A middle class man asks out a very rich woman on a date, who should pay for the meal?

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RebelinSteel · Accepted Answer

He should, by rights a £400 meal should be fairly easy for someone deemed to be middle class. If you date at higher social / financial levels, you need to be prepared to pay and that is for both parties. If you ask someone to a place outside of your ability to easily pay, then you are a bit stupid. This also is true if being asked to someplace above your level to pay, always check before hand who is paying or going 50/50, it’s one thing splitting a £50 bill and another a £500 bill.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

That is up to them. But I say she picks up the tab. Women these days expect men to pick up the tab cause he makes more money. So if there’s a greater responsibility w making more money then she should be the one to take care of a majority of things financially.

TheRealPepperPotts · Accepted Answer

If he asked, he should be prepared to pay. If she asked, she should be prepared to pay. However, I personally think first dates should always be Dutch. In fact, I think first dates should be coffee or something. That way if it's awkward, we don't have to sit through an entire meal.

KittyKat90210 · Accepted Answer

He should pay since he asked her out. He's middle class and her financial status doesn't change that he asked her.

AviatorTom · Answer

The person asking the other person out is the one who should pay. It might be a good thing in this case if she offered to pay her share, but that's not necessary, nor expected.

NathanDavis · Answer

if you're not ready to pay for 100 meals... then do not invite any woman to a first meal

lol...

if your plan is to just get sex from some meals, then pay whatever the meal costs, or just be practical and pay for sex to a sex worker, lmao

patois · Answer

You should both pay for your own shit like grown adults. Neither are the other's child. If you don't want to spend money when you leave the house, then do thing that can be done for free on dates.

Billlewis · Answer

Our respective economic statuses are completely irrelevant in a situation like this, because I always prefer to pay not only for my dates with her, but her dates with other guys, whenever possible.

RavVid · Answer

I see lots of drizzle drizzle going on at my local cafe. So yeah the rich bitch should pay.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I'm old school. I always believe the guy should pay. If the lady wants to buy him a present or something as a thank you, that is a nice gesture but it isn't necessary.

MisterWack · Answer

My take is, method of payment should be discussed prior to the date in question.  It isn’t about gender, economic status, etc. it is about agreeing on the method of payment.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I'll give you the same answer I give for every other question like this: Everyone is responsible for paying for their own self!

Unit1 · Answer

Can we not make it so that money is not a major deciding factor in love and relationships?

handsomelad70 · Answer

If the woman is that much more flush than the man, I split the tab, as a nod to your masculinity (his half) and her wealth (hers).

Juxtapose · Answer

Both of them should.  When I go to lunch or whatnot with my friends, we pay for our own shit.

Fireguy17 · Answer

usually it was whomever did the asking, but that might have changed over the years and I haven't had to go on a date for a long time. My wife prefers that I don't date.

molonski2 · Answer

He invited her , he pays , he should consider it an investment in himself , but he initiated it.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

I always pay. Especially a first date. I've dated women that own zip codes of apartments in the USA and still paid.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

The guy, after all no matter their wealth or financial situation he asked her out, you can't ask someone out and have them pay, that's pretty messed up.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

If he is smart, he wouldn’t take her on a dinner date. He would find something to do that’s free so she they could get to know each other without a “transaction.” You go out to a meal, you usually aren’t doing much to get to know each other.

HighValue · Answer

Each person should pay their own way at first so nobody feels used or obligated regardless of either person's income.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Who ever invited the other pays. Or what I do, just paying for what I ordered.

HawkPerception · Answer

Go dutch. It's how it should be every date regardless of income.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The one asking for the date should pay.

exitseven · Answer

The man and he needs to step up his game a little bit. His date will not like to eat at Popeyes.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

everyone pays for themselves

soe11 · Answer

Man should pay for meals. Whenever go for the date I always pay.

msc545 · Answer

Relative wealth doesn't matter - most women believe that the man should ALWAYS pay for the date.

Staximus · Answer

Well the guy asked her out, so he should pay

Anonymous · Answer

As with any first date, regardless of who is or isn't rich, and who asks the other out, the expectation should be that the bill gets split.

chrissykerdock · Answer

odds are he'll want head after dinner

Jennz6 · Answer

Because he asked her out

Jerre · Answer

The man should always pay.

4ngelic · Answer

the woman

OddBeMe · Answer

Hahahaha…, rich people don’t date proletariat.

Pete671 · Answer

The man, he asked her,,,

Ironco · Answer

He's the one who asked her out.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Whoever invited (the man).

loveslongnails · Answer

The asker.

shortster · Answer

The asker

LiamJHayden · Answer

The asker.

Jay-_- · Answer

The man.

noohair · Answer

Pay to play

CubaPirate · Answer

50 50 split

eagle1951 · Answer

the man

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