I think it's because it's sort of a societal mindset that women somehow aren't "whole" or "complete" unless they have a man. Look at how many stories and movies there are that revolve around the concept of a woman simply finding a man. Sex and the city made several goddamn seasons about just that and not much else. And in return it creates these women who think that they can't function unless they're in a relationship. Which is quite pathetic, but mostly just a very sad mindset to have.
Personally I can't really relate to that mindset, though. I was single until I was 21. I did just fine without a man. And although at times it would have been nice to have someone by my side, at the end of the day I never felt like I wasn't "whole" without a man and I didn't need one to function or be happy.
I think in general women care more about being single when they want someone. I think men care more about not having sex rather than the relationship its self.
And I think that's what makes men more real about stuff. If we're not getting any, we're gonna be real and say how that bothers us. But also, when we really are interested in a woman and really care about her, then we also care about the relationship. Women are just more interested in having their sense of self-worth be soothed when they hate being alone, yeah.
@ManOnFire
I think you are are onto something, I think most of women's egos are determined on the basis of how others treat them.
For example, most women make themselves look really pretty so that when they receive a compliment, it's a reward for all their work but it's needs to be from a external source. Even if they don't get a compliment, if they get some form of acknowledgement that they are pretty, like if they notice other women being jealous of them, it still makes them feel good.
On the other hand, men from my experience create their ego based off internal sources. For example, a man will train at his sport, and when he reaches a level where he thinks he can defeat another, he will compete with another man. If he defeats him, he doesn't require the other man to give him any feed back. He will just feel good for beating him cuz he knows he put all that work in the training.
There is a major difference in creating a ego from the internal and the external.
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@GracefulCharm This is exactly the case. A woman's sense of ego often is based on because-she's-a-woman. The male ego is based on whatever successes, achievements, or experiences they think make them experts or relevant. That can at least be formidable, but thinking you should matter or be great just because you're a woman is more shallow and an easy way to think you're important.
@ManOnFire
Those women have limited themselves in understanding how to succeed. The choice has always been theirs. Women who have had a life of easy comfort will never understand much of how to succeed other than being given it from another.
As a man, stop rewarding women on what they look like, reward them for their personality. If you can't see eye to eye on this level, then what good would it be to marry them? Money and good looks can't fix a toxic relationship. Figure if she can be real with you. If she can't then drop her, who cares if she is good looking. Save yourself and your future unborn children a life time of headaches.
I am single and thinking about getting in a rship just for sex.. But the cost is so high and the reward is sigh lol I like being single
@Lonerguy1234 Go for it. Dude, there are a lot more women out there who are game for just sex than most really tell you anyway.
I want a relationship
Because women put their entire needs around having a partner, I have noticed this
@bbb10 agree
So very true.
I did hate being single but now i see that it doesn't matter.
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Im one of those men. You have to ask yourself, other than pussy, what benefit does a woman bring to a relationship?
Come on gents! Be honest! What benefit does a woman bring a strong alpha male who doesn't need the needy approval and validation of others, who lives his own life for himself on his own terms?
And, isn't it true that an independent man who doesn't give a fuck attracts women? So now you're talking about a ladies man that can get free pussy with no strings attached.
No drama. No being bitched at during the football game. No alimony. No child support. No worries that a loss of income or a richer prospect will send your lady packing.
Other than drama, STDs, and adding 50 pounds after hitting the hill at 35.. what does a lady offer?
Id rather learn to cook on my own, masturbate to great porn and skip the STDs. Its better than spending $100 per month on 4 dates of giving a lady free meals, drinks, movie tickets, and bowling outings.
Ladies take note, these high value men are tired of the games!
Studies show that this is false. Men hate being single more than women do. www.telegraph.co.uk/.../
That's rubbish. Speaking for myself and every guy I know, none of them appear to desire relationships more than women, especially at our age. Every girl I've ever dated long term has ended up pushing for a relationship whilst I've been happy with things being casual and my friends would agree.
It might be even worse for men to be single, e. g., what's the matter with him- he doesn't have a girlfriend?
I'm not sure it's realistic to generalize that men hate be single less than women do. I remember disliking it very much when I was single.
