Why are men upset when women choose to be single?

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Not because these women are weak and ant get a man it could be because of personal reasons, career / job , recent break up , college - etc.. I'm tired of immature males. I rather save the little mental / emotional well-being for my kids , business, studies..

CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

We have unfortunately raised a generation of women who were raised with mindsets different from the older generations, that they can indeed sustain themselves and there is more to life than just men, whereas men were still raised with old notions of being "wanted" or "needed" for things that women can very easily provide for themselves or get them through other means than depending on a husband. Men who are struggling to adapt to these changes are blaming women for their misery.

Now they want to guilt trip women by saying things like "oh but you cannot be fully independent" no shit Sherlock, but if I make money I can afford my basic needs without anyone's help, I get my emotional needs met through meaningful friendships and building/joining communities... I'm a short and physically weak woman living by myself, I can stand on a piece of furniture to reach the top shelf, I can open a stubborn jar easily by just putting on my rubber gloves, and worst case scenario call a friend or even hire/pay someone if I can't do something on my own.

I love manly men and I can't imagine masculinity without adaptability. Any man who cannot adapt to the current dating scene in a world that's rapidly changing... are showing their own fitness in terms of evolution. Men have to adapt to the fact that women value different things in relationships now. They use so much evolutionary psychology mumbo-jumbo to guilt-trip women into submission when they are falling short themselves.

I'm fortunate to have a wonder boyfriend who I don't need but certainly want in my life and love every bit of time I spend with him. He's a great addition to my life, any time I stayed with a man because I thought I needed him was miserable and life is too short for that.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Because it irks them that a woman doesn't need a man to feel fulfilled or happy- even if it's not said guy that's telling you that. The same ones spouting that nonsense are usually miserable in their marriages, relationships, or have been rejected so much, they're taking their misery out on YOU because you're happy single [Basically misery loves company].

I find it ironic some people are bothered by women being single, yet no one says a word if a guy is single for his entire life. If anything, they get called a "bachelor," or it's considered a compliment that he isn't settling down.

Women get called a "spinster," "cat lady," or it's instantly assumed something is wrong with her if she's single for too long or chooses to be single-

See the issue there? But that's another rant.

DextroShade · Accepted Answer

Two reasons:

1. By choosing to die alone she has also made that choice for the man she would have otherwise been with in a sane, non-feminst society. Most men want marriage and families and they are selfishly screwing them over. The 1 in 3 men who are sexless see women choosing a lonely death over them and many take it personally.

2. Society isn't set up for a large number of singles spending their lives alone as the family unit has always been the building block of every successful civilization. Before civilization a small number of top alpha males would mate with most of the women leaving the majority with nothing and no incentive to contribute to society. Marriage was invented to give these men who would otherwise die alone as virgins an incentive to contribute. As this incentive disappears, the men who do the difficult, low-paying but necessary jobs that keep the comfortable modern society you enjoy running will drop out and civilization will crumble as guys won't spend their lives mining coal, digging ditches, or picking up trash if they are going to die as virgins. A new Dark Age will be upon us and you will not like it; you probably won't even survive it and if you did you won't like what comes after.

So go right ahead and keep selfishly screwing over men and destroying society, I hope your lonly deaths are worth it.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because most men in general our territorial over a girl he is really interested in , if she doesn’t want to commit to him or be in a relationship with him he will assume she is just whoring around , sadly those guy’s need to realize they don’t own a girl some people get into relationships thinking they own you and that’s where most relationships fall apart you don’t own anyone , Relationships our a choice , you can choose to be in a relationship with someone and you can choose to walk away as well , If a girl wants to remain single that is her choice , I can only give to a girl the same way I want to receive period. If she chooses to walk away , I will not chase her cuz we can not force someone to love us period. When you learn to value your self worth and learn to treat people the same way you want to be treated that’s where respect comes into play , without respect you have nothing , I only show interest in girls that know what it means to be in a relationship and knows how to respect in a relationship, if she chooses to cheat or walk away from me then that’s her choice , don’t think I am going to be sitting here waiting for her to change her mind , my ass is going for the girl standing behind her

ManOnFire · Answer

Men are upset when women choose to be single? Can't say I've ever heard about a guy being moved by that. Or at least, it doesn't matter to me. If a woman actively wants to be single, I just don't try and move on to the next.

