Why are single men generally more bitter than single women?

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RedHood7 · Accepted Answer

We could say it's just the sex, but I think it goes way deeper. Women are more selective by nature. The whole point of the entire alpha and beta analogy is that there are men who are majorly considered desirable, men who are mainly average (not shit but not great) and men who are almost universally seen as undesirable. We men are prideful creatures. Ego requires success, success requires confidence, confidence requires ego. It all hangs on social validation. No validation of your atractiveness and social value implies on you having few to no worth to others (in a 'love life' aspect), which makes you bitter towards the people who rejected you. Being bitter might stem from a lot of things, but it's mainly a feeling of injustice and impotence, because dating and hooking up depends on consent and interest from two, not just one. And even though you may be making an inhuman effort to become better in the eyes of others, you might be failing hard at it. Not to mention that there's a good chance you see yourself as someone of value. Of course, that doesn't mean you're the most desirable man in the world, but you'll feel as though you should be more respected and desired by others, and that simply doesn't happen. With a woman, well, they just accept limitations and move on, they look for a minimally comfortable life and they settle for less than they think they deserve, and frequently end up living sad and unsatisfying lives. Most men will never settle for less unless they absolutely need to in an 'otherwise I'll die alone' situation. Lets also not forget that women are mainly monogamous. They dont need the approval of the entire planet, they just feel like they should get some. Not men. Men require more approval than anyone else in my opinion. We want to be the best guy of the crew, we want to be the womanizer-like guy who is famous and desired among pretty much all women, we want to be the 'king'. Anything less frequently is disapointing

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't think single men are more bitter. I think there's a combination of things happening
1. Society encourages men to approach their emotions very stoically except for anger. Meaning women are more likely to share and vent in healthier ways finding the root source of the pain faster and moving on quicker
2. Although women communicate more men communicate louder. men are raised to be opinionated as well as assertive. I think this pushes more men into speaking on their ideas from a position of educating others rather than being educated themselves. Leading to less emotional growth and more confirmation bias
3. Your perception. Imagine being a guy what do you think you would notice more people attacking you and people like you directly or people like you attacking others. When you feel targeted you instinctively get defensive. It's natural normal and usually beneficial but it can also lead you to believe something that isn't true. So are you sure men are usually more bitter or do you notice that their bitter more often because you're a woman and a (probably unintended) target of their bitterness.

There's probably more factors that could go into this answer but so far this is all I have. hope it helps.

estoydorado1 · Accepted Answer

I can't even count the number of guys I've turned down. I'm single and as upbeat as ever. Some people are single BECAUSE of their constant bitterness, not the other way around. Some people just don't want a relationship. I've had guys on here who disagreed with me call me "sour grapes", "bitter", etc "because I didn't have a man","Nobody wants a relationship with me" (even though they had no way of knowing whether I was single or not) lmao. Where do people get this idea that single people can't be happy and why do people assume that there aren't miserable people in relationships?

Nyx_85 · Accepted Answer

How often do you see a bunch of guys get together over a tub of ice cream and a movie of their favorite hot actresses and share their feelings and bitch about their exes or that they can't find a good guy? Girls get bitter too. We just do it in a different way. The internet provides a more open place for men to discuss this stuff without as much judgment. If they try to talk about it IRL often their friends will criticize them. Call them a 'pussy' or 'gay' or something. Or they get shut down completely before they can even form a full sentence.

peachblossomluck · Accepted Answer

It's biology. Women outnumber men and we also outlive them. Hence we are naturally able to handle being single better. It's survival of the fittest. My husband died ten years ago. I married him because I loved him, not because I NEEDED a husband. So I never remarried. That's just the thing. We can withstand being alone more easily.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

because single women = empowered! strong! independent! she's just finding herself! working on herself at the moment!

whereas single men = useless. loser. unlikeable. socially awkward. somethings wrong with him if he can't get a girl.