Maybe guys are more likely to call it quits sooner, or simply just give up altogether on relationships, dating, etc., without trying and then they realize that they're still fine anyway, if not better. Maybe more guys realize they don't really need a relationship and that whether they had one or not it still really would not have matter to them, it just isn't a priority or perhaps even completely and utterly redundant to them. Maybe there are more guys that had been single for a very long period of time than girls had that they had just gotten used to living and being single all by themselves, and once they are used to that change it becomes their comfort zone and habits and thus it is very hard to change, as that would make them very uncomfortable, they just don't have the will or determination to change it, nor the motivation to try. Maybe more guys a broke and just can't afford relationships dating, etc., responsibilities and commitments that are relevant to them. They might only have enough money to support themselves if not barely enough to get by on a daily basis and don't want to take any chances or risks. They rather have control over their own finances especially if they are broke or on a tight budget.
I agree with this question. I have a lot of friends on SnapChat, both men and women. Out of all the snaps, I always see women complaining about being single, or they allude to it and act like that don't need anyone. For example:
-I will see women blast men calling them thirsty, basically every man that talks to them.
-Few hours later, they will post a meme stating how they wish they had a man in their life, but there are no good men out there.
-Then there are some women who constantly complain about relationships/being single but continuously say they don't want a man.
Women care about being relationships more than they let on. Men, on the other hand, care about sex.
Think about it... a lot of men on this site even ask about getting laid more than being in a relationship and a lot of women ask about being in a relationship more than getting laid.
Even when I started my current girlfriend... the 6 months were extremely tough for me. Every time I saw a gorgeous girl, my mind would instantly say, "go talk to her, go fuck her, get her number"... so I had to keep fighting with myself. I missed the hunt and the thrill of trying to find "new pussy" daily and see how far I can take things. However, I don't think that way anymore and I got over it.
TLTR: Yes, I think women are more concerned because they care more about what other people think. To that I say, you do you and don't give a shit what society expects from you because of your gender.
I think it's because there is a social stigma to be single as a woman. I don't agree with it, but in a patriarchal society like ours there seems to be a hidden expectation for women to get married and have babies. If we don't do this we're almost shamed for it. Before you say I'm wrong, let me use myself as an example. I've been single my whole life, choosing my career/travel goals over potential boyfriends. I recently got lunch with a high school friend and they asked me if I was seeing anyone. When I said no, they responded with, "Oh... that's ok you still have time. You just have to put yourself out there more." In that moment the fact that I'm a twenty four year old who's traveled independently to 10 countries and has a career in her field was insignificant to her. I was incomplete because I didn't have a guy.
All in all, I do think girls freak out about being single more because we care more about what people think. To that I say live your life like you want and don't let others opinions influence how you feel about yourself. You're to awesome for that nonsense any how.
It comes down to what you do with your free time. There are women out there that actually have hobbies and love doing things that don't involve trying to get attention from the opposite sex. A date for instance... whom is expected to entertain?
It's nice when a female breaks that 'basic' mold and has more substance to who she is than what she's dressed, blemished, and made up to attract the easiest attention there is for a woman to obtain.
As for us dudes... well, more often than not, we've adapted to not having other's entertain us on a constant basis and many of us were told to play and leave other's alone since childhood. Cultural maybe, because exceptions to that rule exist on both sides of the gender hemisphere.
Probably because a woman's worth is based on her being married and having a family and happy husband in society. That's not the case for men. A 45 year old unmarried, childless woman is something to mourn while change the woman to man and then it's a pat on the back.
I'm just saying... men complain about the dating standards held against them but don't really understand that they're worth doesn't go down when it does for women. I could discover the cure for cancer the common cold, and AIDS but my lack of children and lack of a man in my life would undermine all of that.
It's a dumb societal standard but it's still there.
It's life. Women get theirs while young. A few men get theirs while young, but most have to earn it and wait.
@RationalMale No, it's society. Life has nothing to do with my value being rooted in my ability to keep a man and bare his child.
Men also have a societal standard that they should be rich and providing for woman and their family. I don't understand why you think it's much different, at a certain age, people start judging you on why you aren't married regardless if you are a man or woman. And some men do want children, men do enjoy being a mentor to children once they have matured to the point of being a leader. It's just in society that most men are just boys who have zero understanding of what it means to be a leader. Most people don't even understand the difference between fear and respect as a leader. How would you expect them to raise children, I'm not only talking to fathers, many mothers also don't understand what real respect is, that's why so many families are dysfunctional because the parents are children raising children.
