tell him.

[PizzaDaddyo]

I got you but, if you want get your point across, first, prepare to be bold.


Obviously this isn’t the biggest deal in the world and hopefully it’s not a dealbreaker for you but, please don’t lie. That will create the start of a pattern of lying and not being truthful and if you want to honestly from him you must match that same energy.


Okay now we know we must be bold if I were you I would tell him straight up asap how you feel about it. Lol definitely you can have fun with this because your not the bald one. May be a good approach would be to crack a joke about it to ease the tension. Obviously you don’t wanna hurt his feelings, so being too straight up or serious about this will definitely get the point across but we could let them know in a safer and easier way for him take it. I personally think you should either laugh or make a cringy facial reaction the next time you see him. For real tell him it’s not working, “the look”. Lol or you can be nice her and tell him him even more straight up but sarcastically that it looks fine or say how you liked it better before. The best thing you can do is the shave your head before he sees you and carry on. You got to say something ASAP no matter what don’t sleep on it or else you’re gonna feel the need to lie about it. He should definitely understand what he’s putting himself through, and he’s probably expecting some hate coming his way. there’s so many things you could say lol if I was you, I would start with, “sup Walter White?“. And then just lay it on… “Yeah… I’m not really feeling that“ definitely make a point of it. Make it clear change the subject, think smoothness. You don’t want to tell him really quickly, and then change the subject too fast, but when you see him “react”, maybe joke about it but make it clear point that you don’t love it. Then like change the topic slightly to like why or how did he come to this conclusion. Lol start shaving ur own head while telling him how much you hate it would really twist is balls haha. Sorry I had too much fun writing about this one

[EricSummer]

Tell him gently that for you he looks better with hair.
Anyway, after a week he will not look bald anymore as there will be a shade of stubbles.
Do not lie about thus one. It's no big deal, but it might encourage him to continue shaving his head.

[FilmGuy93]

Don't be weird about stuff like that. It's hair. It's really not that big of a deal to say "hey, I know you're trying something new. I'm not the biggest fan of it, at the moment. It might grow on me later."

When women lie about stuff like that, it just erodes confidence and emotional security in the relationship.

[magpi_]

Joke about it. Tell him playfully if he can handle a little ribbing, which he should. A girlfriend offered to give me a haircut once and she messed it up so badly I decided to buzz it all off. When I said it didn't look so bad and maybe I'd keep the look - I was very thin at the time - she ribbed me with jokes about Auschwitz. I got the memo and grew it back.

[Purpleronnie]

Be honest , but be sensitive also , choose the time and language you use carefully. Perhaps turn it to “ it’s not at all my favorite style for you , when you had hair like blah , you were far sexier. Don’t lie though !

[Anonymous]

If telling him you don't like his bald head hurts him then he needs to toughen up. Most guys would just laugh. It's hair! It grows back! Guys do not have nearly the attachment to thier hair that women do. Guys don't mind not having hair (so long as they're not going bald). We like to be bald by choice.😆

[SirJohn42]

A buzz cut is a millitary hair cut.
All recruits have their hair buzzed off.
Its close to being bald. Very low and tight haircut.

Be honest with him just tell him how you are wierded out by it.

[Angelo75]

Just let him know how sexy you find it with him with hair... or with hair even though he's going bald.

So tell him how you "like it more". Not how you "dislike" it.

[Dargil]

Question for you. Do you shave or wax your nether region? If you do, stop. Then you have something to discuss.

[ShesRad80]

be upfront and honest say you are not a fan of the cut

[Anpu23]

Hair grows back. If you don't like it just let him know that you prefer him with hair. But remember that it is his choice ultimately.

[TacosRAwesome]

Give it a few days to see if you still don't like it (might be the surprise) and if you don't tell him his old hair looked better.

[Anonymous]

tell him you don't like it.. did he shave his hole head bald or just part of it? or is he balding on top because that's common for a lot of men and some women too.

[LargeMemberAsk]

Perhaps You Should Shave Yourself As A nEw Perspective

[ThebestIndian]

Just tease him and also, convince him not to do it again. Be a playful girlfriend

[art84]

If it looks bad on him then just tell him.

[ItsZaman]

tell him that he looks way better with hairs