I think it's because it's sort of a societal mindset that women somehow aren't "whole" or "complete" unless they have a man. Look at how many stories and movies there are that revolve around the concept of a woman simply finding a man. Sex and the city made several goddamn seasons about just that and not much else. And in return it creates these women who think that they can't function unless they're in a relationship. Which is quite pathetic, but mostly just a very sad mindset to have.
Personally I can't really relate to that mindset, though. I was single until I was 21. I did just fine without a man. And although at times it would have been nice to have someone by my side, at the end of the day I never felt like I wasn't "whole" without a man and I didn't need one to function or be happy.
s I think in general women care more about being single when they want someone. I think men care more about not having sex rather than the relationship its self.
Because women put their entire needs around having a partner, I have noticed this
I did hate being single but now i see that it doesn't matter.
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Im one of those men. You have to ask yourself, other than pussy, what benefit does a woman bring to a relationship?
Come on gents! Be honest! What benefit does a woman bring a strong alpha male who doesn't need the needy approval and validation of others, who lives his own life for himself on his own terms?
And, isn't it true that an independent man who doesn't give a fuck attracts women? So now you're talking about a ladies man that can get free pussy with no strings attached.
No drama. No being bitched at during the football game. No alimony. No child support. No worries that a loss of income or a richer prospect will send your lady packing.
Other than drama, STDs, and adding 50 pounds after hitting the hill at 35.. what does a lady offer?
Id rather learn to cook on my own, masturbate to great porn and skip the STDs. Its better than spending $100 per month on 4 dates of giving a lady free meals, drinks, movie tickets, and bowling outings.
Ladies take note, these high value men are tired of the games!
Studies show that this is false. Men hate being single more than women do. www.telegraph.co.uk/.../
It might be even worse for men to be single, e. g., what's the matter with him- he doesn't have a girlfriend?
I'm not sure it's realistic to generalize that men hate be single less than women do. I remember disliking it very much when I was single.
Maybe guys are more likely to call it quits sooner, or simply just give up altogether on relationships, dating, etc., without trying and then they realize that they're still fine anyway, if not better. Maybe more guys realize they don't really need a relationship and that whether they had one or not it still really would not have matter to them, it just isn't a priority or perhaps even completely and utterly redundant to them. Maybe there are more guys that had been single for a very long period of time than girls had that they had just gotten used to living and being single all by themselves, and once they are used to that change it becomes their comfort zone and habits and thus it is very hard to change, as that would make them very uncomfortable, they just don't have the will or determination to change it, nor the motivation to try. Maybe more guys a broke and just can't afford relationships dating, etc., responsibilities and commitments that are relevant to them. They might only have enough money to support themselves if not barely enough to get by on a daily basis and don't want to take any chances or risks. They rather have control over their own finances especially if they are broke or on a tight budget.
I agree with this question. I have a lot of friends on SnapChat, both men and women. Out of all the snaps, I always see women complaining about being single, or they allude to it and act like that don't need anyone. For example:
-I will see women blast men calling them thirsty, basically every man that talks to them.
-Few hours later, they will post a meme stating how they wish they had a man in their life, but there are no good men out there.
-Then there are some women who constantly complain about relationships/being single but continuously say they don't want a man.
Women care about being relationships more than they let on. Men, on the other hand, care about sex.
Think about it... a lot of men on this site even ask about getting laid more than being in a relationship and a lot of women ask about being in a relationship more than getting laid.
Even when I started my current girlfriend... the 6 months were extremely tough for me. Every time I saw a gorgeous girl, my mind would instantly say, "go talk to her, go fuck her, get her number"... so I had to keep fighting with myself. I missed the hunt and the thrill of trying to find "new pussy" daily and see how far I can take things. However, I don't think that way anymore and I got over it.
TLTR: Yes, I think women are more concerned because they care more about what other people think. To that I say, you do you and don't give a shit what society expects from you because of your gender.
I think it's because there is a social stigma to be single as a woman. I don't agree with it, but in a patriarchal society like ours there seems to be a hidden expectation for women to get married and have babies. If we don't do this we're almost shamed for it. Before you say I'm wrong, let me use myself as an example. I've been single my whole life, choosing my career/travel goals over potential boyfriends. I recently got lunch with a high school friend and they asked me if I was seeing anyone. When I said no, they responded with, "Oh... that's ok you still have time. You just have to put yourself out there more." In that moment the fact that I'm a twenty four year old who's traveled independently to 10 countries and has a career in her field was insignificant to her. I was incomplete because I didn't have a guy.
All in all, I do think girls freak out about being single more because we care more about what people think. To that I say live your life like you want and don't let others opinions influence how you feel about yourself. You're to awesome for that nonsense any how.
It comes down to what you do with your free time. There are women out there that actually have hobbies and love doing things that don't involve trying to get attention from the opposite sex. A date for instance... whom is expected to entertain?
