It's fine to sleep with someone on the first date. Agree or disagree?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Agree, if you have great chemistry and connection together and both attracted to each other , then why wait if the passion is there between you both? I have slept with girls’ on the first date because her and I knew we wanted each other , the passion and chemistry and connection was there , we both knew we wanted each other , if she comes back after that? Then that’s even better , if she doesn’t? Oh well thanks for a good time but not a long time lol That only happens when she has a boyfriend or husband waiting for her at home lol

coachTanthony · Accepted Answer

Of course its fine. If two adults want to do that then great. Now statistics show it's much more difficult to have a long lasting relationship when that occurs due to the connection being "sex." Have two people had a lasting relationship after having sex on the first date? Sure but it's not the norm and it's not recommended if both involved want something that has a future.

AviatorTom · Answer

If the date goes well, you click, and are both willing, it's okay to have sex on the first date.

Of the several women I've dated in my life, that's only happened once. It led to a very nice, though short, summer romance.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

It's up to them. I think it's a really dumb idea personally, but I lead with my mind.

DishLady · Answer

Nooooooo. No, it's not. Keep the panties on and the jeans zipped till you ACTUALLY know one another well.

Smoothshave · Answer

I Once Net A Woman From Online Dating Site. After A Week Of Talking, We Agreed To Meet… She Gave Me Her Work Address… She Got Into My Car, Introduced Ourselves, Quick Hug… After About 30 Seconds, She Suggested We KISS Passionately To Break The Ice, Which We Did For Several Minutes… With No Real Plans, We Drove Around, After An Hour She Suggested We Go To A Motel And Fuck… We Checked In, Immediately Undressed Had Sex For An Hour Or So… Woke Up The Next Morning, Went Back To Get Her Car, She Asked Me To Follow Her Home… Went To Her Room, Fucked For Another Hour Or So… We Dated About Six Months… After Thanksgiving, She Wanted To Get Serious, Her Only Concern Was My Younger Kids Who I Have Sole Custody Of… Her Daughter, Whom I Met Was Grown In Her 20’S, Mine Were Early Teens… She Was Concerned I Wanted Her To Raise Them, Which I Never Asked For Or Hinted At, I Have Raised My Kids Since Birth, And Alone Since A Very Young Age… So We Ended It, Because She Felt That I Wanted A Caregiver… Sex Was Great, She Sucked Cock And Swallowed Very Well, Her Bald Cunt Tasted Amazing… We Got Along Very Well… If You Have Kids, You Have Zero Rights To Judge Others With Kids…

MicahRaine · Answer

When you're just meeting them for the first time or you don't know them super well, no.

But I would say yes if you know them very well even before the first date and know that you are both committing.

Me and Raine slept together before our first official date, but it was also under the context of a 5+ year friendship and numerous conversations about what we were seeking and giving in a relationship. Sooo yeah we slept together the day after I asked her out. It's exactly the sort of thing that worked out really well for us but I wouldn't recommend to my kids.

RingOfFire · Answer

I had my fill of that by the time I was out of my 20s. Experienced it all... first dates, not even first dates, just someone I met somewhere on a business trip and never saw again, you name it.

By the time I was 35 I made a conscious decision never to do any of that again, it's so empty. And now... after all these years... the only thing that counts to me is depth. Anything that comes too easy is worthless.

itsannalee · Answer

If you comfortable enough, it’s up to u. Your body your rules, as adult you know exactly what you do.

rachel776 · Answer

my current boyfriend i slept with on the first date. though i made him wait a year for the first date (which i wish i hadn't done)

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

That's up to the people on the date to decide. As long as both want to and are comfortable, then I'll say they're grown-up enough to decide for themselves.

Would I ever sleep with someone on the first date? No.
So far I don't even want to kiss on a first date.

But my boundaries should not affect people that has nothing to do with me. Especially when it's something including consenting adults.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I don't really care what other people do, as long as they don't hurt anyone and don't break the law everything is alright :D

thegreenyogi · Answer

I think for me it depends on the date. If I am really into that person from word go in the way of chemistry then it's okay for me. If I'm not feeling it yet or not at all then no.

hahahmm · Answer

If by "first date" we mean the first time you ever talked to them for more than 5 minutes them, nah. I was never into that. And when I was single back in the day: if I met a woman who was I would assume there's zero reason for me to take her seriously.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I disagree. You have no clue who that person really is. They could come off as the most sincere person you ever met and then turn on a dime.

There's the risk if you are the guy, she may turn around and claimed you raped her even though she gave consent. How do you prove otherwise? A buddy of mine went through this exact same scenario so it makes me cautious.

snowboarder720 · Answer

If there’s sexual chemistry there why not explore that with consent?

DrPepper12 · Answer

Its fine to suck off a random stranger in a month ending in Y while in training for the nathans hot dog eating contest and you just wanna practice your BJ technique.

Consenting adults can do as they please as long as legal and safe

FarmBoy13 · Answer

Yes it’s fine if that’s what you both want to do

DizzyDesii · Answer

Maybe if you were getting to know eachother or already knew eachother long before the actual date (like months or years)

ProbablyClueless · Answer

It's fine to. But, in my experience, women who have done things like that with me were not taking me seriously.

BetaBucks · Answer

If you're headed for a relationship, sure. If not, not my thing.

jackieistired · Answer

It honestly depends on so many factors. Were you talking to them for a while before? Do you know their status? Are you both under the influence? …etc

Ladsin2 · Answer

Should it be illegal? No. Is it a a good idea? No. Women should have more respect for themselves. If I sleep with a woman on the first date I’m happy I got some, but I know she’s not good for a relationship.

Phoenix98 · Answer

If I had already known them for a while before hand yeah but if this is my first meeting with them then no.

fonduegirl · Answer

If you've known each other a long time before dating, sure!  I wouldn't bed a stranger I met on a fine evening

exitseven · Answer

sure, you only live once.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Umm what else would you be going on a date for?

LiamJHayden · Answer

I used to do it before a date. Now I like to wait.

Lonewolf1974 · Answer

Myself I wouldn't because it usually never lasts and they end up not liking each other in the morning

straightmax12 · Answer

That depends on if you both want to.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Most people would say no.

dudegreat91 · Answer

Not only fine but its preferable

Emmytexrex · Answer

I don't do it on a first date

eleanorsayshi · Answer

No way

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