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As in a girl who is my friend. Here's kind of the situation.
We met on a religious retreat when we were in high school. Then we shared a class during freshman year in college. We both went through toxic relationships at the same time, and got close in that. We kept hanging out during covid. I dropped out (though I went back) and we only hang out a handful or two times a year. We probably wouldn't have stayed in touch, but both of us are a little lacking in friends. Like we hardly hang out, but we're best friends. I feel like it's not going to be back to how it was, and even though we're pretty good friends, maybe there's no real risk in asking her out. Maybe that sounds shitty. I guess like, what would I be losing, barely see her anyway. Maybe things would get better and back to life, or it'll just make the inevitable come faster.
We met on a religious retreat when we were in high school. Then we shared a class during freshman year in college. We both went through toxic relationships at the same time, and got close in that. We kept hanging out during covid. I dropped out (though I went back) and we only hang out a handful or two times a year. We probably wouldn't have stayed in touch, but both of us are a little lacking in friends. Like we hardly hang out, but we're best friends. I feel like it's not going to be back to how it was, and even though we're pretty good friends, maybe there's no real risk in asking her out. Maybe that sounds shitty. I guess like, what would I be losing, barely see her anyway. Maybe things would get better and back to life, or it'll just make the inevitable come faster.
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Honestly dude, I don't think asking her out is a great idea. A few things to consider:
- You said you're both lacking in friends, so the friendship means more than just a minor thing you'd lose if it got weird. Breaking that trust could really damage things.
- It's been 5 years of knowing each other in a strictly platonic way. Changing the nature of your relationship would be a big adjustment and neither of you may be ready for that.
- Your history is close, but through tough times when you both needed a friend. That foundation isn't necessarily romantic love. Forcing it could ruin what you do have.
- You barely see each other as it is. Is an awkward rejection worth jeopardizing a friendship you still value on some level?
My advice would be to appreciate what you've got - a true friend who knows you deeply. If something more develops naturally over time as your paths bring you closer again, great. But I wouldn't intentionally put romance on it and risk the special bond you do share. Sometimes the best relationships start as just that - a good friendship. Play the long game on this one man.
I don't understand what you are saying
Do I ask out a close friend of mine because it seems like our friendship is fading anyway
You can ask