However, I do also know that many women will lie to a guy they're not interested in and say they want to be single or that "they're not looking for anybody right now," when they actually are or they're in a fuckbuddy situationship with some guy.

Other than that a woman who actively wants to be single doesn't hurt me or take anything away from me or my life. She may be robbing herself of a future with someone special, but she's not robbing me.

MrOracle · Answer

Literally no one cares AS LONG AS she doesn't complain about how she can't find her a man (because she's exclusively targeting the top 0.01% of men, who don't want her), and as long as she isn't expecting men to do favors or save her. Women who don't do those things aren't on anyone's radar. They can go be alone in peace.

It's the tens of thousands of women on TikTok, IG, Tinder, etc. who shout that they are "strong and independent" and "don't need no man", but also complain endlessly about men and dating and bemoan that men don't treat them like the princess they are, are the ones who guys (and even some girls) go after, because they are clearly hypocritical.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Not all men will get upset if you want to stay single. It’s only when you led them on or gave them false hopes without intentions of dating them later on once you’re done chasing whatever you’re chasing…

Avicenna · Answer

Most people don't care when someone chooses to be single, and honestly it shows you aren't trying to force things and want to live your life.

blueonblack22 · Answer

I believe in free will and you can do what you want. But I also believe you are accountable for your decisions. If you ultimately make yourself miserable in the process it’s on you.

There are lots and lots of young women who don’t want to get married, don’t want to have kids and just don’t want to commit anymore. But they will get older. Sure you can try fertility treatment or adopt. But it’s not as easy as doing it the traditional route.

The thing is Mother Nature intended to bound men and women together for both companionship and reproduction purposes. That’s not to say everybody should get married and have kids. But when you voluntarily avoid that there you are denying yourself something that Mother Nature intended.

It is usually women who have the power to date, sleep with, marry and have kids with a man. They have the power dynamic in the relationship. The only time they don’t have it is when they try to date and marry a man out of their league. But they usually have an advantage of their male counterpart when all else is equal.

So they decide to single hence making more men single. Men are hit with the pain first because they have fewer options when all else equal. But is a woman making herself happy by being intentionally lifelong unmarried and childless? Is that what Mother Nature intended for her?

ryancg · Answer

The only time I've ever been upset by that is when I was crazy about this girl and she knew it and accepted it, but she said she wanted to be single. Which I respected. The issue was that she still expected me to do all these s/o things like taking her to and from work, driving her all over the place, buying her things, expecting me to drop everything and be there anytime she called. And if I ever showed any sort of reticence, she'd get all sad and sometimes even cry, knowing that I couldn't stand seeing her cry and would do anything. Like I remember one time, I missed her call because I was at the hospital for a pre-op appointment for a surgery that I needed to have done. Then I got a voicemail from her crying, begging me to come get her. I up and walked out of the appointment, postponing it another week and drove like a bat out of hell to her house. Turns out she just got into an argument with her mom and wanted to leave. I had an infection that was literally killing me, which she knew about and it just wasn't even on her radar. And still at every turn she insisted she just wanted to be single, my dumbass thought if I showed her that I was fully committed to her, that maybe she might reciprocate my feelings.

Sorry for the novel, I'm in feels and your question hit me. Though I fear I defeated the purpose of your question with my tirade, and for that I apologize.

john6678 · Answer

I've known two relationships that have been strong since age 14 until now. So far they had About 12 years together, as lovers, best friends and have become eachothers family. It's fucking rare and unfortunately most of us with never know that type of love and will experience heart break. Disney love is of course bullshit, but being emotionally invested and loving someone can definitely last a lifetime for some people. We are all weak in our own ways and it's sounds like your afraid to show your vulnerability. Say that you feel sick (very sick) Someone that loves you will will nurse you back to health and genuinely want you to feel better. Your job doesn't care about you, most of your friends don't care about you and strangers could give to shits about you. A well chosen partner will laugh with you, cry with you and want you to be happy and certainly care about you. Children need two loving parents and family support to grow into mentally stable adults, prisoners are significantly more likely to have been raised by a single mother. You may not like it, but statistically men and women are lonelier then ever. Both sexes are designed to complement eachother and I still personally believe that love is an extremely important human experience.

anon1903 · Answer

I'm in the mood for playing devil's advocate on this one.

