Do guys ever just want to be friends?

[Anonymous]

How can I find out if he wants more without making a move. ?

[MCheetah]

Nope! Unless it's online/long distance. Women make terrible friends to guys! And unless they're gay men, the same is true for women. It's the truth some guys will never admit to you. Men are only ever friends IRL with women in order to make a move on them, potentially date, or if one of the two are gay.

But yeah, women are generally boring AF. Most HUMAN BEINGS are boring actually, but at least you'll likely have more in common with male friends. Like I said though, you can be friends with women if it's online-only, or they're long distance, or one of you are gay. But if sex/dating is off the table, most men aren't going to be friends with guys, the same way most women aren't going to be friends with married men. It's just how people are.

[MCheetah]

And most of this doesn't apply to me, by the way. I'm kind of anti-social and don't talk to people of either gender all that often (usually cause they reject my friendship, not because I don't make attempts at it).

[HellGeist]

I agree with much of what you're saying, but the caveat being (like I mentioned elsewhere on this post) I STILL want to bang all the women I am "friends" with long-distance if I were ever to get the unlikely chance.

But literally if most of them wanted I would fly over or fly them over and fuck their brains out.

I have a feeling I'm not the only guy like this, lmao. It's just an unlikely occurrence to happen but I wouldn't turn it down, you know?

Anyway, I love the post you made about Reddit. It was probably pretty old so I don't you if you remember, but I found this site by searching "fuck Reddit" (or something similar) and I found your post and related to you 1000%.

Fuck Reddit.

I'm kind of anti-social too, but your a cool dude.

Take care.

[MCheetah]

(correction)
But if sex/dating is off the table, most men aren't going to be friends with *girls

[MCheetah]

@HellGeist
Thank you. I think that's the one I made last year, but I also made another MyTake comparing it to Twitter, so you might be referring to that one as well.
Which social media site is the Worst of the Worst? Reddit or Twitter? ↗

[TruthBringer]

I'm glad someone called out the elephant in the room. And it seems some 'ladies' are keen on disliking these opinions calling out the flaws of men and women being friends. I made the following take. Let me know your opinions Why it’s almost impossible for men and women to be “just friends” ↗

[TruthBringer]

No. In the majority of cases, no. And time will tell you whether they want just friendship or not. Either they make a move on YOU, or they will start to distance themselves (sometimes out of resentment).

Usually when guys have girl friends while they are single, is because those girl friends are the only females they communicate with. So they rather stay "friends" than to risk losing that and be all lonely. I made a Take that describes in detail why men and women can rarely be just friends.
Why it’s almost impossible for men and women to be “just friends”

[CasaNorba]

I'm surprised the snowflakes in this site have brought up your mytake you wrote months ago

[TruthBringer]

@CasaNorba The power of truth does wonders, doesn't it?

[ManOnFire]

My closest friend is actually a female. She is beautiful and guys are always going after her, which she claims to be annoyed by. However, she is not my type sexually or for a relationship, hence why we are only friends, and I love her as a friend. Nothing more.

Men and women can be friends, but I'm not sure how often. I have no problem admitting that I've wanted sex with female friends in the past, yes. I think for guys there's comfort in wanting to be able to sleep with someone you get along with and can be yourself with.

[MJtheCoach]

I’m gonna tell you a couple things based on what I seen girls who don’t have girlfriends have psychological problems that they cannot get along with their own gender be guys should become friends with girls and if the girls a tractive are too much of a pu##y to tell her that they want to sleep with her so what they do is they hang around all the time hoping one day she’ll put out which doesn’t work see if you want to give male friend you need to become friends with the older mature guy that’s masculine and confident.

[CuriousJC]

Sometimes I prefer the woman to make a move on me instead of me making a move on her so I just tell her that we're friends until she's ready to make the move. You can't force a relationship, the woman has to be comfortable and ready to start a relationship that she's not then they stay best friends until she is ready.

[The_Maphio]

Yes they do. Even those who want to have sex with you might absolutely have no intention to get engaged with you. You either formulated the question in the wrong way, or don't believe that sex is compatible with friendship. Thing that I honestly still didn't understand the problem with.

[Dragonpurple]

I like being friends with women, you can't really know without making a move or him making a move.

You can try to hint at it, but guys are notoriously clueless about hints.

A true friend though, would happily say, they just want to be friends. I know that sucks if you want more.

[HighValue]

The only time guys want to be friends with a girl are usually:
1. If he doesn't find her attractive, but still has things in common they enjoy doing.
2. If there is something about her that makes her not a good match for a long term relationship.
3. If he likes one of her friends and is using her as a way to meet them.

[HellGeist]

True!

[FTnWo]

I've had a couple of females that I'm fine with just being friends with because they are just cool as fuck but my wife sure didn't think so and is only okay with me being friends with a female if she is old, fat or ugly or a combo of the three. But she gets mad as fuck if I say something about her and her guy friends witch is complete bullshit and may be the reason we divorce one day because I'm about tired of the hypocrisy.

[DaveJord]

Ask him if he could have sex with you, would he 8f given the opportunity or is friendship that importantto him.

I have never been "just" friends with a girl I would not bang if I had a chance. Last time I was "just" with a girl was highschool and yes I totally would of banged her. Since then, the last thing I want from girl is sexless friendship.

[TruthBringer]

Well said. This is something that women do not want to admit to neither society nor to themselves. They know deep down if not consciously that their male friends would sleep with them the second they get the chance.

By the way, I remember you roasting a user with the name Aiko for being friends with a girl who already has a boyfriend. I love how you said that such guys are losers and would rather be a third wheel to a sex-less "friendship" than to risk being disconnected from women altogether. Trust me, that shit hit him hard and he obviously didn't take it well. Keep spreading those harsh truths!

[DaveJord]

@TruthBringer lol... I did you are right. I just feel like men are 99.9% disingenuous with women on this we are just friends thing. As a man I know exactly how testosterone works and the effects it has on men, especially at an age. And I think women like having a guy friend, for the feeling of being with a guy without worrying about sex... but same knowing its disingenuous. I man wants to bone, it doesn't mean he's not a gentleman or good person, but given the chance... he will bone.

We weren't created to be just friends it goes against our very genetic coding as human beings. So yes cut out the BS.

[TruthBringer]

Couldn't agree more!

[ObscuredBeyond]

I have plenty of gal pals that are married. They know I set boundaries, and honor theirs.

As for single women: I'll give most a chance. Unless they immediately do something despicable or imbecilic that is extreme enough a case of either to scare me off. Then, she can reach for Mr. Yellow Plastic and die surrounded by a million cats.

[Jay3344]

Some guys do just want to be friends. Sometimes sexuality can come into play despite just wanting to be friends but if that’s really all he wants that’s probably all that will happen. Not sure how to give you advice on how to figure it out without making a move or just asking. Maybe he’ll let you know somehow.