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To be clear, there are several ladies I am friends with, and I am fine with being friends with some ladies.
However, if you are asking for the reason why men tend to search for romantic partners much more quickly and often than ladies, then I will answer you that: it's genetics.
Look at animals, for instance. The males seek out the females. It is their role, as it were, to win over a mate. The females, on the other hand, do not have this role. They do not seek out or win over; they see a male who wins them over, and they choose him.
In people it is quite similar, in fact. Men look for and attempt to "win over" ladies, therefore searching through many people as potential partners. However, ladies rarely do the same. They "choose" a man who already wants them (typically, of course).
This doesn't mean that men do not have any female friends. It just means, or seems to me to mean, that men are not looking for friends, they just find them. While ladies do not look for partners, they just find them. If that manages to make itself into sensical writing?
I can only speak for myself, but the main reasons are that:
1) I'm not looking for more "friends".
Everyone's time is finite, and there is only so much you can do with it.
A partner is one thing, yet another friend is a different matter entirely.
2) I have only bad experience with female friends.
3) Qualities that make a good friend automatically make a female seem attractive to me, and I don't want friends who I'm attracted to.
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Wrong. I want to be friends. My hormones will still make me want to fuck you if you offered, but I can control myself! I have women friends, and tbh I think it's harder to be a girls friend because everything a guy does that is nice they can assume we do to get in bed with them. Like bitch... I said you're beautiful because you are and I'm not saying it to be some physco playboy that broke your heart in high school. Legit every pretty girl is fucking suffering from an issue because if some trauma in the past. People can't do things just to do them... No they gotta have a reason.
Sometimes. Girls I've met at work I've never really looked at like I want to smash. There has been the one or two from work but never pursued in such a manner nor have I still try to win them over after not working with them anymore. Girls from outside different scenario. She has the potential to open up new doors so why not see what those doors go and if she has a boyfriend then you're still the friend until she doesn't have a boyfriend then it leaves the option open to see if you can be more but I've also been in a situation where I've been de friend and there was a boyfriend and we were friends long enough for me to not want to pursue anything further. Not that it was my intention but that I seen it as an eventual option
They can. Usually we are more apt to be just friends if we aren't attracted to you in any way. You can just be a pal. If he attracted to you than he'd probably be less content being a friend. He may make a move and if you reject him he'll not want to hang out with you all the time having feelings but it going no where. He'd be more apt to stop hanging out with you and use that energy to find someone who is interested in him. But he'd still be up for hanging out with the girl who he has no attraction to. She might just be "one of the guys" to him.
It was the opposite for me. There was a guy I viewed as a romantic interest and he knew it, yet he wanted to be just friends, but he didn't tell me from the beginning. We used to talk on a daily basis and we really got along. Then i found out the truth and he wouldn't understand why I was mad at him. He totally didn't understand why it's wrong to give someone false hope.
People should always make things clear from the beginning. I also made the mistake of viewing a guy as a friend. I didn't know he had a crush on me until he actually was in love with me... i felt like crap for not realizing it sooner.
Why can't women be ok with being thought of as unattractive? You don't like that do you? Well when you say i think of you as a friend that's the way it comes off to a guy
Life is one big competition when you're a guy. And women are just anther spoil of war. The joke of it is when it comes to women even when you win a lot of the time you still lose. lol
And before you get mad at me know i said most women, Not all women. I would say 9 out of 10 women aren't worth keeping
There's a difference between being friends with a woman and "let's just be friends". The second one rarely works.
That being said most the friends I'm still in contact with are female. So I dunno. In your teen years I guess the hormones can make you think funny things.
Because they're single, why wouldn't they?
They don't have the time, energy or charisma to be friends with everyone.
"Sexually attractive" is not exclusive from "friend," you may feel that way but that's not how it is. I don't see why it's a problem or why seeing everyone as a friend a better thing.
No. MEn don't really have a "friend zone", instead, they have a "taboo zone". These are the women who are off-limits for any number of reasons. Someone else's spouse, a sister or other blood relative, a friend's ex, etc. Different men draw those zones in different places.
Any other woman who makes herself sexually available is fair game.
Your experience right now is primarily age based. Most all the guys you meet and know now are single-minded... sex. I say most, not all, and this is based on 1) my own recollections and experiences during that age and 2) the glut of similar talk on here and other sites. Guys will "befriend" you if they are attracted, but you're not, in the hopes you'll change your mind when they see how good a friend they are, too. This will change as you get older... but much older !!! LOL
Men and women typically do not connect to one another the way same-sex friends do. Men and women are genetically designed to bang each other. Not be friends. Men do not casually make friends with attractive women—they are either forced upon them (family, friend’s girlfriend, etc.), or there is a physical intent. Unless a woman looks like a wildebeest, all of her “guy friends” would probably bang her if given the chance.
Friends of the opposite gender can easily place needles stress on a relationship.
In addition, there's no fun in spending time with someone you're really attracted to who isn't interested in you.
Plus we've already got friends, and we're looking for a girlfriend.
I have plenty of female friends, and can't even imagine having any sexual or romantic interaction with them just because I can only see them as friends. Some people are just too focused on sex that it takes over their life
I have a few female friends, ofcourse I had a small interest in some of them, not in all of them. But with the ones I did have a small interest in, we just set boundaries at the start by clearly stating, only friends nothing more.
There's always romantic interest involved because that's natural male and female are the pairing that makes the baby's but I do have women who are just friends either from me putting them in the friend zone me being put in the friend zone or they were already taken
Lets flip the question. Why do you want to be friends with a bunch of guys if you have no romantic interest in them? Do you like just having a bunch of guys around you to reaffirm your ego or sexual attractiveness?
That's not true at all. If that's really your experience so far, it has everything to do with the type of people you hang out with and nothing with them being men.
Every guy friend I've ever had eventually started liking me. In fact I ended up marrying one of them so... I don't know I'm sure it's possible but I would say it's extremely unlikely.
I don't have a problem with being friends, though the girl will have to do most of the legwork on getting my number and hanging out because my attention will be more focused on girls that want something more.
I gladly would if women just would like to. Seems like they don't go past the "acquintenance" level (or however it's spelled) in my real life experiences.
Not true! I'm "just friends" with a lesbian and a woman I don't find attractive _at_all_. It works out pretty well.
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