I can say amatonormativity but nah. Let's see their from the male perspective:

- because they want off springs, you know, sowing seeds and all.

- because regular sex is a good perk.

- because males get lonelier. The male best friend I have is probably more responsive than the girl besties they got (I said probably).

- society treats marriage as milestone lmao.

- their guy friends have reached that age where they priortize family over friends.

- they don't fit in because they're the oldest in their office and still not "snagged anyone".

- they're hopeless romantics.

jongreat46 · Answer

Because Boys have been programmed from early childhood to believe that men are the sole providers of women and that women need them to protect them and care for them so when they see a single mother who is not financially unstable it throws them off because according to them a single mother must be suffering financially and somehow spiritually so the boys feel that these women need them to make the women whole. They are led to believe that kids need both a man and women role models and not just a single parent which is false. So they become angry because these Boys are not getting what their church and culture told them what they are entitled too and now they are bitterly pissed off that they have to compromise and treat women as equals.

GOLDFISH_smile · Answer

Seems like a weird entitlement thing. I've only experienced this somewhat personally, but seems to happen with any woman who isn't with a straight man. Like when people say diversity quotas steal jobs from white men n shit like that. Those aren't ur jobs, we aren't ur women. Sorry being single may not be a "choice" for u but that doesn't mean being in a relationship shouldn't be a "choice " for everyone. Nobody should be forced or pressured into a relationship they don't want just so that u don't have to feel lonely.

Nobody forces u to be single. U are automatically single. Stop trying to force women into relationships.

Vikkrram · Answer

No if the girl straight away on the first day say that i am not interested in relationship then i would have respect for her.

But if she giving the hints that she is interested in me and would behave in this. And when asked she would start behaving distant then she would loose her respect.

Alli39 · Answer

If it's a specific guy, he probably has feelings for you and is frustrated that he's not going to get a chance.

If we're talking about the trend you can find on the internet of single guys ranting about women choosing to be single, then it's because they feel like women aren't valuing them and they won't have a chance at a relationship themselves. They don't just have to feel threatened by other guys, but by the other things in a woman's life that she's valuing over them. It's pretty much just a bunch of insecurities and prejudices piled into a ball of anger and misogyny. Ignore it, real dudes aren't like that.

Anonymous · Answer

Why are men upset when women choose to be single? Because they’re, insecure, weak, pathetic, broke, losers.  Probably have a pinky-finger 🤏 for a D-K 🍆. Probably can’t sexually satisfy a woman. Probably are  ugly ,  obese  or  unattractive  so they can’t sexually compete with other men.  Probably they’re broke and have no money saved up, no career. No car of their own. Probably has no testosterone so he has no manhood.

Phoenix98 · Answer

I personally don't care if you want to be alone then be alone you have that right. Just make sure you know what the long reaching consequences are for the actions you take and don't complain about it later when you have a change of heart.

And that statement isn't aimed at women in particular but everyone in general, always weight the costs to the benefits and what the possible long reaching consequences of your actions will be down the line and make sure your fine with it before you make that choice as we all should do when it comes to the future.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Not once in my life have I known or even heard about a man who was upset if a woman wanted to be single.

In the past it was common for some people to think that everyone had to get married, or at least be in a relationship. I suppose there are still a lot of people like that. But I never heard of anyone getting upset about it. They just don't understand it. These are usually people who can't imagine being alone and believe everyone else is the same. This goes for both men and women. Actually it seems like it's a lot more common for women to be the ones always trying to set people up - they just can't stand seeing someone whose not in a relationship.

But seriously, I've never known anyone to get upset.

provokeesmokee · Answer

Men don't like the idea that they can't convince you to fuck them.

Same reason drives why they get upset lesbians don't want to fuck them. They don't understand "I don't want you and nothing you do will make me", and they struggle with letting go.

molonski2 · Answer

I'm not upset about it , and I'd say that I admire women who choose to be single , shows they have a lot of stuff going on and are making some good choices , I think the opposite from what I see , too many jumping in to that in which they should not be jumping.