EllieAyye
That's not true. I'm almost 30 and many people have asked me why I haven't got married yet. I'm certain if I was 45. People would ask me why I don't have children. I think it's worst for men, because if you aren't wealthy and successful by my age, women and the society thinks bad of you as a man. Back when I was rich and in my 20's, many women would give me smiles and attention. Other men would treat me with respect. Now that I am almost 30 and lost most of my wealth. I get treated like a nobody. But for a women, she could live with her mom till she got married and still be considered fine if she was good looking. All women have to do is look pretty, we men have to earn our income all on our own.
EllieAyye
Perhaps it's a passive aggressive remark from other women to make themselves feel better. No different than men wearing expensive clothing and items when with other men in order to certify their status as superior.
I hope at your age by now you realize that you determine who you become and what kind of life you want for yourself. Expectations and pressure from others shouldn't matter much to you. You are a adult and strong enough to make your own choices. If you wanna be single or not, that's your choice. Just do whatever makes you happy in life and take every opportunity you can. There's no point to be bitter and mad at how unfair life can be, it's better to spend the time working on your life to make it better for yourself. I wish you the best and to enjoy life more.
Then find a society that values career women more than mothers haha.
I have actually noticed the opposite, second hand.
I lived in a busy built-up street in an apartment with paper-thin walls through college. I could listen to full conversations of people walking below with the window closed.
Not once, not twice, but on six different occasions I listened to a different guy break down to a friend he trusted enough to be open with (and whoever else lived in a nearby hole of an apartment with thin walls) about how desperately he wanted a girlfriend.
Before living here, I did think the same as you, but we women are more encouraged to be open about our feelings. We hear women complain about being single, but because we don't personally hear men say this we assume they don't want it. This has convinced me that men want the same, but go about it a little differently. Remember, there are genuine lone wolfs of both genders.
I hear guys say they want girlfriends, but whether they just feel like they want that when they're single compared to actually wanting it is another story. I do believe men are far less interested in relationships than women as relationships involve the emotional side as well and women are usually more emotional. A lot of men are happy to get the sex without the commitment.
I think it is because from a very young age we are taught to depend on another person to make our life complete. We should have someone to fix things for us, we should have someone to take care of our finances, we should have a person who handles car maintenance, we should depend on another persons income to make life livable. We need another person to not feel alone. Most movies for young women have a plot line devoted to her finding her one true love. So most girls view that as the number one goal in life because all they are exposed to it being the supposed thing that has to happen.
On the other hand men are portrayed to be independent and happy with their bachelor lifestyles and only need a partner once they start to think about procreation, Or settling down.
Not on this site, I see guys crying about how girls aren't giving them the time of day a lot on here. I guess it's cause they're not ready nor care to be in a relationship, they see it as being tied down or just busy with work, school, and other things. Also some guys seem to be fine being single cause they don't want the relationship part, they just want the sex part. Plus guys produce sperm for a life time, women aren't designed to the same way so we're looking for a man who wants we're looking for: family, commitment, and love.
That's why guys aren't in hurry to have children and get married most of the time. They will make us a wait light years to even consider getting married, but when it comes to sex they will jump for it without hesitation as you ask or offer it to them.
This is why men don't understand why women are particular about their partners. They just think we're being to picky and have overly high standards, no it's not that at all.. we just don't want our time, years, and youth being wasted away with someone who doesn't have any real intentions of getting serious and growing with us.
I think in a very subconscious sense women want relationships to compliment their ego and sense of self-worth. Men generally don't have a need for relationships in that sense. When a guy really is interested in a woman, he cares a lot and the relationship means something. Women are just interested in not being single more often than really caring about the guy I think, because their fragile sense of self-worth tells them that a relationship will complete them.
Again, it's why they're the ones who get 'bored' fast and call for divorce more often.
@Asad1ONE1 Be honest with yourself: your desire for a relationship as a man is NOT dependent on your self-worth, or is it? My ego does not need a woman for me to feel good about me, and I think most other men are the same. Women desire relationships when they're feeling incomplete or insecure much more often than men.
@Asad1ONE1 It SHOULD, but often doesn't.
@Asad1ONE1 And it's okay.
For myself, my life is a lot more peaceful stress and drama free. I have things I enjoy doing, that take up my free time.
I would like to be part of a couple, but in almost 7 years I have not met one female that I have thought was worth fighting threw the BS and baggage the women in my age group all seem to be dragging around.
The crap I have heard coming out of some women's mouths when out socializing, it is not worth the drama and stress for some vagina.