cth96190 · Answer

The statement is not correct.
There is nothing more bitter an angry than a 30 or 40 something single woman, who realises that she has been lied to by the 'girls can do anything', 'put your career first' and 'you can have babies later' Feminists.
Or, the Feminist land whales who hate men because men do not want to lie next to her repulsive hairy body.
Or, the Feminists who were born ugly, so hate good-looking women and want to make other women as unattractive as they are.
The bitter men are either in the category of TFL (True Forced Lonliness) or men who have been arse raped by a divorce court.
The TFL men are bitter because they spent their youth alone, while they watched woman after woman throw herself crotch first at the 'exciting' bad boys, who used women and broke their hearts. A man cannot watch that go on for years, with woman after woman, without forming an unflattering opinion of the female cognitive process.
The divorced man realises that women are economic predators, who see men as resource providers to be exploited and discarded if/when their usefulness is at an end, or a more resource-rich man comes along.
The divorced man also realises that women lie as standard operating procedure, especially in court. False allegations of spousal rape, domestic violence and of the man molesting his own children have become almost standard, during a divorce.
By about age 30 to 35, a significant and increasing number of men realise that, although they may be lonely and sexually frustrated without a woman, in the bigger picture they will be happier and a lot more prosperous if they stay away from women.

LogicBomber · Answer

HA you obviously haven't heard of feminist.

But.
Single women need campaigns to tell them
- That they are "beautiful" they way they are.
- That they "don't need a man"
- That they are "strong and independent"
Because without them, they fall into the pits of depression and eating disorders because they desperate for male attention.

Single women can openly piss and moan about "all men are..." and it doesn't get taken as offensive bitter talk. While a male making a single negative comment is taken as a massive misogynistic hate speak against all women because he must be "bitter" or "have a chip on shit shoulder".
Therefore it's easier to pretend that guys are the "bitter" ones.

Society also doesn't chastise a single female as a negative thing, they assume she has chosen to be single. While a single man "must have something wrong with him". It's seen as a plague on his character that "no woman wants him".

But again single women can generally pick and choose if they want random sex and with who. Single men generally can not. Therefore sexual frustration is higher with single men than women. Giving women less to piss and moan about except the "there are no good men" gripe, "all men are pigs/scum/perverts/slime/etc" gripe, etc.

It's easy to sit on a high horse and look down your nose at men when you have a little bubble of entitlement and privilege to protect you from truth.

rjroy3 · Answer

I don't know that I agree that of bitter single people that men actually make up the majority. I've met far more bitter single females than bitter single males.

But just assuming guys actually do make up the majority. My guess would be because generally speaking guys are the ones that have to go out and do something about it. In general, girls just have to sit back and wait for the guy to inevitably fall in her lap. But again, I doubt the initial assumption is even true. Women make up the majority of the population in America. Most complaints about an ex usually comes from women. Being jaded about an old partner and carrying that with you seems to be more common in women than it does men. I'd say there are more bitter women. That's why "bitter old woman" is a stereotype or a bitter/jealous woman is a common stereotype. While the same stereotype isn't a thing for men. There is a stereotype of a jealous/controlling man. But not a bitter man.

serious · Answer

Is that a fact? are they?

Well, if they are then you don't know what can be exact reasons for it. Some possible reasons can be:

1. May be they were cheated in the last relationship they had.

2. May be they had a very suffocating and an obsessive partner and so they ended up only suffering in the last relationship. Hence pain and suffering has made them bitter.

3. Broken heart. Now a person with a broken heart can either become bitter and cold or they can become overly sensitive. This can be one of the reasons for the bitterness.

spoonman2014 · Answer

Men are prideful creatures, so not being at to get a girl hurts that pride. Also I think girls need to see that even if they are the ugliest, homeliest, burlap sack wearing, smells bad, drug using, dumbest, unmotivated, living with mom and dad girl, poorest girl in the world that someone will still bang her. Don't believe me? Go to a run down trailer park, a dumpy part of the city, a port of truck stop and see what those hookers look like. Someone is using their services.

So yes when single men get bitter it is because they know when they aren't looking for girls the chances of a good one falling into their laps is very low, or a girl in general.

Davedbest · Answer

Single women constantly get attention and most the time have like a lot of offers.. single men usually are either used abused friend zoned unless there extremely attractive and constantly get treated like there an annoyance or threat because there's a lot of assholes out there that make other men look bad.

