Why are single men lonelier than single women?

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Dargil · Accepted Answer

Men are biologically adducted to sexual relations. That makes us more needy (like being hungry) but not lonelier. If I had access to a skilled sex worker just once a month, I wouldn't need other women around much. Like having a Rib Eye at Ruth's Chris. How many do you need?

Berethor · Accepted Answer

Because women tend to get more support than men.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Woman are more social and do not bottle things up so they are less likely to seek affection from a man than a man will from a woman.

Summeroflove · Answer

This is really just depends on the individual man or woman honestly.

PeteBy · Answer

Couple of sensible comments on either side here but Jeez this is a depressing read. To the girl who thinks you've got men falling your feet, you don't, you're not in control. You're just easy and they see you as that. For the men pushing the blame on women for your loneliness. Don't and don't go looking on Youtube for answers either. The answer is somewhere in-between and hell, this site is here for that exact reason. So we can figure each other out and communicate.

For what it's worth we're at a crossroads in terms of equality, not a bad thing; but still all sorts of mixed messages and cultural differences in the mix. We're being dragged kicking and screaming into a century where century old values are being rewritten but a species that somehow (remarkably, really reading through some of the stuff on here) has survived.

The reason why men are lonely for me is a dependency on a female figure in their life. Mom always did it. This is skewed a bit by past morals/values and that masculine side of it. Dad's input. The man of the house. It's a confusing time to a degree for men but also a good time to level that playing field and not be reliant on that 'Mother' figure or that 'man of the house' label.

It's ok to be a house husband now. It's ok for her to be the bread winner. It's ok to have equal partnerships. Everyone is different. The reason and I stand by this is why men are lonely is because we've spent our entire childhood being looked after and are trying to replicate that in adulthood. It's not necessarily all their fault. We've spent hundreds of years being told the man is the bread winner, the worker, the provider and the little woman looks after us. Brave new dawn guys and girls. Men need to realise they're so much more than cooks and cleaners and sex objects. Women need to respect that this is a transition and men are wired to protect, care and love you to. Therein we need communication, not back bites at the opposite sex.

I think that's the point of this board. To understand each other better.

JamesDiaz11 · Answer

A woman asked the same question, and the answer is simply one of economics. Women's standards (i. e. demand) adjusts according to what's available (i. e. supply). IF ten foot tall men, with trillion dollar salaries, and 20 pack abs existed, women would go for them, but their focus is grounded in SOME reality- namely, they are all vying for the top 20%.

So, let's say that the 80% of men who are functionally invisible to women actually did get into great shape, could (and it's economically impossible, except in a purely communist state) make every bit as much money the top 20% of guys, and get plastic surgery to be as good looking as the top 20% of guys, women would STILL find other metrics to select a new top 20% of men to aim for- leaving 80% of men STILL invisible.

Women aren't aiming for good, which means regardless of what men do to improve themselves a majority of men will fail. Women are aiming for BETTER than the next women- their choices focus on getting more than the next woman (i. e. a "better" more impressive mate). Women are competing over the top men, meanwhile the top men are competing over the MOST women; after all, a millionaire is rare, a hot girl (despite what she may think) is not. You can find several in every grocery store, mall, gym, etc.

Lastly, the reason single men are lonelier is because women tend to have more friends, AND even the ugliest woman can regularly get laid for free (often with a guy out of their league, generally)- men do not have this luxury.

Lookingforthetruth · Answer

Men do it to themselves. This video explains it perfectly.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/oGDCOEa23Z0

Cliffs:
-In just 2 years onlyfans revenue has increase to 2.5 billion

-Men are paying more money to OF "models" and twitch girls than on themselves and their daily personal expenses like rent and food.

-Some men are giving girls that they will never talk to in person, 20k+ dollars and up just for them to give them a small amount of positive female attention

-Simping has a negative effect on dating as the attention, money and affection women receive from these simps will be morphed into preference and expectation on the men that are dating them. This in turn will lead to even good looking men that aren't CEO getting side line for not providing the cash/lifestyle she gets from simps.

