Girls, What’s the point in being in a relationship if you treat your friends better then your partner?

[Anonymous]

She would run me down to her friends, if we were out with mutual friends she would walk ahead of me with them and basically act like I didn’t exist. when we ultimately separated and she was moving in with her friend they immediately got a membership to a wholesome club for groceries and I asked how come that didn’t happen when we were together because there was arguments about how long our groceries were lasting as well as cost. Overall I just didn’t seem to matter

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3 mo

How should I move forward

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she wasn’t as serious about you as you were about her. She liked having the title of “girlfriend” without the effort that goes into being a partner.

[Asker]

How do you move forward after an experience like this

[Opinion Owner]

You allow yourself to grieve, if you need to, and then you move on. It may take a little while to get over her, but I would focus on meeting new people. There are plenty of good women in the world, and the more you meet the more you will find that are better suited for you than she was.

[Asker]

But how can I be so sure that history wouldn’t repeat itself

[Opinion Owner]

It helps to reflect and think about all the details, even the smallest nuances have the potential to become greater problems. Reflection helps us to understand either what went wrong, or what little things we ignored that led to the fallout. That way we can be better equipped for the next relationship that comes along.
Reflect back on this past relationship: was there anything that should have been given greater attention before she became your girlfriend? While you were getting to know one another, did she genuinely ask you questions about yourself, or were you the one asking all the questions about her? Did she pay attention to you on dates, or would she easily get distracted? Has she ever canceled plans with you to go hang with friends, even if her plans with you were made long before the plans with her friends were made?

[Asker]

Yeah she never really asked questions I always had to carry the conversations

[Opinion Owner]

That was the red flag. In that sort of scenario; at best, a girl can be shy, and at worst she can be self-absorbed. I assume this girl is not the shy type.

[Asker]

So when we would get into an Uber or Lyft she could easily have a conversation with the driver, same when we were out with mutual friends