Why I don’t desire sex with men? Why I’m scared of sex with men?

[Anonymous]

I only had sex with one person my entire life and sex barley at 26 with a new guy that’s a potential boyfriend. But the thought of meeting other men repulses me, and I dont even want meet other men in person or try find new guy that can be my boyfriend as hell want sex. And it makes me sick to my stomach.

yes the new guy is a potential boyfriend but I was hoping find another guy that can ask to be his girlfriend sooner faster or be invited to a family event but no i can’t find that.
I did find Two men that want a girlfriend/wife but it’s men I don’t like. I need to imagine sex in my head with guy if not I can’t even meet that guy for a date & I get scared.

but i cannot have sex a guy unless I see him as the one& serious about him, is it normal? Even a good looking guy I randomly see will not make me desire sex with him.

[Makeushiver]

Do you feel an attraction to women? It would be ideal if you could see someone in the non-existent but often needed field of instructions to lovers. If you had to guess at the reason you feel that way;:what specifically do you not like? If you want more specific, let me know either here or CIA DM.

[Asker]

No I don’t like woman

[Asker]

I’m just depresed as I never experienced true love, no one begging to live with me no guy begging I give him a baby, a guy crazy following me doing anything I demand.

[Anonymous]

" I cannot have sex with a guy unless I see him as the one & and serious about him" that's how it goes for most women. That's why women are more likely to catch feelings for a friends and benefits relationship?

There's nothing wrong with this. You're stuck with this guy if you get pregnant. You should be picky.

[Asker]

I don’t do friends with benefits

[Asker]

I just only will have sex with a guy if I’m serious about him.

[Asker]

I’m unable find a guy that wants sex til marriage, also woman have sex all the time with a boyfriend or daily of they live together, so that’s a friends with benefits? I don’t do friends with benefits. I just got bad luck with last guy never moving next level to meet family, living together , marriage, shud of dumped him sooner years ago.
But new guy will be dumped soon & fast if we don’t meet family or do anything serious moving next level. Sex all year and next year never progressing will not be a serious boyfriend , just a normal boyfriend that dates u, so he's next in line be dumped

[Asker]

Point is I cannot jsut hav sex with any guy I don’t do that I’m a serious girl that wants marriage. Also it’s rare for me like a guy so much & willing have sex. So it scares me date any guy, as they’ll want sex

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't say YOU do freinds with benefits. I was just pointing out most women won't have sex with a guy unless she can see herself being in a relationship with, even if it's just a friends and benefits relationship... that's why they often catch feelings and men don't. Men will have sex with women they aren't interested in, women won't.

I get taking it slow, but most guys are going to lose interest if you aren't giving them sex after a couple of months. It's just the facts.

[Asker]

Yea but men don’t even wait couple of months. They don’t even want meet for first date without sex, and the first guy I dated many years , we didn’t meet family hide me , wasn’t my boyfriend as I thought. So I fear any new guy will do same sex forverr and we never progress the relationship.

That’s y the new guy I’m seeing is next , I won’t hav sex with him all year all next year and we neevr meet family

[Opinion Owner]

A good guy would wait at least a few months. You just have to find one. A year... good luck with that.

[Asker]

No guy wants to wait I met 400 men all year and I really like the guy I’m seeing but I don't know if he’ll be my serious boyfriend or wen. I’m so stressed 😓it’s not about waiting for sex, men don’t want meet family or give me label in 1-5 months.

I never been called a girlfriend neevr met family , neevr had a real boyfriend. I dated the first guy 7 years and he deny meet fmaily

[Asker]

The new guy I’m seeing is a good guy but I don't know if he’ll ever ask to be my boyfriend , and I won’t hav sex all year and all next year and we never progress to meet family mov next level , which is y I’ll need end things so he don’t get sex longer.
I don't know how many months I need wait til he finally asks to be his girlfriend, meet family. I’m stressed 😥

[Opinion Owner]

Good men are everywhere. They just aren't interested in you for reasons I can't tell you. You have to figure that out yourself. Ever hear the saying "you are who your friends are?" The same logic kinda applies with dating. You attract people on your level. If you are low quality, you're going to attract low quality men. It doesn't have to be this way, you can always work on yourself if you're willing to hold yourself accountable and admit your part of the problem.

[Asker]

I really like the new guy I see a future with him. I only met 2 guys that want a wife but they r extremely ugly I have 0 interst in them. The new guy is not a top model either he’s average nerdy quiet

[Asker]

I’m just stressed becuz guys don’t ask to be their girlfriend. I don't know how many years the new guy will take to ask to be his girlfriend meet family 😓

[Simplypotatoes]

It's not that you don't "desire". You clearly know what you want - a serious relationship before intimacy.

[ChicoFromThe305]

When did you start feeling this?

[Asker]

When I became depresed. First of all I’m not a whore I’m a marriage girl so I don’t want sex with many guys, I refuse raise my body count.

Then since no guy want a girlfriend , a relationship, meet family , I’m losing interest meet guys if all will be same , never move next level, spend 10 years to marry MAYBE. I’m depresed

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well don't listen to the intrusive thoughts so much, you are thinking against yourself, you shouldn't do that, you have to think open and nonbias towards yourself to get the most realistic result, really ask yourself who are you to really be so hated that your life will be nothing but shit, it's more realistic to think that you will one day marry and it will just all happen when it does and it's not something you can control or predict.

[Asker]

I don’t think I’ll get married if no guy wants become my first boyfriend no guy asks me 😔

[Asker]

So I’m depresed. And no longer hav interest meet guys. I accepted god don’t want me to get married & I don’t deserve that happiness blissful life

[ChicoFromThe305]

Okay so tell me why you don't believe you deserve it and tell me how you are so sure what God wants for you if you haven't even fully lived your life yet hm 🤔😆

[Asker]

I’m almost 30, I won’t have kids a first boyfriend tjl age 40. I spent 27 years looking for a first boyfriend and can’t find any guy that loves me

[Asker]

I won’t be living with parnets til age 40, I want buy my house be pregnant by 30 I don’t want live with parents age 27-40 more longer

[Asker]

I want my life finally start I wasted my 20s never having a boyfriend. Just alone with parents

[Asker]

Age20-30 alone with parents

[ChicoFromThe305]

I wouldn't say it's a waste, if anything you used that time to fully prepare yourself for a partner, love will find you, that's usually how it happens, not the other way around, don't be so glumy, you'll find love, just don't stress so hard about it, you being with your parents isn't much of an issue cause most men that marry want traditional wives so it surely won't complicate things.

[Asker]

I don’t want be 27-40 living with parents. My parents fight all day. My married siblings r gone so they don’t need suffer through that. I deserve the same be gone never hear fighting parents ever again.
I’m looking for a boyfriend for one year , and no guy wants be my boyfriend, all men rejecting me. No guy likes me
Back, the only 2 men that wanted live with me, go to a cruise with me , r men I don’t like back.
One blocked me as I’m
Not texting him fast.

I’m looking everyday & cannot find a guy that loves me

[ChicoFromThe305]

One day at some point you'll find it, you just gotta be patient and you'll see you will

[noohair]

Time to see a professional.