Most men value being independent and not having to discuss their actions with their girlfriends or include them in their plans, which is what people on a long term relstionship do. Women have that need too, but most of us prefer to have a partner, someone to share life and to rely on. That's not a rule but a generalisation though
Sort of. I mean, I think men learn to be okay not being in a relationship since they have trouble getting into relationships.
I think they crave female affection (not necessarily sex) and if they can get that easily then they're all good and if they can't then they learn to be okay with that, or at least try not to rub it all over everyone they meet. They keep it to themselves and focus on what little things that they do have access to that makes them happy. They don't announce their need for affection to the world because it's apparently not cool when men do that, but if you're a girl then it's fine, you're just signalling to people to pay attention to you.
Because in general we will have more free time a options. I dont think women know the time, and effort that is needed to make a women feel safe , needed, loved, and comfortable. Being single means only worrying about your own needs. Every day life is an adventure, the sky is the limit, and freedom is in the palm of your hand.
Do women really hate being single? Hmmm.. well I don't lol. I guess for the women you speak of it's because they have a biological clock inside them. At a certain age their bodies cease to produce eggs for reproduction versus men who regardless of age always produce sperm. So that ticking clock makes them feel they need to "hurry up" and "settle down" before they lose the ability to start a family.
I’ve seen more guys on here complain about being single than girls.
lol !!!
I don't think so. I hear a lot of people in questions such as "are you single or in a relationship", commenting that they're single and having to justify that they're okay with it with another one liner such as "and I'm happy about that". Both genders can be pretty sad about being single, as I would be if I was. It depends on the person, but for me a good relationship is quite important for my happiness.
Because men do not crave attention as much as women. They are more ambitious and concentrate on their life goals and careers. Men also have their friends. And as a company of males, these friends are much more interesting and fun to hang out with than women.
Less stress, can do what they want without hearing constant complaining, doesn't have to work as much because he doesn't have to spend his money on someone else, can play games all weekend when he feels like it, eat whatever he wants, doesn't have to go somewhere as often, watch whatever kinds of movies he wants.
You are correct, if porn didn't exist, men being single wouldn't care as much, but in the end, every man will get lonely and want a women who treats him right just like he wants to treat her right. This is built in all of us, at some age, the man will be tired of being alone if he is a normal human being, but in this day age, being heterosexual seems to be one option and isn't really considered normal anymore.
yes it's true cos women are the ones who "care" about the family, while men "provide".
to say it with an easy example, the house is shiny and comfy cos the woman makes it be like that, while the house not collapses cos the man makes it stable.
I'm a girl I like being single, because when I am dating guys they make me feel as if i'm different or odd for not being a needy bitch. But the problem is I look like a typical girly girl who has needy bitch issues, so i attract guys who want this type of 'my babe is a beautiful butterfly look but DONT touch😡😤' guys. Life is unfair, but what can you do.
Being single it just comes natural for me as a guy. I don't put a lot of thought into wanting to be in a relationship. Like if I was like "I can't be without being in a relationship". It's not a huge deal breaker for me at all as I enjoy the single life.
Because women are needy. No offense ladies, but women require attention, time, energy, romance, and every other damn thing on the planet.
❤️ the ladies, but sometimes it's nice to be single without all the extra "stuff"
It is a sociological phenomenon. Women are "supposed" to get married therefore they required to have a partner to fulfill their roles' whole value meanwhile males have no spoken manner either way on marriage and have no particular gender identity tied to partnership at all.
In turn this means that the "woman" literally needs a partner to be, in social eyes, fully matured. In places where there are other sociological attitudes this isn't really true anymore.
Women with no money obsess over relationships, men are the ones afraid of getting no play or love.
Actually, it's generally women who are wealthy and single that are the most insecure about it, that's why they are the majority of women on dating sites. But they make it this way for themselves because they feel like the average guy is too beneath them to go out with, when the average guy is usually smarter than a wealthy woman - or man - and has more color and character.
In your mind.
Yes all whores.
Guys dont mind it cause they dont dwell on things unless its really bad. In which they generally by that part have fallen apart. But otherwise most guys other than the sensitive ones. can handle being single for most of their life.
I've met so many more men who were desperate for a woman than women who were desperate for a man...
So no... I haven't noticed this...
