How come guys are bummed out being single but women enjoy it?

[serious_miss419]

[Summeroflove]

Well I don’t think it’s a gender thing. It depends on the individual… I think some people also pretend to enjoy being single but really aren’t happy.

I think most people should be focused on finding the one. Not just being with someone for the sake of being with someone. Not wasting their own time but especially not someone else’s. When they aren’t even in love.

I think people are better being alone then with someone who makes them absolutely miserable. But unfortunately some people think it’s better then nothing.

Some people though don’t really need or even want someone else. Could be for the time being or maybe that’s just how their life is meant to be.

Im single right now and happy. Do I eventually want to find someone to share my life with? Well yeah. But at the same time there isn’t really anyone right now who I think is that person. There’s women who I personally like but not romantically. I mean I have options if I really wanted someone.

Yeah I do eventually want to have children. But I want to make sure I find a quality woman not only for myself, but for my future children.

[serious_miss419]

You can always adopt.
Guys often approach women as a job interview that will grant them a pension for retirement.

[Finchie40]

Because most women can get laid whenever she wants to , Most men don’t have that option unless he pays for it or he is attractive and is a player as well. Most single girls’ like the variety she receives and the attention she receives from men , she doesn’t want the baggage that comes with a relationship. Most females’ have the grass is greener on the other side syndrome in themselves, thinking she only wants things her way and that she should be treated like a princess at all times. By being wined and dined and receiving gifts , Most desperate men will give her what she wants. Why so many divorces are initiated by women these days , She is selfish and only really cares about what is best for herself. She knows she is beautiful and knows she gets a lot of attention. She sadly wasn’t raised with good moral support from her family , she was raised with a silver spoon in her hand by never being told the word No , she was always right no matter what she did. Yes guys’ can be this way as well. If he was raised to never believe he is wrong , his parents always told him he was right and that he does no wrong. Bottom line people that have selfish mindsets should never get into a relationship because they only care about what is best for themselves , they can’t give they same way they want to receive.

[serious_miss419]

I can very well say I have no interest in getting laid or receiving attention out and about. I was left to fend for myself very young and take care of the home. The only no I ever heard was when I asked for help. I learned quick to never need it. I can’t relate to your statement. But thank you for answering!

[Finchie40]

Yea some people just don’t want the drama that comes with most relationships, they prefer to not be tied down to one person , they like the freedom of being free to do as they please , without any consequences for their actions. I am a relationship kind of guy , but through the years of having my heart broken by females’ I tend to no longer rush into a relationship with a girl anyone anymore , most people that jump into relationships without looking at the big picture first , because they are infatuated by that person they met , but sadly as time goes on , they sometime realize they no longer have that much in common with that person , and decide to end the relationship all of a sudden because they feel like they are missing out on something , or they feel bored , and then go cheat on them or leave them for someone else , thinking grass is greener on the other side. Sadly it happens more than most people think. I was married to a girl for a lot of years , I thought her and I were in love and were
Going to spend the rest of our lives together , I was blindsided by her and heart broken that she decided to be selfish and ruin our marriage. , out of the blue she started treating me like shit , no longer want to be intimate and affectionate with me , Started criticizing me and belittle me , and blaming me for everything negative that came our way , She never pointed fingers at herself , it was always my fault , So I had no other choice but to walk away even though I didn’t want to cuz I loved her and our family , but just goes to show how someone can easily change on you because they are selfish and only care about themselves. Your love and trust for that person , sadly just disappears , because there is no more respect for each other. No more compromise and sadly no more trust. So basically thanks for destroying my heart and giving up on us. So to find someone that chooses you the same way you choose them , takes some time , especially these days

[Apple1996]

Because women do better being alone compared to men. Just look at couples that have been married into old age. When the man dies first the woman enjoys the rests of her life without him (sometimes many many years) but if the woman dies first then it's usually just a few weeks/months later that the man dies.

I think men just struggle to live without attention and love from women. If you noticed online lots of men have been complaining about how they can't find women yet you never see women doing that

[DishLady]

Um… where tf did you get that from?


Some folks (guy or gal) hate being “confined” by the terms of a relationship, others are obsessed with being in a relationship. Every individual has their reasons.

[ManOnFire]

This is mythology. Women are more unhappy about being single than men are. Men are not getting on social media crying about how they still aren't married or how unfair it is that they're still single, or desperately telling the world they're available.

