Girls, why does it hurt to just be friends with a guy you want to date, when us girls are more about companionship than sex anyway?

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BethOfWisdom · Accepted Answer

The main reason why it hurts is that females, in general, cannot separate sex from companionship, and their desire for sex plays a big role in their friendship with others. Many females' relationships with males are to have their physical needs met, have a good time with someone paying for it, and have their male friends buy them things. Most female and male relationships are 80 percent female in what she can get from the male. Females cannot cut sex off from having a relationship, and that is why they go male to male to find who will meet their needs.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Bc the TYPE of companionship is different in a friendship than in a romantically-oriented relationship.

RyanR03 · Accepted Answer

Um.. well it’s the most unsatisfactory conciliatory award ever when you want the grand prize. It’s a rejection first of all. And this is make or female. When you desire to kiss and eventually be intimate with someone… a side hug just doesn’t cut it. Especially when you will have to watch some other woman or man get the role you wanted above all

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

Its rejection at the deepest level. You are cufoff feom passing on your genetics.

In some cultures the women that dont get a guy end up single , alone, without support amd vulnerable to great suffering. Those realities be passed kn in your sub conscious.

kylee2437 · Answer

Because there’s a huge difference between having romantic feelings for somebody vs not.

Crimsyjo · Answer

Are we? I'm about companionship AND sex hand in hand. Just companionship is for those you are not attracted to and east to do. If attracted... sexual emotions are going to be involved. And constant reminder he basically rejects you that way is gonna hurt!

Human nature!

paledreams · Answer

I think some anxiety ladies do enjoy sex and companionship as good as any man would - without them being overly horny all the time, not me as I would not want a woman constantly talking sex and likewise I also wouldn't want to constantly talk sex to my SO or girlfriend

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Because you're romantically and/or sexually attracted to them. Can you be fine with just being friends? Yes, some can but others can't. And you having a crush will still go on until you find another person you're attracted to.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I suppose it hurts because it is a constant reminder that he doesn't want you lol.
I was friends with a guy for years that I was into, but I placed him in that position in hopes I wouldn't lose him. I still eventually did LMAO.

Goahead76 · Answer

I've always argued that women mostly just want companionship so this is interesting to see this debated.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Because you’re trying to be “friends” with someone you don’t just want to be “friends” with. Either date him or drop him and move on since you don’t see him as a friend.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Because romance is about more than sex, but it does usually include sex (if you’re old enough for that)

avery58 · Answer

Some women don't know how to handle rejection or being put in the friend zone as well as guys

RavVid · Answer

I am guessing girls want the bonded nature of a sexual relationship. A friend can have other things to do

serious · Answer

Of course it will hurt because that liking/love is one sided from the woman's side. One sided like/love always hurts.

BetaBucks · Answer

I've never met a girl that was happy without sex. Most are constantly enraged if they're not having sex.

Nikki1989 · Answer

It doesn't hurt. I am not sure where you got that idea from.

Yannae · Answer

Because you don't want to be just friends. You want to be more but it isn't happening. So close, yet so far. That is why it hurts.

Anonymous · Answer

it doesn't hurt me as I always talk to multiple men at the same time so if he doesn't want me don't care I have 20 other lined up who want to date me.

getpucksin · Answer

Seems more like a participation award than getting 1st place I assume. Like earning the Presidents Trophy but losing the Stanley Cup

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Because one is emotional/psychological, the other physical/biological. At the end of the day, girls are still animals with girl parts and the urge to breed. You can’t overcome biology.

WisdomOfNancy · Answer

Females have sex just as much as males. I am laughing at this part of your question - females are more about companionship than sex, anyway. We mature females know that females do what companionship, but we added sex to it. Let's be honest.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Because not having sex with someone you want to have sex with sucks?

clampfan101 · Answer

I’d just like to say I care much more about companionship than sex.

NathanDavis · Answer

that's why you shouldn't...

DrPepper12 · Answer

Men can't handle the transition

Jennz6 · Answer

Because the guy is always trying to have sex

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

Girls want to settle down, sooner, than men do

Anonymous · Answer

Men are wimps

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