I don't hate It being single is great and I don't think most girls see it as smthg bad but I think my boyfriend makes my life more exciting and brings more fire and focus ( when I'm horny I have the perfect guy who understands my needs to turn to )
Because sex got much easier approachable than before so that's why a lot of men don't see a need to settle down anymore
As if it was a good reason before?
It's generally harder for a man to find someone he would be attracted to hence girls having high egos thinking they're above most people and think there is always someone better out there so it comes down to just too many games and valuable time lost so its really not worth looking for any girl for this matter. Let the reference reflect im speaking in general terms.
You are pretty smart.. Smarter than I was xD. Good insight, but there are certain locations where girls aren't like this but its hard to find. It's more like unexpected when it happens so watch them out man :). It's good to get rich so you can be able to afford to explore different places to increase your chances of finding some.
Because sausage fests are always an option.
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Being single for so long leaves us with no choice but to be happy on our own and getting used to it.
Take it from me, a 23 years old kissless virgin, who never had a girlfriend and never really interested women.
There is a big percentage of men that don’t want commitment. Those men don’t stress much over being single because that’s them being happy. The same goes for women as well that like to play the field/sleep around.
However, men who want commitment probably stress the same amount on average as women do (who also want commitment). Just my opinion, but it makes sense.
THEY WANT TO be single to be able to play the field. Doesn’t mean they dont have chicks they bang with no commitment.
WOmen want commitment.
Yea right ! women wants commitments lol
@Kranjec Why do you think so?
@SuperMan89s what has your experience been?
Most women dont want commitments and became so picky ! and because of that men started to not give a fuck !!! if he gets pussy, then its ok.. if he dont, then so fuckin what.
@Jedah225 Words of wisdom my friend !!!
the main question is what can they offer?
and even if you are 100% great with her, the moment she felt you are not emotionally available. she will cheats on you and blame you for that. lol
I rather noticed the opposite and it is like a general thing here that women don't desire any relationships until they are in college even then they are patient when it comes to finding a partner.
cause men are the ones supposed to do the approaches, getting all the rejections and thereby being compelled to just fuck around, cause it´s just not worth it.
Not really. They only say it to close ones. In all my friends, the boys are complaining about not having a girlfriend, and the girls like being single
Males are good for marrige up till 40s, women till 30s, so we have a longer time to find a mate.
I've honestly noticed women being all happy to be single and that they don't need a man to be happy. While I also noticed men complaining about how they can't get a girlfriend.
Men don't feel the immediate insecurities as women do. And as much crack that's thrown at us on a daily basis , some really won't care.
Because women give it up easy now. You can be single and still get laid a lot. Very little work required.
A lot of animals mate this way so I would say it's a chemical thing to do with testosterone, however it's not absolute and it's not the case for every man.
Relationships are easier in the beginning for women. Guys are the ones who are expected to do everything. Risk/reward is less favorable.
Because being single is much less stressful and so much more fun.
I don't hate being single. I hate the fact that I keep attracting assholes in my life. To the point where I am like how in the fuck do other dudes get a girl?
I haven't noticed this. The single guys I know hate it just as much.
Too many stupid generalizations on this site. How offensive is this to women? Anyone can hate or love being single or coupled depending on the person. Males and females need one another for many reasons.
Men are more emotionally independent and less needy. Aldo we live to take breaks from drama
I dated a man at some point its pain in the butt literally but better than some women who can be pain in the neck
I think, I has nothing to do with gender.
Well, may be because girls think more, dream more
Interesting question. I see girls are with a guy just so they aren't single. They don't really love him
Men who hate being single are ones that can't or aren't interested in just running around banging random hookups.
In general guy's are interested in being in a relationship, but in the case of many guy's women turn them off. Girl's are very self-centered and guy's don't enjoy that... especially American girls.
It's actually evolutional. Women need to get their man so they can build a family so they don't exstinct. Men on the other hand have the evolutional need to sleep with more women for the same reason.
I've noticed guys are #teamsingle and who can blame them they're young and good looking... men in their early to mid 20s I don't know about other ages.
I can relate... I'm single and have no interest of getting into relationships any sooner. No idea why though 😂
Who says? I don't want to be single. I've never had a girlfriend and unfortunately my chance is low with girls because I'm an average looking, introverted and quiet guy. I should be used to be alone.
Nah, men fall in love more easily. Women fall out of love more easily. That's a fact.
I'm a single guy and I've wanted a girlfriend for a while lol. Just none that take me for who I am.
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