BraveHeart97 · Answer

I don't know any single men who are bitter lol. If anything, I known people who just came out or are in relationships that are completely bitter about their partners (mostly women). I always hear women complain about how her man is not giving enough time for her and how he doesn't pay attention and shit like that. Ah well, you get what you deserve I guess. I'll be honest though, I use to be bitter when I was single but now I don't see why people fuss over relationships. Women are only good for one thing and that's sex. Plus women only seem to drain your wallet, time, and emotional and mental health. I'm only 19 and I rather take care of my family who truly loves me unconditionally instead of some bitter femnazi hoe who hates my guts and will just jump on some other alpha dude's dick.

pavlove · Answer

uh, single girls that look like above aren't bitter because OBVIOUSLY it's a choice i mean damn... but i mean bitter single women are a pretty big majority in america...

but i would disagree for the vast majority of girls especially the ones on this site. People on this site tend to blame and attack the other gender for the wrongs theyve received in the real world. guys on here are just more upfront about their bitterness as where girls on here try to act like they're not being bitter so that they can't be called out for it.

jaket88 · Answer

different strokes for different folks and I can say sometimes it's cause either we put ourselves in that situation by doing something stupid so we punish ourselves until we don't hurt anymore or we've been hurt by people we loved. I was bitter when my wife first left me because I didn't understand why and in a way I still don't. but after giving your all to someone who supposed to love you forever then just decides one day hey I don't wanna be married anymore because I think I got married too young. and takes everything from you and refuses to let you see your daughter and gets pregnant by your best friend while married to you. you'd be bitter too but in all time heals or changes it's all up to that person. And you women are too sometimes.

vonasaurus · Answer

women are encouraged to build support systems, whereas men are told that showing emotion is not 'manly' and to keep it to themselves (a trend that needs to die, like, last century).

Anonymous · Answer

I've never had a girlfriend or even a short fling. I've been actively trying for 10 years now and I'm now 26.

In that time I've been lied to, cheated on, mislead, lead on, scammed, robbed, attacked physically and a whole host of other issues. I try not to let all this get me down, but at the end of the day after trying so hard for so long just to find SOMETHING and only getting hurt in the process, why should I not be bitter?

FakeName123 · Answer

Depends on the age. Younger single men? Yes. Meet a 35+ years old single women and you will find a completely different picture.

Why? Because at a womans youth, she can easily get a relationship at any given time. But that eventually fades and she turns bitter.

Bleh-___- · Answer

Because the single men are being rejected by the single women

deraz24 · Answer

I don't know a lot of times they blame women for it too lol, but being single now I just chalk it up to not meeting the right person yet, and only get irritated at people that act stupid or play games but after a little while its not worth my thoughts anymore

Dim1213 · Answer

I usually find it the other way around. A single woman will often try to hurt a guy that she does not like romantically after a failed date. Or she will use her guy friends as she would a date without the benefits of having a relationship and then when they realize it she will betray them and dump them.
Guys might be more outspoken about it but were more outspoken in general.

Anonymous · Answer

Single men have usually been taken advantage of financially and are still paying off debt incurred by their ex.
They also don't like how women that have 3 kids by 3 different guys expect a single guy that didn't make those mistakes to take care of her and accept all the stupid mistakes she made. That is usually the case when a woman says "Where have all the good guys gone?" She is usually one of the ones that made many mistakes like that, has slept around, and expects a man to come along that didn't do those things and take care of her.
Not all, but many of them that I have encountered have that attitude.

Unit1 · Answer

In dating we have the short end of the stick: We have to approach, ask her out, pay for the entire date whether we liked it or not and there is no warranty for a second date. If this sums up like say 10 days per month, that will accumulate a significant sum of money burned on women. At least that's how I think.

Also lack of success with women and being heartbroken by some treacherous harpies.

Kirah · Answer

Because dating is more of a struggle for men. In the dating life, men consistently get the short end of the stick. I don't envy them.

WalterRadio · Answer

I don't find that to be the case. I find that divorced women are the bitter ones. That seems to be because their ex-husbands traded them in for a newer, hotter model.

TheUsername27 · Answer

Because women know they can get a boyfriend when ever they want... so they put less importance on it... it won't be frustrating when they can just go get one if they are really desperate... if a guy is really desperate it will only make it harder to get one. Women also receive attention and compliments frequently... guys don't get the same validation... some men won't give two craps (men who are naturally very confident or cocky) .. but a lot will.

TheDevilInside · Answer

Cause single women can still get attention easily of they want it

Bandit74 · Answer

Well women have it a lot easier when it comes to sex and dating so it makes sense that the gender that faces less dificulties would be less likely to become bitter.

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

yeah this is something that I have noticed also with single men. They usually are very judgmental and are the ones who bash women for any or every thing.

Anonymous · Answer

Single women can get any man they want whether they are fat, short, nerdy etc.