-Simping is getting worse each year and for the following reasons

-Reason #1, men have low self esteem and feel that the only way to get a girl is by simping

-Reason #2, societal narrative that simping is the right thing to do if you are a male. This is further enforce as the mainstream media ban/censor any oppinion that goes against this narrative.

-Reason #3, Male brains have evolved to deliver/provide as much as they can to women. aka men are urged to simp and male brains haven't kept up with changes in dating.

-Reason #4, men are refusing to accept the harsh reality of modern dating and still hold onto the narrative that simping will pay off when it comes to dating/sex. The most subscribe blue pill channel has 11 million subs and as you move towards black pill it goes down to just under 100k.

-Reason #5, simping is easy and accessable. Men have plenty resource to simp. GDP has increased 3x over 50 years and men now have access to credit they can use on women. example, 76% of men are willing to go into debt to woo a woman.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s because men are usually involuntarily single vs women who are voluntarily single.

If a woman is single she might get some pressure from her mother/siblings. But overall she is looked at as “strong” and “independent”. She can also get a hook up easily if she needs it or be satisfied with her vibrator.

Men on the otherhand get much harsher judgment if we are long time single. We are looked at as weird, beta, “loners”, potentially “gay”, etc. Most of us can NOT get a hook up on the dime if we wanted. Why do you think some men are willing to pay money to get their needs met? I also didn’t get into how it’s us who have to put our asses on the line when it comes to dating. In most circumstances it’s on us to approach woman, ask for a date, make the first move, etc. When get rejected/heartbroken we are expected to be stoic about it where women get leeway to broadcast their emotions without losing face

I don’t think this is going to change anytime soon. But seriously ladies just have some RESPECT for men are up against. Most of you don’t have the slightest clue this is like. None whatsoever.

Qdbrown · Answer

I find that most lonely and single guys are the ones that invested too much into one relationship with a romantic partner, and lost the relationship.

Most average single guys usually like small baggage of friends and don't need a lot.

I find that women keep big social circles. They tend to respect men who are in social circles. Especially successful circles.

Women in relationships tend to force the guy to make it all about her these days. You have to put in a lot of effort. Which is great if the guy wants to.

So the worsely effected will be the guys who get dumped from long-term relationships, divorce and widower. These guys can walk around like zombies for years after being detethered.

nickaboy · Answer

Simple , single women get a lot of attention. While single men mostly get told of by women and told to stay away from them while most of the time also not really having friends. So when they finqlly find a women that is willing to talk to them. They fall madly in love and 9 out of the 10 times when they accept there feelings and tell them they get put in the friendzone not having anyone else they agree. Only to be told everything about the guys she does date and make up for his shortcomings until they Just can't take it anymore and then the ruin the bond they had and they feel worthless again

242plusInfinity · Answer

Honestly I'm not lonely because I know how to get out of my situation. I don't blame anyone for it because I learned how to get out of it in many ways. There is simple something else I'm chasing rather than women. Unfortunately I had to sacrifice one for the mean time. So I'm not lonely or unhappy. And even if I was I wouldn't know the difference anymore. Life isn't fair but it is fair enough and I'm free in America. If I was born just a little sooner I could be a slave. I've had an amazing life and the girls I've dated; I've had a blast with. I'm grateful I at least got that. I know I can rightly receive anything that I want but not without transformation. So I know one day I will put more attention on women but for now whatever comes comes. Hate break hurts like hell but it truly is better to have loved than to have never loved at all.

TDDMS · Answer

The study Courtney references is massively flawed. To begin, the sample size was 46,000 participants from 237 countries. That's too low of a sample size to say men are far lonely than women. To give a sense of it, just divide the number of participants by the world population and then ask yourself if that tiny biased percentage is accurate? Even if you do not have a background in statistics and probability. The other flaw to the study is that it specifically sought out lonely people, hence it is biased. For the study to not be biased, it would require a control group. But a better approach would be recording people's mental state on a given day in a given geography.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Who said that? It's the opposite, women wants men to stay all the time while men wants only sex and a one night stand, women do not get bored while men gets bored and starts seeking for other women...

