Have you ever get tired of the games people play when dating or online dating?

[CuriousHubby]

Seems like very one only wants one thing and you have to guess if they want the same thing or just wasting time.

Listen to my niece rant and she showed my wife and me some talks. Seems like all the guys say the same things or lines in all the texts!

Yes very tired of it... Guys

Can he just be honest... girls

The games are fun

It's all for attention

It shows how rare true love is!

Why can't it just be easy friends with benefits... Guys

Why can't guys be romantic... Girls

[Crimsyjo]

I'm soooo fed up of the apps. But it's so hard to know who is single or interested in you off of them too. So you really get stuck feeling like you have to keep that door open just in case the one in a million chance you find the one happens to come along *sigh*

Be so much easier if everyone was straight up. Let the players play with players. Cheats with cheats. people looking for online fun with others looking online fun... and the real genuine people find other real genuine people looking for an actual relationship.

[CuriousHubby]

Agree it's kinda dumb and just a grind in the chance you both meet the match but it happens.

There should be a place for just players party girls and drinks and highs to just hang out.

None of this manipulating and using someone who is really looking into doing what they want.

So far bumble has been the best. Putting it in the girls hands to show interest over just another few dozen random likes to choose from.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I see online how many play these games, and how people lie and manipulate to get what they want.
Those who will lie about wanting a relationship just to get laid, for example.
And it is one of the many reasons I don't want to date. Seems like I won't be able to just let my guard down and trust someone.

I'm glad I'm not in the dating scene.
It terrifies and exhausts me.

[CuriousHubby]

Same hearing the stories I'm so glad I'm not trying to date. It takes time to even want to trust someone you like after.

[Little_Bumblebee]

So true

[Anonymous]

No. I mean maybe at one time. But you get to a point where you expect it, you've made you piece with it. I don't take dating apps seriously. Because the simple reality is most women on them are not serious. To me dating apps are mainly just for entertainment. If the outside chance something materializes, cool. But I never expect it to. So I am never disappointed. And if it does, I'm always ready for her to flake. Not a big deal.

[CuriousHubby]

Well put but a lot still expect something from dating apps or honesty. Especially online which is not realistic on either side.
So many ask why they suddenly got blocked by a online friend of years... Like it's not really a friend ship... Just entertainment and attention

[Opinion Owner]

I understand that. But here's the way I look at it. I'm happy single. I'm not dying to be in a relationship. I realize there are only about 5% of women on dating apps that truly want to date or date me (probably less for me)😆. So I'm under no illusion. I don't even message women first. Which I'm sure can guess really reduces the number of matches i get. But that's fine. Cause I don't need many matches just the right ones. I think online dating would go much better if guys followed my lead. Because the women who are on it just for validation would leave (or they'd have to go on the offense). I'm OK with being ghosted. Because I have a rule, I NEVER put forth more effort towards a woman than she is willing to put forth towards me. If she's not OK with that, cool. She clearly not the woman for me.👍

[Kaamraj]

Most of the games are played by young women, just because they can. And as a result men should check out or play games back.

[CuriousHubby]

Lol and also for attention while they drag 3 guys around by Thier balls. Just to drop them for a 4th toy

[kylee2437]

Absolutely tired of it, and sick of people that think that dating solves personal problems. Personal problems are personal problems for a reason.

[CuriousHubby]

Or that they can FIX someone by dating them.

Really people need to have fixed Thier drama before dating not ass to the pile

[kylee2437]

@curiousHubby absolutely agreed. I more so blame the partner that brought their issues onto their partner in that case though. The person that wants to do the “fixing” just wants an actual relationship in the end of it all.

[CuriousHubby]

And the other usually does not want to be fixed just left alone with Thier awful habits and drama

[kylee2437]

@CuriousHubby agreed. The person that wants to fix just needs to realize that the person in need of help is the only one that has that power. Huge difference between support and enabling

[DishLady]

Online dating stinks however you slice it bc it’s too easy to be fake with each other, to make excuses, to catfish, etc.

[CuriousHubby]

So true had an ex friend who kept all the girls info he collected and just has lit them into thinking her was a different new guy who could do relate to what they liked and knew what would make them melt.

Very manipulative and awful you can never fully know who your talking to. Really a girl had an AI take over her profile and Facebook and she blew up.
She stopped it and deleted them cause her research paper was done but some how the ai got more girls on dates then boys?

[DishLady]

It’s all bad. :(

[CuriousHubby]

But some how it kinda works for some couples

[DishLady]

Very rarely compared to the % of people who partake.

[CuriousHubby]

Very true

[VIVANT]

Games are why I don’t date.

I am a very direct person and this automatically seems to create the impression in people that it’s Opposite Day.

There is miscommunication before I even know someone’s name and I just can’t stand it. I’m extremely analytical so I don’t mind people think intensely.. I don’t mind going into the weeds, I can discuss issues for hours no problem so I don’t care about guys “Thinking too much”

Rather, it’s the rethinking every simple thing to gain leverage and or, to stave off what they believe to be potential gain in leverage for me…complicating life which is already complex, just too irritating and tone draining.

In my experience, guys claim they don’t like rashes but if you are direct they are either playing games in spite of themselves or are determined to believe I’m playing games.

I really genuinely like getting to know prophetic and understanding them and I don’t care about getting anything from anyone which is apparently “suspect” 😂

I suppose if I wasn’t female, or if I wasn’t direct, or if I was bored & enjoyed playing games I’d find dating appealing but yuck. Too much drama.

never say never, just no for the time being 👍

[Nikki1989]

I have never experienced any of these so-called games people whine about.

[CuriousHubby]

Lucky you mis rhabe been easy meeting your man.

[Nikki1989]

My dating days were full of fun.

[CuriousHubby]

Mine were to for the most part. Few bad apples in there

[Crazzyyworld]

Something is wrong. It sounds like people have problems meeting and communicating and come to the internet.

[Crazzyyworld]

Girls are freak and men are gender dysphoria. So there goes

[CuriousHubby]

Lol crazy world projecting much mr trans pink

[paledreams]

Lol women want a man to do all the work, ask her out, make a move, set the date, pay the bill, provide the transport, provide the place to spend the night, on and on and on, what a sprawling list.
So I figured... single me is merrily :)

[paledreams]

So if women aren't prepared to do any legwork let alone in the era of feminism don't even make small talk with their guy, lol, how do they expect him to make a move at all lol 👄😂👄🫦 referring to talking 🗣️ ♂️ to a woman♀️

[MisterWack]

Games are fun, love playing games & having romance with my girlfriend.

[CuriousHubby]

Those are the good kind of games! This is more the bad ones!

[MisterWack]

@curioushubby Oh! Yeah “fixing them” or sex or some other reason just to date someone… Yeah not good.
I date for sex, romance, intimacy, love, heart to heart conversations, sparks, cuddles, kisses, great personality & great body. I ain’t one thing and one thing only player types, that sucks!

[Vegasrunner]

Sounds like you should view it from the perspective of what a guy deals with from women before presenting that question.

[CuriousHubby]

Good idea I'll ask it that way too !
Basically no girl is interested till she is fully interested and then she will probably ghost when another guy comes

[LiamJHayden]

No, as I do not tolerate games long enough to get tired of them.

[CuriousHubby]

So instant break up or ghost

[Anonymous]

Stop dating stop looking enjoy life 😎

[Crimsyjo]

Ahh. Easier said than done.

[Opinion Owner]

Yep...