Good luck to you.

Jersey2 · Answer

My kids haven’t had children yet and it may not happen even though each is successful and highly educated. I think they are selfish and lazy in this regard. In strictly business terms, they were a waste of my time and resources if they do not produce children and families. They are here to further our DNA line at the most basic primal level. I could have done what they are doing and they wouldn’t be here.

My life has been great and I am happy and have been successful in all aspects, career, family, financials, adventures, marriage and more. But the best thing has been family which means children. It’s my life’s work which is why I will pester them to have families of their own. If they don’t have them, they are cheating themselves out of something great and leaving that one part of my life empty which would be grandchildren.

PeteA380 · Answer

Who gets upset at that?

My feeling is that unless she can be single, she can't be a mother either.

All those males and females who are always in a group or a relationship just to not be alone seem inept to me: if you have to be in a group of people to function, how will you ever be a competent parent?

Even regarding (heterosexual) relationship forming, anything other than a single guy to a single girl seems very odd (any level of his or her 'friends' (more often frenemies)) is usually simply an obstacle, a hindrance, that each person is meant to overcome on her own, not by continuously relying on others who then guide and steer her relationship and marriage 'rights'.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I think this question is too simple to really get at whatever it is you are trying to ask. I’ve never heard of a man being even remotely upset by a woman being single. In fact, quite to the contrary, going someplace with a lot of single women is often a goal! Perhaps you can explain what it is you mean further?

RavVid · Answer

I'd guess it is more to do with rejection than anything.

I presume they are asking you out rather than asking you if you want to be their girl friend right from the get go. So it isn't at the point of a relationship or anywhere close. I don't see how it can be at the point of men being upset with your desire to be single.

I'm interested in what the circumstances are that makes you think they are upset you are electing not to form relationships.

mstbooblover · Answer

Why would I be upset with women choosing to be single? Their choice, and maybe an opportunity for me to get a free relationship like "friends with benefits"... More seriously I don't understand why women should not be allowed the free choice of being and remaining single.

ChiTown33 · Answer

Why would a man get upset at that? You're telling him. "This game piece isn't in play". Actually I'd think a guy would appreciate the heads up to the fact that he doesn't have to waste any effort on that woman.

Maybe because she's not really choosing to be single? Maybe she gives off signals she wants guys to approach her and then when they do she tells them she's not interested? I think that would annoy anyone, male or female.

Pacquet · Answer

Personally I don’t care and I don’t think most men care if a woman chooses to be single but I think men are frustrated with how much women don’t realize they control the dating market. I’m all for people taking time to be single and learn about themselves. A lot of women equate most if not all men to the men they choose to date and then when it doesn’t work out or that man treats her poorly then it’s pretty typical for her to think all men are out to do the same.

MikeyObrien · Answer

Usually it's the opposite from my experience. Men will want something not serious and short term and women will complain about him not committing or asking her to marry them. I personally had to break up a friend with benefits situation because she started telling people we were in a relationship, even though I told her we were just friends.

Count_de_Monte_Volo · Answer

As you said in the updated section of your topic, I think it is societal conditioning. Media tells us “there’s someone for everyone.” Blah blah. I know because I thought like this before. It’s to sell products. I never thought being single was ok for anyone. But now I see it is more than ok for many people, including the ones who want a partner extremely badly. I was like that, and nothing in the real world made sense. Now it does.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

I think it's because they got rejected. Rejection hurts, some get angry. The more they want you, the bigger the blow.

Or they're one of the "modern women" hating men who dread the line "I am single, strong and independent."

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Because broads are so damn hard to come by, as it is and then YOU go and take yourself COMPLETELY out of the running by choosing to get married, stay single or become a lezzie or a nun and that takes more of you out of circulation! How's a guy supposed to get laid if there's no pussy around?

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I don't know any men who'd be upset about it... i myself believe that in today's time its better to be single for both men and women... it makes life so much easier

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

I dont!