A single man has to go to the gym everyday for hours, be tall, be rich, drive a sports car, live in a mansion in order for women to be attracted to him.

BellePepper · Answer

Women are never taught to expect they deserve a relationship. Men are.

LesterJester · Answer

Do you have any specific source to back up such a claim? I can't say that I ever noticed men or women being more bitter than the other while single.

Nonyabiness · Answer

Im 44 single male and i can't find a woman. Online is a waste of time and money for men just to get rejected. I dont drink anymore so i don't want a drinker. I can't and dont want kids. I wish i had love in my life, but i have to learn to survive in this lonely loveless life. Im closer to death than birth so i dont have long in this loveless life. It's sad but true.

ThaddeusThundercawk · Answer

Guys are generally more aggressive. They harbor more rage and it comes out as being a jerk. However, I've come across some bitter single women... maybe they are bitchy to begin with, I don't know.

Selliebeanz · Answer

I would think not LOL they seem to enjoy themselves most of the time. They're only bitter if their past relationship left a bad taste in their mouth.

Goldie757 · Answer

Nah, they are equally bitter. Women are just better at hiding it.

ChocEyes1 · Answer

I actually don't know if that's true (not saying it's not, I'm saying I don't know). But I guess a lot of people can't handle rejection. And get bitter with the fact that no one is obligated to find them attractive.

Anonymous · Answer

No, I think it's the opposite. A lot of single women have "sworn off men" or hate men, not usually the case with single guys. We're just single because we can't find anyone. We don't hate women.

normalice · Answer

lack of sex gives men both mental and physical pain.

RationalMale · Answer

Really? Do you see single men falsely claiming they've been raped? Writing articles about how approaching people to try to get numbers is sexual harassment?

Anonymous · Answer

Because men are the ones asking most and geting rejected most so our self esteem takes a bigger battering as a result. Being asked is a lot better for your self esteem than asking.

Anonymous · Answer

Single women haven't been rejected, they just haven't been asked. Single men, have been rejected. That's basically it.

mT2359 · Answer

oh u touched a nerve their girl... bitter single men vs. bitter single women... who is more bitter... I don't know... being a single man myself... not getting layed may be... I can't think of nothing else.

BertMacklinFBI · Answer

generally, the majority of the female population has more options than the male population.

Intraluminal · Answer

People are bitter in proportion to the degree to which their desires are thwarted. More desire equals more bitterness.

Anonymous · Answer

probably because for guys, guys literally have to work for a partner, to get a partner, while for girls it just happens, the only work girls have to do it seems is work on their physical appearence thats it.

Anonymous · Answer

Because a lot of guys feel they aren't good enough or worthy of a girl because of past experiences. So when a guy is single and reminiscing on past experiences, it makes him bitter because he knows he can't get or find a girl.

Whaaaaa · Answer

The comments just speak for themselves. So much salt. It's because we have lower standards looks wise.

Anonymous · Answer

The fact that they believe in the friendzone speaks for itself.

KnightCross · Answer

i dont think so. there are lots of bitter single women, specially when they are near 30

Anonymous · Answer

Single women are single by choice, they always have guys hitting on them or trying to make a move. Single guys are often single because they are always rejected since they have to do the approaching.

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah feminists are less bitter than single man lmfao.

Anonymous · Answer

girls are supposed to be with someone.. by definition, they feel useless, if they don't have someone in their life

John_Doesnt · Answer

Because we're sick of hearing about "rape culture".

Anonymous · Answer

Because men need like 700 things to be even looked at while a woman just needs to be good looking, have a good personality and takes care of herself. It's a bunch of bs.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it seems for the most part, girls control or get to decide in the beginning if things are going to progress further

Anonymous · Answer

Because some men (like me) want a girlfriend to love and but can't find. As for girls, they think that someone will find them one day, no need to worry.

Teenagekid16 · Answer

Single women are more jealous of their friends that have boyfriends

JulianMoon · Answer

I'm not currently involved in a relationship, and I don't consider myself bitter.

Pizzalover101 · Answer

Cuz they miss the intimacy with a girl they care for or cuz they have had to many broken heart's

Anonymous · Answer

Because we aren't getting any and women can go with out for years

skeptic002 · Answer

im fine I just think most people are stupid

Amiromarx · Answer

It's the other way round silly girl

AleDeEurope · Answer

Not true.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are the weaker sex

Anonymous · Answer

Have you ever met a bitter cat lady before?

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