It's nice when a female breaks that 'basic' mold and has more substance to who she is than what she's dressed, blemished, and made up to attract the easiest attention there is for a woman to obtain.
As for us dudes... well, more often than not, we've adapted to not having other's entertain us on a constant basis and many of us were told to play and leave other's alone since childhood. Cultural maybe, because exceptions to that rule exist on both sides of the gender hemisphere.
Probably because a woman's worth is based on her being married and having a family and happy husband in society. That's not the case for men. A 45 year old unmarried, childless woman is something to mourn while change the woman to man and then it's a pat on the back.
I'm just saying... men complain about the dating standards held against them but don't really understand that they're worth doesn't go down when it does for women. I could discover the cure for cancer the common cold, and AIDS but my lack of children and lack of a man in my life would undermine all of that.
It's a dumb societal standard but it's still there.
I have actually noticed the opposite, second hand.
I lived in a busy built-up street in an apartment with paper-thin walls through college. I could listen to full conversations of people walking below with the window closed.
Not once, not twice, but on six different occasions I listened to a different guy break down to a friend he trusted enough to be open with (and whoever else lived in a nearby hole of an apartment with thin walls) about how desperately he wanted a girlfriend.
Before living here, I did think the same as you, but we women are more encouraged to be open about our feelings. We hear women complain about being single, but because we don't personally hear men say this we assume they don't want it. This has convinced me that men want the same, but go about it a little differently. Remember, there are genuine lone wolfs of both genders.
I think it is because from a very young age we are taught to depend on another person to make our life complete. We should have someone to fix things for us, we should have someone to take care of our finances, we should have a person who handles car maintenance, we should depend on another persons income to make life livable. We need another person to not feel alone. Most movies for young women have a plot line devoted to her finding her one true love. So most girls view that as the number one goal in life because all they are exposed to it being the supposed thing that has to happen.
On the other hand men are portrayed to be independent and happy with their bachelor lifestyles and only need a partner once they start to think about procreation, Or settling down.
Not on this site, I see guys crying about how girls aren't giving them the time of day a lot on here. I guess it's cause they're not ready nor care to be in a relationship, they see it as being tied down or just busy with work, school, and other things. Also some guys seem to be fine being single cause they don't want the relationship part, they just want the sex part. Plus guys produce sperm for a life time, women aren't designed to the same way so we're looking for a man who wants we're looking for: family, commitment, and love.
I think in a very subconscious sense women want relationships to compliment their ego and sense of self-worth. Men generally don't have a need for relationships in that sense. When a guy really is interested in a woman, he cares a lot and the relationship means something. Women are just interested in not being single more often than really caring about the guy I think, because their fragile sense of self-worth tells them that a relationship will complete them.
Again, it's why they're the ones who get 'bored' fast and call for divorce more often.
For myself, my life is a lot more peaceful stress and drama free. I have things I enjoy doing, that take up my free time.
I would like to be part of a couple, but in almost 7 years I have not met one female that I have thought was worth fighting threw the BS and baggage the women in my age group all seem to be dragging around.
The crap I have heard coming out of some women's mouths when out socializing, it is not worth the drama and stress for some vagina.
Most men value being independent and not having to discuss their actions with their girlfriends or include them in their plans, which is what people on a long term relstionship do. Women have that need too, but most of us prefer to have a partner, someone to share life and to rely on. That's not a rule but a generalisation though
Sort of. I mean, I think men learn to be okay not being in a relationship since they have trouble getting into relationships.
I think they crave female affection (not necessarily sex) and if they can get that easily then they're all good and if they can't then they learn to be okay with that, or at least try not to rub it all over everyone they meet. They keep it to themselves and focus on what little things that they do have access to that makes them happy. They don't announce their need for affection to the world because it's apparently not cool when men do that, but if you're a girl then it's fine, you're just signalling to people to pay attention to you.
Because in general we will have more free time a options. I dont think women know the time, and effort that is needed to make a women feel safe , needed, loved, and comfortable. Being single means only worrying about your own needs. Every day life is an adventure, the sky is the limit, and freedom is in the palm of your hand.
Do women really hate being single? Hmmm.. well I don't lol. I guess for the women you speak of it's because they have a biological clock inside them. At a certain age their bodies cease to produce eggs for reproduction versus men who regardless of age always produce sperm. So that ticking clock makes them feel they need to "hurry up" and "settle down" before they lose the ability to start a family.
I’ve seen more guys on here complain about being single than girls.
I don't think so. I hear a lot of people in questions such as "are you single or in a relationship", commenting that they're single and having to justify that they're okay with it with another one liner such as "and I'm happy about that". Both genders can be pretty sad about being single, as I would be if I was. It depends on the person, but for me a good relationship is quite important for my happiness.
Because men do not crave attention as much as women. They are more ambitious and concentrate on their life goals and careers. Men also have their friends. And as a company of males, these friends are much more interesting and fun to hang out with than women.
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