Women talk about enjoying singleness in the hopes that it will in some way get at men and make them upset or unhappy. If women would learn to get this unclean need out of their hearts to spite or manipulate men then they would truly be happy people, and especially with themselves. Women are not fooling anyone.

[OlderAndWiser]

Girls who are happy being single apparently love proclaiming their joy from every mountaintop. Girls who are miserable being single tend to keep their misery to themselves so that they will not draw attention to their plight. So if you are basing your opinion on what you hear girls saying, you have made an error in your judgment.

[Sammirae]

You'll get a lot of people that feels either way about it regardless of gender. Your misconception may just come from a common difference in how society tends to treat this. A girl that's single tends to either praised for her independence or told that it isn't her fault, it's the fault of suitors not being good enough. When a guy is single, there's often the belief that if he had a relationship before that he probably ruined it, or that there's something wrong with him that keeps women away - not something you really hear a woman being told (think, whenever there's a group of women who have to rate each other's attractiveness, they all always say "we're all the most beautiful"). We have that inherent bias around it. And it isn't strictly in women's favor because then it makes a woman who isn't happy being single need to act like that isn't the case or they're not strong or empowered. A man who tries to be happy being single can easily get misunderstood as hating women or being one of those guys that yells about how women are all dumb whores so you shouldn't date them, or like he just had a rare bad experience with a woman and he wouldn't be happy if he knew there were better ones out there.

[Sammirae]

Oh, I'm sorry, I meant to post that as a reply to the question.

[OlderAndWiser]

@Sammirae Quite alright! I read it and appreciated the insights.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

I think it’s the other way around bc how else are they going to get a bunch of other people to join their ranks of misery? Most happily single people keep it to themselves or at least not shouting about it.

[Chazmatazz269]

That’s an overgeneralization. Single people who don’t want to be single will often be bummed about it, male and female alike. It’s likely that more women choose to be single despite having an abundance of options in the dating market. Men’s options are fewer and accessing those options can be expensive and challenging. So there are likely more men trying harder to couple up and failing than there are women, and certainly that is discouraging at times.

[ManInChains]

I’m not bummed out being single. I prefer it. Almost 10 years strong and haven’t had to put up with the boot of a woman telling me how to live my life. Life is already a struggle trying to make rent while attempting to get things like gas, groceries, etc. At least there is one thing I can control, and that is my love life.

[serious_miss419]

Yes! 10+ for me also.

[Serkee]

When the average man is single it's almost never by choice. If we go out we tend to be completely invisible, and if we approach a woman we not only risk rejection, but we risk being treated like a creep just for daring to make eye contact. And if we use a dating app we're lucky to get a match in a week, we're even luckier to get a response if we message them, and we hit the jackpot if they agree to a date. And even then it's a 50/50 shot that we'll get ghosted. When the average woman is single, there seems to be a ton of guys who want them. When they go out, guys want to be around them. They get showered with attention. And when women use a dating app, they just need to swipe for a few minutes and they'll already have a few matches. When guys are single it's isolating and lonely, and we get our self esteems crushed. When girls are single it's freeing and fun, and they get their self esteems boosted. So of course men are gonna be more bummed than women when we're single.

[Serkee]

I'm sure I wasn't all that accurate when I was talking about women's experience being single, I'm not a woman after all, but that's what it looks like from a guy's perspective.

[serious_miss419]

Sounds like a Pitty party.

[riskysweet]

Who said only women enjoy being single? I enjoy being single. Not being in the confines of a relationship gives me the flexibility to be as I deem fit. For some a relationship or marriage is their cup of tea for some others having their freedom is what matters most.

[HighValue]

I disagree. From what I have seen, the majority of single women, especially once they reach their mid 30s + are often miserable and frequently talk about it with friends and co-workers, especially the ones that know they missed out on having kids and raising a family.

[Yannae]

Becuse it's not true. The happy single men are just quiet about it, they have nothing to prove. There is no point in announcing something like that. They just live and enjoy it. It's mostly people who are bummed out or with something to prove that feel the need to let everyone know. The truly happy guys and girls, just keep it down.

[lorenzomichael]

Don’t say every guy because I believe I taught my son well he’s 24 a fireman has his own condominium, brand new truck, two muscle cars, no wife and no kids. And he’s never without a girl even though my wife says I give him bad advice and he looks up to me. I’m proud of them and my wife is wrong.