A lot of women from all around the world wishes to get married and being loved and taken care of by men but since real men are very rare, women learned how to adapt alone but it doesn't mean that they are truly happy...

Once a woman is in a serious relationship she wishes to get marrie and that her remains by her side all the time...

Men and women were created to be together but women wants things that lasts while men wants things for a specific time than he's out and this difference between men and women caused both to be alone these days...

Valso · Answer

Because for a single woman it's enough to just open her legs in the street and in an instant she'll have a whole army of men to make her feel not that lonely anymore, whereas a man needs 2 large briefcases full of money in each hand if he wants to ever have sex (or a date, for that matter). Women made this female behavior a standard, then wonder why men no longer wanna date them. A man wants a woman who will love him for who he is, not for his money. Too bad most women are too stupid to figure that out.

Heolurt · Answer

Because single women are always surrounded by people and single guys aren't.

A females circle is always filled with people and they have guys on the back burner.

If a guy is the only single one in his circle, all his friends are going to be focusing on their SO's and not make time for him because why would they, plus the chances of him wanting to third wheel in the first place is slim.

Girls will always have a support whereas guys have to deal alone, so females will never know the feeling of truly being lonely.

hIopinionated_ · Answer

There has been studies inferring women are happier and have a long lifespan when unmarried without children.

Honestly, I could believe it because societal norms aren’t very beneficial to women, gender roles suck, and bare minimums are almost never met

Not to say it’s true. I’m not sure but I’m a natural loner. Though craving male attention, I can honestly go without and be fine with that. I like being single for the most part. I could totally use some cuddles though 🥺

Vegasrunner · Answer

Great question. in my opinion it has to do w/ support. A single woman is still going to garner attention from men as well as have her friends to talk w/. Men dont really have that because other men dont want to hear about your relationships. This is why its important for guys to keep an abundance mentality. If you're going to put everything into one girl you're going to be at the mercy of that girl.

Theo2593 · Answer

Because girls realize all the shit they can get done in a relationship and dudes just mope about not having someone to love and protect and that no one wants them. We really think girls will die without but sorry to tell u they won't. Women figured out that they don't need a man in their life to be complete it's time we figured that out too, too few of us have realized that. If u want a girl of a certain standard dude work ur way to that level, girls aren't picky thy just know what the better option and if u want to be the better option, get urself up there, still working on that myself its not easy but it can be done.

ZackBan · Answer

Because women have in the bsck of their mind the fact that they are single by choice and could easily find a guy if it gets too much.

Guys can end up completely alone trying all kinds of coping mechanisms.
Hence the term "incel" involuntary celibate

Missgingles · Answer

Because most women have more options than men. Usually when a woman is lonely its because she has options she doesn't wanna take. While when men are lonely they have no options.

JDavid25 · Answer

Women usually have friends and family to go back on when they feel lonely.. Whereas men don't have much of a supportive circle... Men generally don't have a lot of friends.. But, also because men lack somebody to genuinely be there for them.. Outside of family maybe..

finesxed_j · Answer

Maybe because of the similar saying when a husband dies the wife can live and move on were as if the wife dies the husband dies as well or husband of that nature so ig that may be kind of the case but not everyone is like that at all sometimes its reversed or sometimes its a completely dif case because your gender has nothing to do with ur loneliness

devilish-cutie · Answer

Im not sure they are but if they are its usually cause they dont have close intimate relationships with anyone while women have much closer relationships with their female friends while men dont

Anonymous · Answer

Because women aren't desperate. It's men who can't be alone so what they do is project these sayings onto women ," you're going to be old and alone. " and so on. Reality is men are constantly hounding women. Also women have raised their standards and are not settling

Majjidkhan · Answer

I don't know that thing sometimes i do ask myself this too
But i think that God is making me wait for the one that matches my personality, needs, understands me and completes my missing puzzle !
Thats why i have choosen myself to become a virgin and save myself for the one !

TroyDT · Answer

In general women have a larger support system of friends, especially after a long term relationship.

