What is the brutal truth about dating single mothers?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Well. The brutal truth is. Unless it was rape, a marriage where the husband cheated or got abusive so she left; and the list goes on.

She chose to lay down and have sex with who she did. If he’s a deadbeat or a man she knew wasn’t going to stick around. It’s her own fault and men who aren’t like that are repulsed by women who are.

If she’s taken accountability for her bad choices and has changed. Nobody’s perfect. But women who keep doing the same old stuff. The only people I feel bad for is the kids.

But just because a man doesn’t want to be with a single mom doesn’t mean he hates her. Some men aren’t ready for kids, don’t want kids, etc.

[Drewtate]

You aren't her first priority and shouldn't be but everything you do revolves around her kid/kids. Also if she keeping the kid's father away from kid/kids then you will get the same treatment with any kids you have if you break up. You are also expected to finacially support her kids as well.

[kylee2437]

That people can do whatever they would like with their lives. If you like someone and they have a kid, that is on you to decide if that person is worth taking on a real responsibility. And I think it’s rather dumb that people eliminate options out of their life bc they feel like someone isn’t worth giving extra attention to. To each its own.

[Berethor]

It not only about responsibility, it about raising someone else kid, bad investment.

[kylee2437]

@Berethor your outlook doesn’t need to be everyone else’s. In theory you can say anyone is a bad investment depending on their baggage

[Apple1996]

a lot of men cannot even take care of themselves let alone care about a kid and a also a woman. The men crying that they'd never date a single mother are just selfish and never worth being with in the first place even if the woman is single with no kids. It's best to avoid these men just due to their bad attitude about kids.

[Berethor]

It natural, you know what lion do to cubs that isn't his? a lion is an alpha male.

[Asker]

I understand but my point still stands. Single mothers are still able to find high value guys

[Apple1996]

@Berethor humans aren't animals. Also some animals will kill and or eat their own babies so biological babies aren't really anything special to them either lol

[Apple1996]

@Asker that is very true. My dad got with my mom even tho she had 5 kids. He never had any problems taking on raising them. Even as adults they work together and hang out on the weekends lol they have a better relationship with him then I do and I'm his bio child 😂

[Berethor]

@Apple1996 poor guy, how hard was life was for him if he taken that baggage.

[Apple1996]

@Berethor it wasn't hard for him lol like I said he is best friends with my bros

[DrPepper12]

They come with significant baggage and not just kids. They come with exes, in-laws, financial struggles, bad credit a lot of the time, you'll never be first in their life, you'll meet resistance about having your own kids possibly and a million more I can't think of

[Nikki1989]

Most men are too weak to deal with them. Most struggle to deal with themselves on a daily basis, let alone a mom with children.

[Berethor]

Single moms are low quality females alongside sluts, it's desperate males who date them.

[Asker]

Only desperate date them?

[Berethor]

Yea, at my age I was offered single moms, I was sure not excited about them.

[Asker]

At 36 a lot of women have children. If you don't want to date single mothers you are eliminating half of your dating pool.

[Berethor]

Maybe but single moms are low quality, and I don't want to compromise on them.

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot of risk involved there. It’s not impossible but it just creates for more potential problems. So if a man has an option he’s probably better off w the girl who doesn’t have kids.

[Berethor]

Yea a man with options would not go for a single mom, unless he is highly delusional.

[paledreams]

They're not my cup of tea and I'd find it awkward.

[Asker]

Why do you find it awkward?

[paledreams]

I don't want offspring in my life, I don't even have pet/s

[serious]

I don't know maybe they have a lot of emotional baggage with them and hence tough to deal with.

[Staximus]

If she didn't marry or at least live with the guy before having the baby, then she makes poor life decisions.

[smurfwrangler]

it's stupid and only total losers or retards or desperate idiots do it

[Asker]

What if the guy is a single dad? Why do they have to be total losers to date a woman that they like?

[smurfwrangler]

that might work also

[Asker]

Why is a single, non-kid guy a retard, loser or desperate if he decides to date a single mom?

[smurfwrangler]

because single moms are disaster areas

[kylee2437]

@asker because this guy had no brain capacity to understand people are allowed to like different people that aren’t his preference. And calling people losers is his only way to feel superior in a situation that he couldn’t simply handle

[smurfwrangler]

@kylee2437 no it's because they are losers

[kylee2437]

@Smurfwrangler a man that can’t accept different outlooks in life is a loser.

[smurfwrangler]

@kylee2437 nobody cares what you think

[kylee2437]

@smurfwrangler and men that have their own preferences don’t care what you think. Loser activity to convince people they’re wrong for liking who they like

[smurfwrangler]

@kylee2437 they are wrong. because they're stupid.

[kylee2437]

@smurfwrangler “everyone that doesn’t believe what I believe is stupid”I’m right, you are wrong”

[smurfwrangler]

@kylee2437 correct

[Berethor]

@smurfwrangler yea single moms tend to be trash, they are never a first choice.

[LiamJHayden]

That there is no brutal truth. Single mothers are not a monolithic group.

[Finchie40]

It’s not your kid

[jahaims]

It's leftovers for the desperate

[Asker]

Even the ones in their 20s?

[jahaims]

Yeah

[Asker]

That is a very misogynistic comment. Who's to say they can't get a good guy or someone who isn't "desperate"?

[jahaims]

I feel the same way about single parents regardless of gender. You asked for an opinion, dummy. "Who's to say they can't get a good guy or someone who isn't "desperate"?" I am the one to say, obviously. That is my opinion that you asked for.

[Anonymous]

It's an unnecessary risk.

[Anonymous]

Not worth it

[Asker]

Why is it not worth it?

[Opinion Owner]

They always crawl back to their kids's biological fathers and make peace with them