[serious_miss419]

Single and screwing people isn’t single. That’s a playboy u baboon

[lorenzomichael]

Call me what you like, honey. It doesn’t matter I’m above name, calling, but if you’re not married, you’re single.

[serious_miss419]

Well I hope u got him a vasectomy as birth control if he isn’t going to settle.

[Nikki1989]

Nobody enjoys being single, and those they say they do are doing so as a defence mechanism.

Funny how 90% of single men on this website do nothing but whine and moan all the time. They are obviously miserable.

[riskysweet]

@nikki1989You are generalising single men.. I am very sure there are single men who may moan when with the right women, don't whine at all.

[Friendlybro79]

Where are you getting this information from? Do you have some official poll that suggests this? I get confused by these matter of fact questions that are seemingly based in observation and not statistics. That said if you do have stats to show this is a fact somehow then you should share it so we can at least know we're answering a serious question that is backed in a fact.

[Rangers]

Cause if a man can't get a girl, it's because nobody wants him. If a girl doesn't have a man, it's because she hasn't picked anyone yet. It's simple

[NOTHINGEVERHAPPENS]

Cause I don’t think women like men as much as men like women.

[handsomebradybreaker]

I'm not bummed for being a lifetime bachelor, but most men are conditioned to be a husband and father, so they feel like a failure if they're single after about thirty.

[UnicornLobotomy]

I bet $1 million those are only young men in their early 20s just as it’s only young women you’re describing. After 30 years old the script starts to flip.

[Anonymous]

Women actually care more about not being in a relationship.

Men care more about not being able to get the woman he wants.

Women cry about it, men get on the internet and become incels about it.

[Lionman95]

I would say guys that are bummed out about being single are mostly so because they don't get to have sex as much as they want to.

[DextroShade]

The single women still have access to sex and male attention and favors, at least while they are young; single, childless women over 40 are the most miserable people. Most men don't have access to sex outside a relationship.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Both genders can enjoy being single and be sad about it.

[exitseven]

Women do not like to be single. They want to get married.

[serious_miss419]

I don’t want to be married. I said no two times to different guys. I can’t breath when I’m in a relationship

[Guacamole409]

Do you think you speak for all women?

[serious_miss419]

You tell me, is that what I think? Or is this my experience so I’m voicing it to educate myself.

[Guacamole409]

It's 50/50.

[exitseven]

@serious_miss419 do you think you will ever change your mind?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Because here guys are very vocal about hating the single life. There are definitely single men out there who enjoy the single life.

[WhitneySnow]

Not sure. I’m not single rn but it doesn’t bother me when I am.

[Anonymous]

Yeah right! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

What alternative universe are you talking about? You got it exactly backwards.

Women are desperate for marriage because of their biological clock. By the time they hit 35 they are done.

[LiamJHayden]

If true, probably because most single women could snag a guy within hours if they wanted to do so. Most single guys are not able to do that.

[Anonymous]

No clue as to what you're talking about. I've been single my entire life and I'm quite happy. It's always better to be single for the right reasons then in a relationship for the wrong ones.

[Lonewolf1974]

I'm not bummed out I'm happy being single that way neither me or the lady gets hurt and I also don't have anyone nagging me

[TallAnon]

You are meeting some weird guys, most single guys I know are happy because they get to sleep around

[Xoirwinkan]

That's the huge generalisation of women. I know a LOT of women are very unhappy being single.

[OhLongJohnsoning]

Girls, want to be settled down earlier usually, because they're told to be

[Xiisu]

Because men are trying to progress in life find a wife and have kids. Women aren’t as progressive minded like this

[Bklynbadboy12]

I enjoy it too! I don't think anyone wants to be alone

[avery58]

Other way around

[buzzword]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

I don't know my friends who date are miserable so it makes me feel like im not missing out🤣🤣

[Simslover92]

It's the other way around.

[Anonymous]

Cause any women could get any male cause Women jumped one relationship to other real quick.

[Crazzyyworld]

men can't get sex and women can

[paledreams]

Women are smarter and think with their brains 🧠

[Alex-Snow]

Because the guys want the frequent sex

[Starrrboy]

Who said women enjoy it..

[Goahead76]

I think you have that backwards.

[Deepinthought345]

Guys enjoy being single..

[smurfwrangler]

I think you have that reversed

[MasterKS]

They single and do more mingle! LOL

[Amur8711]

I highly doubt that