BlueScorpio · Answer

I also hear it's cause guys have a hard time keeping their friendships alive and strong. Of you're a single guy and have at least one or maybe two good friends, you won't feel as alone.

melanieeeB · Answer

I don't think this is the general case and the few who do feel that way, are probably putting a lot of unnecessary pressure onto themselves and with that making it worse

RandomGuy1030 · Answer

"YOU NEED TO DO BETTRR" its not beta males fault that the illuminati has poisoned the water the last 50 years. Lowering iq 15 points, decreasing testosterone 35%, not disciplining kids with beatings, theyre all so soft, eliminating "bullying"

SolitarySolace · Answer

Who said single men are lonelier than single women? I’m single and I ain’t lonely. I embrace being alone. I still have friends to hang out with. I don’t want to come home to some bitch after hanging out with the boys.

Avicenna · Answer

They usually don’t have had Good of a social circle

sphinx23 · Answer

I actually think the opposite. Single men are happier than single women.

Anonymous · Answer

Because single women usually get offers and propositions for sex/dating often, while men don't. Therefore single women truly don't ever get the chance to feel alone because someone is always hitting her up.

Anonymous · Answer

Single women actually aren't totally single , they still get plenty of dms , sexual advances , proposals and friend and talk requests from men. That's true for even the not so good looking girls too but single men if they are unattractive or poor nobody gives a fuck.

Subarugirl · Answer

Because they are less willing to effort into friendships that meet there emotional needs

bubblegunnn · Answer

Cuz they are 🎮 while we girls are 🎉🛍 Nah nah not true Im not that kind of girl 🎤🎵🎶 this helped me

Likes2drive · Answer

Women have more options, more men available than single women so they don’t really have to worry about being lonely since it’s a choice for them to be lonely and can get a guy very easily whenever they feel lonely

chocomilk99 · Answer

Bcoz its easier for womens to get attention  but for men they have to earn that persons attention by providing something in return

captain_voidwalker · Answer

They aren't frankly I can replace all the non sexual functions a woman performs with a dog, and all the sexual functions with pornhub. The only thing I can't do is have children but I don't want children so meh.

Rangers · Answer

Because single women have the world handing them success on a silver platter at the expense of guys, especially single guys

MrNameless · Answer

They have a smaller support system then women. Usually less friends.

lorenzomichael · Answer

I really can't answer that question. But ill say this "it doesn't matter if you're a boy or, a girl, if you are ugly with no personality you've been lonely.

slatyb · Answer

Because they don't make and keep friends as easily. Although there are plenty of lonely women.

Anonymous · Answer

Because we are stronger than they are. We don't praise toxic behavior and then wonder why it doesn't work when attracting a mate.

Andrew2128 · Answer

I've been single for over 12 years and I don't consider myself lonely at all

Twalli · Answer

Women can usually find a guy who is willing to be with her, even if it's just for sex. Guys can't find the same with girls.

maximumpower · Answer

AGAIN with the single and lonely question... Are you paying attention to the others that have been posted every week for past two months?

OnlinePeanut22 · Answer

They could be shy. They could have learning difficult or learning disability. That makes more hard to kept friends or relationships. Same with mental health issues.

Darine123 · Answer

Cuz women aren’t desperate, if he treats you bad then just dumb his ass

Anonymous · Answer

I'm happiest when I'm single. I've ended relationships because I missed it. I don't understand the concept of being lonely just because you're not in a relationship

es20490446e · Answer

Because women are more inclined to search other people when alone.

Echosoul · Answer

If a man is single nobody cares, we're just one in many. We're not in a place of dating advantage as indicated by online dating's bias.

Hardworkingguy · Answer

Maybe it's because single man do not receive as much support as women do from their own friends

Nessari29 · Answer

It's only their dicks that are lonely and not having a mother figure to do everything for them

boobliker · Answer

never been single for more than a week so don't know

Brandi555 · Answer

Because men are not dumb. They don’t talk about stuff.

Luopio27 · Answer

Women have it way essier to get love in return than men.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't believe single men are lonelier than single women. I think that is a false assumption.

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

probably because men are still expected to do the pursuing

Shy_Steve · Answer

Because Guys get less attention from Women than Women get from Men.

grega239 · Answer

Its easier for women to find someone. As for the video. Do better for what? And why?

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