I choose to be single myself. so I dont see why I would get mad if women choose to be single, I think the dudes that do get mad over this do so because it screws their chances of wanting to be in a relationship with those specific women that choose to be single

Hanrej · Answer

Some men are. You'd be surprised but women are upset as well if you tell them you don't want a relationship.

peedy · Answer

I dont know any man that is upset at a woman for wanting to be single, I can understand if he had asked her out and she said no thst he'd be a little irritated like what's her problem but it wouldn't last hed complain to a buddy over some beers s that would be the end of it and he move on to the next one
Me personally doesn't bother me at all its her life she can live it how she wants to

Dysney1023 · Answer

I wouldn’t say they are all like that. They are if they wanted a shot with you though. Or are trolls.

Billlewis · Answer

Because they know it's going to be that much more difficult to have an intimate relationship with her.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because they hate the fact that we don't really need a man in our lives to be happy.

TaureanBull81 · Answer

I'm not fazed in the slightest if a woman prefers to be single because she no doubt has her reasons why. Right now I'm currently single and are 8n no rush to enter a relationship either 🤷‍♂️

Likes2drive · Answer

I guess because they really liked them and wanted to be with them but now they can’t because of her position on her reasoning with why she doesn’t want to be with anyone right now

dragoblack · Answer

Never heard of guys being upset about that. I see more butthurt boys who can't take rejection and switch from complementing & simping to being verbally abusive & yelling threats, all because she didn't say "yes"

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I admire of anyone who chooses to be single. It takes a lot. I'm trying to do the same myself, but it's not easy  (I mean not finding a girlfriend is easy, but not wanting one is hard)

electromagnetic · Answer

It’s literally the same from both ends.  I’ve seen females absolutely loose they’re minds when they find out the men they want don’t want relationships. No party is neutral.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Both women and men get upset when they find out the other is choosing to be single. It’s a automatic reaction because we have a biological need to reproduce.

pervertedjester · Answer

Because it's still a rejection and rejections hurt. That's the great thing about "data," it can be read a variety of different ways. As long as no one is getting hurt, Ignore the reports and just enjoy life anyway you can.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

I've taken a lot of single women home for the night to help them blow off steam. Their choice doesn't upset me in the least.

Rangers · Answer

Because men need a woman to have even the slightest bit of hope of ever being happy in life, when a woman chooses not to, it hurts cause that's another man who won't ever spend a moment where he's happy

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I would imagine that these types are already having a hard enough of a time finding a partner and I think this is just out of frustration. I wouldn't take guys like that personally.

Jesterteddy66 · Answer

Why are they upset in first place it’s people choice wither or not they want to be single no one owns anyone even when married doesn’t mean own so I don’t know why and plus everything go on I don’t know if being single not a bad thing.

LovingJo · Answer

Because they don't like that they've pushed us to that limit!! 💯

CountryWanderer · Answer

Because they have been brought up by society that they must have a relationship, and often that they must be in control of a woman.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Because those guys are hoping to have a relationship with you.

TooHot2Care · Answer

No one is upset that you are single, and that's not what you mean. What you REALLY mean is : "Why aren't men validating me because I cannot get into a relationship."

Miristheiss · Answer

No one is.  What are you talking about?

Fireguy17 · Answer

It doesn't bother me at all. Quite possibly it was because she was in a shitty relationship and has just had enough.  Can't blame someone for that.

Wraith_Cemetery · Answer

I've seen far more women being offended by MGTOW than I have men being offended by single women.

summiter · Answer

Why should they be upset. It is a women's choice. Some women who choose to be single still love to have sex after all!!!

bolverk · Answer

Most men could not care one way or the other if a woman decides to be single, as that is the default status for most men who have never had the chance to have a relationship, and that is not for the want of trying.

RyanK9b · Answer

Yes people are not ment to be in solitude. Relationship brings happiness therefor the general public thinks you are sad. Probably you will regret it too later

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

I don't know. Maybe they don't have exciting lives that they are worried about a stranger who decides to be single.. 🙄

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Because saying you “choose to” is coping mechanism that women use instead of trying to be a less shitty person  It’s like quitting because you know you can’t win

RingOfFire · Answer

Men are upset when a woman wants to remain single? Never heard of that. Not any of the men I know.

boobliker · Answer

I love single women have a better time if you know you have not taken them home

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